Where are all the dominant women at?

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    #26 harddenial, Mar 12, 2017
    Further to my post above I am reminded of old "stately homes" I've visited where the guide explained that the mistress stayed chaste in her bedroom waiting for a visit from the master of the house from his bedrom when he felt like having sex. Swap the genders around and hey presto, my situation.
     
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    #27 Mistress B, Mar 12, 2017
    Perhaps I should have said "involved" rather than "hassled". Taking care of subbies can become so stressful and they can become so attached and expect way more than I am willing to give.
     
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    #28 thundar, Mar 12, 2017
    Stop hiding so much. Having you contribute more often harkens back to the days of more dominant female presence on the site
     
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    #29 frankie teardrop, Mar 13, 2017
    Wouldn't that be nice!
     
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    #30 Mistress B, Mar 14, 2017
    lol. Moderation means I have to watch what I say a little more than I used to.
     
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    #31 DoesasTold, Mar 14, 2017
    Rules is rules! lol your doing fine from what I have read Mistress B! ;)
     
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    #32 thundar, Mar 16, 2017
    "All things in moderation" is fine................being on the site often is a finer thing
     
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    #33 Mash2214, Mar 23, 2017
    Find a women that you can fall in love with and loves you. I was married 25 years before I even thought about being locked up. This lifestyle might not be for you in 5 years but if you have a mo wen you love who knows what excitement you'll have. Good Luck
     
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    #34 bnd2plz, Mar 25, 2017
    Where's the fun in being the dominant one??? Seriously! I think most women share this point of view with me. That being said, I understand how much it means to my husband to be dominated by me and that's the whole reason why I do it. Because I truly love him and respect him, I make my femdom and keyholder practices seem as true-to-life as possible for his sake.

    My advice to all men looking for a truly dominant woman... good luck! I doubt many exist. But, if you find a good woman and treat her well and build mutual respect for each other's needs then she will be more than willing to oblige your fantasies ... and maybe if she's like me, she might actually "really" start to enjoy some of the benefits of being a bossy-bitch, keyholding, conniving, domineering diva. Just be patient and don't make the mistake trying to convince her that it's all wonderful and easy being a keyholder. Believe me, it's not! You have to dress up, tease, dole out attention, be creative, go without spontaneous sexual intercourse sometimes when you want it, etc, etc, etc!

    Good luck!
    Mistress J
     
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    #35 Mistress Jules, Mar 25, 2017
    I agree that truly dominant women are a rarity. This I think is because most of the fetish information that is easily available has a tendency to have male dominant female submissive storylines. It took me until my late forties to find out that I was a true domme and I am so glad I did, I am having the time of my life.

    With male chastity there is a lot of time involved to get the best results. With most other fetishes there is not as much effort required on my part unless I wish it. I am in the truly fantastic position that it is all about me, submissive men at club etc are happy to serve me in a non sexual manner so generally I get to do what I wish, my drink is refilled, I always get a seat etc

    Male chastity is one of the most time consuming fetishes I have found so far and the most irksome as guys seem to think I am here to tease them, keep them horny etc. Thanks to @lockit I still enjoy it. The rest of the fetish world that I have found so far - I love it, adore it and cannot get enough of it - and none of it is sexual - a lot of sensuality but no guy in real life would dare speak to me the way I have been spoken to on here so no crudity which is great.

    If male chastity is the only side of being a domme that a female sees, it is not going to encourage them, they are more likely to run away at the ridiculous expectations. Much better to go to a munch and find out how special and rare a domme is and go from there.
     
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    #36 Giles_English, Mar 26, 2017
    In answer to the original question, they are out there hiding in plain site. A recent Canadian study found that nearly half of women have had dominant fantasies. The trick is to date broad minded assertive woman with whom you are compatible in other ways and introduce Femdom focused around them
     
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    #37 BrigitteBonheur, Mar 27, 2017
    Thank you very much for sharing this!
    Hearing this healed something in me regarding what a father could be like. Mine wasn't that way.
     
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    #38 BrigitteBonheur, Mar 27, 2017
    Come and find me on Fetlife (same pseudo) make sure you include a note introducing yourself
     
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    #39 Mastrovenice, Mar 27, 2017
    All good advice. Especially the idea that one has to develop an online personality. This is your launching pad and must be tended. Also try to participate in discussions as much as you can. Interesting people attract interesting people.

    Finally: learn how to cook. It may not help you find a Domme but it might keep one you find interested.
     
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