When Does The Frustration Calm Down?

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    I’ve been locked for a month now, and it’s driving me absolutely mad! Does the frustration ever calm?
     
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    It depends on the person and their circumstances. I would expect that most people would accept things within 2 weeks or so, but if you're constantly in sexually stimulating circumstances, it could take longer. If someone is actively trying to keep you frustrated, the answer could theoretically be never though I'm not sure that is realistic.
     
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    Welcome lockedtight. I guess its different for everyone. Was this your idea? Is there a projected window of time? No idea? Permanent until further notice? Or permanent as in forever?! It took a few months for me(now over 13 months). However, I am different, when I learned about chastity, I wanted it really bad, I just had to have it, so I am self locked permanently, it's better than.... So its wherever your head is in the game. Channel your frustration away by focusing on the cage, and how good it feels. Take personal time by yourself to do it. Its a mind rush once you find you are thinking more about bonding with your cage than getting out of it.
     
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    Someone is actively trying to keep me frustrated, and it's working lol.

    It was somewhat my idea, and I have no idea how long. Keyholder refuses to give me back the key. And it's driving me crazy!
     
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    You got what you asked for, congratulations.
     
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    Isnt that the idea?
     
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    Ever since I found out about chastity devices, I wanted one, and I wanted to wear it permanently. I met a lady online who decided to take me on as one of her sub males, and in doing so, she took possession of my penis, and forbid me to have any erections or cums for life without her permission. For me, the calming down was starting to take effect at about 30 days. However, like love4lock said above, I'm one of those guys who wants to be denied, and denied forever. If you want the denial, it's far easier to do without any sort of sex related to the use of my Key Holder's penis.

    Once I hit 30 days, it became easy for me to not even imagine getting out or having an orgasm even inside my cage. I kept telling myself that my penis wasn't mine any longer and belonged to Mistress, so I wasn't permitted to touch it or even look at it, except to pee. When I did try to touch for any reason, I got a hand full of steel to remind me it was no longer mine.
     
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    Like others have mentioned, I think it varies a lot based on context, interaction, and the amount of attention you get.

    I was locked once for a full month, with a keyholder who was fairly hands off, and after about 3 or 4 days I settled into my chastity and apart from the usual (morning erections, periodic feelings of frustration), it became just a part of my daily life.

    I was also locked for 10 days with another partner who was fairly relentless in her teasing and engaged very directly with me, including lots of physical interaction, servicing her, and verbal teasing and denial. Those ten days were a nightmare, pretty much start to finish. By the third day I was sincerely begging her to stop.

    At least for me, it is all about the interaction, intention, and connection. Chastity is just a means to intensify all of that.
     
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    I might be wrong but as per some science if not orgasmed male hormones seems to settle down after 21 days. For me it takes almost 2 weeks before I settle down and then I become so accustomed to it that I even forget that I am wearing chastity device while doing my day to day activities.

    But in the end everyone's body is different.
     
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    It doesn't for husband, but then, if he wouldn't disobey me he wouldn't be in that predicament, now would he?
     
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    Lol I guess not
     
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    It's not linear. You get good days and bad days, and there's not really any pattern to it. Good luck...
     
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    Wouldn't he? :rolleyes:
     
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    Personally I don't think it will ever calm down for me. The longer I'm disallowed to cum the more I want to touch and cream myself. The more I beg to be milked and the less sane I am. Not to mention the fetish side of me just goes mentally wild while locked. But everyone is different!
     
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    No, he wouldn't, unless he's going out on a night I have to work. When that happens, though, he can come by the hotel on his way home and I'll unlock him or wait until I get home and I'll unlock him. Other than for security, he gets chastity only when he's been naughty, usually for looking at pornography.
     
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    Think I'd like to give the shortest answer to your question in here: in the year 2857! :p
     
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    For me I doubt it’ll ever calm down. But we both like that.

    For instance last time I was unlocked my partner let me enter her but not move or orgasm whilst she brought herself to orgasm and with her wand toy. I was immediately locked up afterwards.

    If you are teased with any sort it intensity I doubt you’ll ‘calm down’

    Initially prostate massage/ strapon sex gave me some relief but I njoy that too much now and the relief only lasts a couple of hours.

    I consider myself to be very lucky. Depends what your expectations are I suppose
     
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    Embrace it man. It becomes very enjoyable mentally and physically if you let it.
     
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    I actually can't decide if the answers here are encouraging and beautiful or terrifying. If anything I am more frustrated now, 28 days in, than I was for the first week!
     
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    Longest i went was 51 days. The thoughts that go through your head are vivid, strong and wild. I sleep naked with my kh every night. She likes me caged. I kiss her more, hold her more. We sorta watch porn together at night before i go down on her. I think at like a week or so you really start getting horny and your demeanor totally changes. They say at two months or longer you sorta settle into a routine. I look forward to that day.

    This time around i am not going to ask for release or anything sexual on my part outside of pleasing her orally. When she decides to release me, ill be ok with that. But honestly she likes the caged me sooo much more
     
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    I feel at times there is a great deal of frustration but at other times there is nothing. I personally feel that your body has natural biorhythms that you go through monthly and that iss what causes the frustration. It could also be caused by teasing from KH or self in thinking or looking at porn or enticing images or words.

    Personally, I get frustrated early on in the cage like right after sex but then I am good until the next unloc which at this moment has been no longer than 2 weeks. Last week my wife massages my prostate and all parts and then we placed the cage back on and I have not been frustrated at all.

    Everyone is different which is why this is such a fun fetish. Everyone responds differently.
     
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    I don't think I'd ever expect the frustration to subside.
     
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