What made you become a sub or a mistress

i have had thoughts of bondage from a young age and in went to a Pro Domme for the first time. She dressed me jup in panties and stocking and flogged me, performed CBT and basically showed me a different world. i have seen a few different Dommes over the years, most Professional but i did serve a Lifestyle Domme as well. i am clearly a submissive and would love the opportunity to be in a FLR. Unfortunately is is not in the cards at this time.

 

I've always been drawn to female domination. It is just difficult to find women who are into it. My wife wasn't originally but she seems to enjoy it now. It was a very long road though getting to this point.

 

I'm 100% with MeanBitch. "Sitting to pee like a bitch" is just a natural part pf being a sissy and doing as I am directed. I'm one who needs the control and direction of a strong woman. It took me several years to come to that realization fully, but, since then, I am all in!

 

i think i was born this way as well, i wore women's cloths at a young age then stopped.
many years later i met my partner now Mistress and found i just felt subservient to her.
I only feel happy pleasing her.
I eventually realized i am a sissy submissive.

 

Just reading that is exciting.

 

very well said Ma'am

 

I’ve always had submissive thoughts from before I started masturbating.

 

I didn’t understand that I was a submissive male until I discovered chastity 5 years ago but now realize that’s how I’ve been my entire life. I was always more drawn to femdom and I always sought tall stronger women for girlfriends I just never understood what it all meant for me until I found this community. When I discovered chastity it just seemed so right, far beyond just a kink, like going home.
Ironically on the flip side my wife has always been a leader but not necessarily dominant. Her inner domme didn’t come out until she understood what me being submissive meant and then our relationship dynamic slowly started to evolve over the last 5 years. Now we have established positions in our relationship and she wouldn’t have it any other way. She initiates all of our sex the way she wants it to happen. This took a lot of pressure off of me because I always felt I was bad at initiating sex and now it makes sense.

We both discovered so much more about ourselves on this adventure and I know neither of us would want to go back to how things were before. Even though there was nothing wrong with our relationship before but as I said, this just feels so right to us both.

 

Great post @Wonderwomanssub. Much of it would apply to me, although I was very alpha when I was younger and still am in public. I wonder now whether I was over-compensating or whether I've just changed as I got older.

 

As long as I can remember, I was attracted to confident Females thankfully I found a Woman that thought I was worthy & we remain happily married to this day

 

As far back as I remember I’ve put others before myself. Early in my dating (teen) years I found out that I was a premature ejaculator. I started pleasuring my dates first.

This continued into my marriage of putting her sexual needs before mine. However, my drive was higher than the Mrs. and for several years my snide remarks didn’t help.

Early in the marriage, she tied me to the bed. It just felt right, but I was ashamed to admit it. A few years passed and the movie “Exit to Eden” came out. Big turn on for me, but still too ashamed to admit it.

Finally after several years of marriage including 6 years of opioid induced celibacy, everything came back. Now in my late 50s, I came clean with everything. Maybe I’m in my second childhood. Since Feb 2019, I’ve got my nipples pierced, PA, and chastity.

Thankfully @LadyL is happy with everything. Until I confessed everything to her, she had no idea.

 

I have always been the dominant one that is Until I met my wife. After what I thought it was a gag gift (a cheep chastity cage)I am now I’m lock up 24/7 and living in a FLR. In the past few months she has takin charge in every facet of my life and omg do I love it! I am so So happy I found her and that she Brought out a submissive side I never knew I had.

 

About age 13 or 14 I discovered punk rock, it kind of fit in with that and a magazine called “Ms Sadie Stern’s Monthly, a femdom magazine I fell in love with. I’ve never had a problem finding willing partners to use and abuse me.....

 

My wife was always pretty dominant in our relationship. The chastity thing was just an addition as we got more into FLR. It was pretty natural because even before we ever considered it, sex was mostly for her and I didn't spend much time masturbating because I knew she didn't want me to. She started enjoying teasing me more though once I got into chastity, and it really adds that extra stimulation to my service.

As for how I got into this submissive lifestyle, I don't know. I've always been kind of passive, but I don't know if I would do this for anybody else. I've been in other relationships before this and I never had the inclination to do this kind of thing. I just love my wife and want to serve her and make her life easier. I've felt that way since early in our relationship. I'm just lucky that she was perfectly willing to accept my desired relationship, and I'd say she even relishes in it. I know a lot of women wouldn't.