I know there are many members here who have lived long lives of bdsm, partner swapping, 3somes and a whole other variety of kinks. For some the path isn't much of a stretch and has no negative effects on their overall relationship. However for many other their relationships started out as vanilla and were vanilla for quite some time. It seems like FLR and chastity tends to create quite an opening to the idea of cuckolding and sounds as though a surprising number of couples go through with trying it. It's impossible to gauge how many relationships cuckolding has ruined due to jealousy and unpreparedness particularly on the male's part I would assume. Even with some relationship failures there are many of you out there whose lives and relationships have been enhanced with the dynamic that cuckolding can create. So my question is more focused towards the vanilla couples that progressed to cuckolding. How did your relationships start before chastity, cuckolding, FLR etc was remotely even a thought? Like chastity, it seems that its typically the male that initiates the first move towards cuckolding. And then how did your relationship proceed once you generally knew the direction you were both headed? I've read several articles, not exactly sure sure of the legitimacy of the research but the research indicated that women are biologically set to lose sexual interest in their partners between 1 to 4 years in monogamous relationships. I googled "is my wife bored" & "signs of relationship problems" and the first whole page of Google pulled up the whole monogamy and boredom thing I just mentioned. That being said there are obviously countless couples that have been together for decades and are still very happy together. I've been with my mistress for 13 years and 7 of those married. I love her more than ever and I know without a doubt she feels the same towards me. Our sex lives have been quite different over the last 4 years but that is due to a multitude of good and bad events that have consumed our time and energy. I asked for chastity for many reasons but my main goal was to pamper my mistress and treat her the queen that she is. Also to live in a FLR marriage, Female dominance and control feels right to me and I'm much more content with her in charge. If my mistress wanted to have a sexual relationship with another man I feel like I'm okay with that at this point in our lives. I'm secure in our relationship that I don't feel that it would damage what we've created. I am not a jealous person, I like when my mistress is hit on and when other men look at her and I can tell they want her. She is very beautiful with a classic pinup girl body. She knows how to dress and people notice her. Although the dynamic of a cuckold relationship is arousing to me I would not say I'm an aspiring cuck. My goal isn't to push my wife into that lifestyle for my own satisfaction or fantasy but to let her know I would welcome it if she chose to bring another partner to the bedroom if she felt she needed it to feel satisfied in life. I would like to be included in the ongoings in the bedroom but it would be her choice. Mistress still has another 18 months of graduate school and I have no plans to mention anything to her about this until after she's done with school and only if it seems appropriate. As I mentioned before there are enough reasons that are outside our control that contribute to our lack of sex or for that matter her lack of wanting pleasure from me on a regular basis. Maybe once she graduates and that stress is relieved our sex lives might go a completely different direction. I may be internalizing her lack of wanting sexual attention from me and making it into something bigger, I've been known to do that. Overall I'm just curious how many couples living cuckold relationships started out like mine where things were pretty much vanilla and escalated to where you are now? Why did cuckolding feel right when it did?