I like it. That I get to eat it doesnt in any way put me in charge. It just means that we're having fun. That Wonderful will occasionally top me in various ways doesnt mean that she's a Domme, but she does have dominant tnedancies here and there, just as I have submissive ones - here and there. My point is that unlike Vinnie's assertion that Sub's must never 'be in charge' I tend to think that it's ok to just have fun, and to do what you like, without it having to 'mean' things.