An ex-girlfriend with whom I have a NON-SEXUAL relationship and with whom we only maintain a relationship of submissive in chastity and she as KH. Asked me yesterday ... "what will happen when a lot is little for me?" I did not know what to answer. She asked me to think about it. Because the day will come that she wants more and more my frustration and I must be prepared and available for her whims or end now the relationship. When we started the relationship she kept me caged for a couple of days, then a week ... then 2 weeks and the maximum was 20 days. For me it will be crucial days in which I should decide to end the relationship or give her TOTAL control.
"total control"can mean many things.does that include your bank account? if you aren't living together I would say no way.
If that includes your bank account then say NO WAY whatever the relationship and whether you are living together or not. To agree to that is .... well its just plain stupid.