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  1. buildup
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    Was just receiving a brief edging session and my wife suddenly asked me if I wanted to come. Normally, I would say Yes immediately as I would find it very, very difficult to resist. However, this time I said it's up to you and she said OK that's it and stopped (no orgasm).

    A bit later, I couldn't resist asking her if I said the right thing when I said it's up to you. She replied yes because I want you to (basically) do things for me quickly

    This reminded me of all the times when I've been in training and I've been offered the chance to orgasm and took it . It's been followed by her accusing me of winning "You win you, you always win". Despite me saying back "But you said I could". Again she would just accuse me of winning.

    So it seems this time I said the right thing "it's up to you". Just to add it was my wife who initiated chastity a few years ago

    Has anyone else experienced something similar?
     
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    I think you will find most of us on here have no choice in the matter. In my case. It is her toy to do as she wants with it.
     
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    I wish I could actually see the look on my own face when she asks me. Maybe it’s because I honestly don’t know the answer at the time.

    All sorts of emotions and needs are present. Physically of course I want to finish, but I also don’t want the ride to end. I want my needs met, but I want her wishes followed. I think she gets a kick out of my confusion lol. In the end it’s just a question, and my response probably has little to do with the outcome.
     
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    My wife doesn't ask. She just says no, except a couple of times a year she demands that I make her wet.
     
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    What my whife hate is me arguing for whatever is the reason. So no complain of any kind, she says, you don't reply, argue or whatever. She gaves what she wants and you deal with. You may feed up her.
     
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    Pretty new to serious chastity.... am hopeful that my own wife gets to the stage the she edges me and asks me the question... if I say “It’s up to you”... then obviously given that I am trying to experiment on improving my behavior by avoiding the Post-Cum dip... I would hope she too would say “ok.. no cum for you this time..” or such like... that to me would be a massive sign that we are BOTH singing from the same song sheet! (we ARE getting there but it’s difficult given our relationship history!)
     
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    Yes , we have had similar situations. She sometimes asks me if I want to cum , but its more a tease. She sometimes takes the cage off , but other times doesn't. The fact that she does both adds to the whole experience for both of us. She has obviously been satisfied by one way or another ! and she knows that if I am left locked up I will think about her a lot more. She likes that !
     
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    Most of the time I ask my Wife(KH) if she wants me to cum. 95% of the time she tells me no and makes me put my cage back on. Once in awhile she asks me if I want to cum. If I say yes, She tells me to beg for it, I do and...It's back in the cage without a orgasm. Now I just say no to a orgasm...She laughs at me for saying no and locks me back up... A few times, while tied to the bed, rock hard. She has told me to cum and I do. Only has happened a few times, but she love it when it happens. Then, she leaves the room and lets me lay there, still tied to think about what she has just done to me...
     
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    Perfect. What kind of men are we anyway?
     
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    I'll have to ask my Wife(KH) and get back to you...:lockkey::confused:
     
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    My wife asked me this one time and when I said it was up to her she said she wanted to know what I wanted not what I thought she wanted and then she could deny me or allow me to cum on her terms, but at least she would know what I wanted.
     
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