What part do you find most satisfying as a keyholder/keyholdee?

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  1. Mistress Sabine St. Jack
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    In your experience and opinion, what are the most important satisfactions and dissatisfactions connected with being a keyholder/keyholdee*? What part of it do you find most satisfying? What is the most challenging aspect to holding someone's chastity keys/giving your keys away to someone?

    *I use the term keyholdee to reference those who give their keys away to someone else for safe keeping.
     
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    I find locking men up and controlling their cock to satisfy a longing that is not attainable in any other circumstance. To take control of one’s sex is difficult. A man’s cock is his most prized possession, to take away his access to that possession must be met with a stern yet measured hand. When a sub engages in chastity play with me, a relationship is formed. That relationship is mutually beneficial- the control, the tease/denial and the D/s dynamic which is inherently built into keyholding is what I love and crave.

    Reflecting on my sexual history, I can recall countless relationships I had with men and women that revolved around power exchange, domination and female-led interactions. When I first explored my sexuality and relationships I didn’t understand I was gravitating towards partners I would now consider to be submissive. The satisfaction I get from being a professional keyholder is the culmination of my past and present desires. It satisfies a part of my sexuality that I’ve been exploring for a very long time.
     
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    I find having her/my cock and orgasms contoled by my wife 100% is an amazing experience
     
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    As a keyholdee, peace.

    I don't have to struggle with the concept of being a submissive, I am submissive.
     
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    I agree with you Mistress Sabine -- having my key held by Mistress is an integral part of our relationship dynamic.

    The cage is a physical representation of our D/s relationship and my devotion to Mistress as her sex slave. And the key is a symbol of her dominance of me and her right to use me solely for her pleasure.

    The cage is often compared to a wedding ring -- a symbol of commitment and devotion. But of course the cage and key go further, not just symbolizing but actively contributing to dominance and submission in our relationship.
     
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    The most satisfying part of Chastity is the Freedom it gives me.

    I am convinced that my Masterbation was an addiction. I would crave the endorphin rush I would get. But I was hiding it. I would constantly be obsessed about when I could jack off, where I could do it, worry about when everyone will fall asleep so I could do it and how many hours could I watch porn and play with myself and still get enough sleep.

    That changed when I gave my Wife control. I still wanted to masterbate but I could not without permission. I stopped worrying about when, where and how long I could do it. It was completely taken away from me. It stopped my whole thought process cold and threw it away. I then realized how much of my day/life I was worrying about touching myself. How much time I WASTED on my selfish pleasure seeking.

    That is the Freedom. The Freedom to live a life for my Family and not myself.

    The down side is I still have to fight the urge. It always present, constant and always trying to convince me. Having thoughts like "you had a hard day go for it", "you need to get a good night's sleep do it" etc. It is that constant whisper in my mind that I fight. All the time.

    Iso.
     
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    The joy of controlling his sexual activities is different. One more thing is that now he has started helping me in house chores too.
     
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    As a keyholdee sometimes chaste male I can only say that it is the mental change that the locking up has on me relieving me of my life's sexual burdens...It is by far the most surprising and wonderful thing about being locked by my good wife.

    How it works I have no clue...but it seems to strengthen our relationship and my resolve to be a good loving husband. And it is in my head.

    When my wife decides that she hasnt patience for the ugly device and leaves me unlocked...I lose that resolve and have violent and extreme masturbatory fantasies...ofcourse never involving my wife.

    I havent told her about the fantasies shed think I was sick.
     
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    For my madam it is the power and control of having total control of my penis and how that affects my complete behaviour!
     
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    Having someone else control the action and earning my pleasure by obeying their wishes.
     
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    Well said My sissy.

    MistressS
     
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    “A man’s cock is his most prized possession” is a big statement. My KH has claimed full ownership of mine. ;-)
     
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    I’m both keyholder and keyholdee. My wife’s pleasure is my focus.
     
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    You're right, I should've said, "an unlocked and unowned cock..." :)
     
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    Initially I became a ''keyholdee'' as an experiment to see whether it would make me last longer in bed. My girlfriend loved having the additional power over me and used it as an opportunity to take more and more control over time. I am now her husband/ 24/7 Slave and have been kept in chastity ever since. At first it was just a bit of fun but over time I feel she has reprogrammed me from an alpha to sub. My satisfaction now is serving her.
     
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    in my opinion and thoughts on this as a keyholdee. I found it very beneficial to have someone holding my keys so I cant use my penis to cum whenever I please and retrain myself and be better in control of that aspect. Also my keyholder and our relationship is better than ever beausce I found out I tend and to worship others so put there needs and wishes over mine which I find great pleasure doing when they dont know its happening or just doing the little things to get a smile or something simple. Also being in chastity has helped me focus more on being feminine and loving myself more about it.!!! But giving my key to someone was very rough and challenging at first but it's fine now once you get use to it also having an emergency key kinda eases my mind aswell. just a few of my thoughts on this subject.
     
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    the most enjoyable thing locking his penis is how much fast he learned to pay attention to my needs. he is much more polite, gentle, ready to understand my needs even before i tell him! And furthermore since his penis is locked i haven't need anymore to be pressure to have sex! ​
     
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    No pressure is a wonderful change, i'm sure. that way you can decide on sex when it suits you. A great way to reinforce his new status, as well as your own.
     
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    hubby is sex free since several years, but honestly never was great lover... so do not see anymore his hard little penis was a great thing
     
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    I enjoy that I own him, he doesn't get to have pleasure unless I allow it. A good reinforcement of my dominance in his life, he knows the only pleasure he can get is mine to give. That feels empowering and exiting, I like that I have that power.
    I also appreciate that with his submission comes his will to do things for me, and the room for me to make more decisions about our life together. He told me that it exites him that I rule the finances and the bedroom, he enjoys giving me the power to run our mutual lives. I enjoy feeling like a queen because of that.
    I will definitely not go back to vanilla.
     
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    I agreed so often with you @borbulls1961 though I think the fight with extreme porn fantasies is dwindling. My fantasy only involves pleasing her
     
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    I enjoy the opposite. When she wants to have the key and play lock up, I say no. Your right, her frustration is fun.
     
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