I sorry to ask but my wife and I are new to chastity and I keep seeing posts and threads related to vanilla life so what does it mean again we are just learning
Don’t be sorry to ask, it’s a good question. This is my definition, others may differ… Vanilla = typical sexual relationship between a pair of consenting adults, of the type that wouldn’t raise any eyebrows down at the Piggly Wiggly. I almost qualified it as a typical heterosexual relationship, but there are plenty of vanilla gay and lesbian couples too. Connotations of being plain, boring, flavorless, bourgeois. Although FWIW, I quite like vanilla as a flavor, and I find the scent of an open bottle of vanilla somewhat intoxicating.
FYI you may also hear the term French Vanilla. Basically anything that isn’t vanilla is “abnormal” or “unusual” aka kinky. French Vanilla is a term usually used to refer to someone who we don’t consider kinky but gets “wild” from time to time but doing really light kink. Hence it’s still Vanilla but so tiny it’s just a step outside the regular flavor, hence the French. Examples might be blindfolding and/or tying a partner with a silk scarf or neck ties. Or some real innocent role play, or playing with toys they may have got at a bachelorette party.
I always think of the everday life bit as vanilla! The chastity and orgasm denial and the other things are what sets it apart. I know a few people probably "live the lifestyle" of full FLR 24/7, 365 but most of us have the normal humdrum (and enjoyable) bit of life to do. 24/7 chastity is still part of it but it is just "normal" to us. And our little secret that enables the "fun" to be part of our "vanilla" life. Does that make sense?
Yea and the English language is such a horrible mess. We have words with multiple meanings, words spelled multiple ways And so many ways to confuse each other. But every now and then we have beauty and clarity. So glad you liked my post!
quite simply "vanilla" equals "plain". It very likely originated from the fact that the default flavour for ice cream is vanilla.
I never heard the term before but that’s about where our relationship is- but I am working to change that