What is chastity

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    Hi all here I will record my journey through chastiy. In brief my wife and I have dabbled in chastiy for over 2 years and I have been chastate for periods from one week to three months. I think during that time it was a game for me. Afer a break of six months we have agreed that I need to be locked away again. This time though, she wanted to make ALL the rules and if I agreed she would lock me up on her terms. So on 28 Nov she gave me one last orgasm and locked the cage on 1 December. A week later we discussed the discomfort of the CB3000 and I said that if this was to be a long term thing, and by the I meant longer than 6 months, it may be better that I look at a full belt. She asked to have a look at what I meant. I showed some of the full steel belts and we discussed the fact that they covered my testicles as well, I would have zero access to any part of my eroginous zone. She was concerned that steel may be extreme, but like the permance of it. Cost was also a huge issue. The next mornig she woke up and said I should order one since nine months may be to short but 12 to 18 months a stronger possibility. Im shocked. The deed has been done and she assisted with the measurements and we now wait.

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    And we wait with you. Best of luck on your journey..
     
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    going from plastic to a belt and from a week to neigh on two years is a feck of a jump.
    While I don't say to run, you need to mix reality with fantasy. Long term lock up is very different to a weekend of fun... you need to work out loads of sureness and safety conditions. It can be worked out but be sensible for fecks sake.
     
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    hi icarus, thanks for that will bear that in mind
     
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    Do you travel much? Hope you don't need to go through any airport metal detectors! Sounds like a big commitment. Good luck!
     
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    Or possibly show up at the airport 2-3 hours more ahead of time to go to that little room where they then make you drop your pants. No, backing out now......you tried to sneak something onto an airplane....and you've been caught. Now they have to see if charges are warranted and required. Hope you aren't wearing panties too when this happens. Giggles.
     
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    Thank you for your responses and to answer, I never travel by air, or visit banks or casinos so do not have reason to be body searched in any way.

    Our journey started a long time ago. I think the greatest realisation I have come to is that I am a more understanding husband when kept chastate and far more sensitive to my wifes needs. V (my wife) has a far lower libido than I and whilst she enjoys sex, she enjoys her orgasms more. I have seldom if ever been able to get her to orgasm through sex alone and have over the while learnt that after she has orgasmed either orally or by using toys, sex is no longer important to her and her her orgasm denial steps in. I think she is not far different to us men in that after we have orgasmed we tend to go down hill fast and our wifes need seem less important. They should be but I for one fail her.

    During our last three month chastity period V enjoyed and experianced numerous orgasams and I enjoyed ever one of them knowing that she deserved the pleasure. From my side it was hugly erotic and at the same time stimulating to watch her open up and enjoy her own feelings and sexuality. Towards the end V was becomming more insistant in keeping me locked in the same ratio as I wanted out, however we had agreed on 100 days. Day 99 I was set free. Strangly enough I was disappointed when I orgasmed, the pent up energy seemed to melt away and the high I thought I would achieve did not materialise.

    I can best describe the state of chastity as having permanent forplay, you just dont want it to end. At 51, I have had my fair share of fun but nothing comes close to the frustration of been kept locked. Yes it is early days and yes a full belt is a commitment. Hopefully V and I can reach a level of understanding where she gets what she wants and I get what I want. To me her orgasams are far more important to me than my own. I would never tell her this.

    It is my understanding that this forum is for the purpose of recording ones own experiances, for better or worse, in fantasy or reality. I agree with most folk who say it is a huge commitment, but so is ones marriage, For however long it lasts I would like to record my experiance and in so doing my state of mind so that at times of lows or highs I can reflect back on the true purpose of been kept chastate, which for us is to grow even closer and be fully aware of what gives us each pleasure both physically and mentally.

    Time will tell.
     
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    :welcome: to the Mansion jamesbet.

    It sounds like an interesting time is ahead of you.

    I'm moving this to the Vault area, where our Journals live. :jumping0036:
     
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    sorry about the incorrect posting area Mistress Watchfull.
     
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    Looks you will be locked in a full steel belt soon. It may take some time to get used to it but then long term chastity seems to be yur future. I am curious what type of belt you are going to get.

    Hugs, maid katrin
     
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    I couldn't agree more with this part of your last post!

    ,I think the greatest realisation I have come to is that I am a more understanding husband when kept chastate and far more sensitive to my wifes needs. V (my wife) has a far lower libido than I and whilst she enjoys sex, she enjoys her orgasms more. '

    I have found the same thing. The amazing thing is the speed to which I adjusted to that. When a man realises that its about her, not him, the sex improves dramatically! I love watching my Wife orgasm, and I love making it happen! :sign0011:
     
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    I have always felt that my wife's orgasm was very important, I think I can blame that on the first girl I had sex with and I finished first. She was none to happy about that fact.
     
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    Start of week 3
    Well I seem to be settleing into this, my mind is not so fixated on my situation, dont get me wrong I do ponder on it a lot but not with that sense of urgancy. I must admit my resolve melts when I see my wife and I just want to talk about it, which I am not allowed to do. She will not entertain any form of discussion about my problems, unless medical, and she says I need to get used to it.

    I did have a lovely reward the night before last, she allowed me to bring her to an orgasm using her vibrator and then again the next morning. It is wonderfull to see the joy she achieves and the after glow. I feel so pleased with myself, at last she is enjoying herself again. She is quiet content that I be denied any form of self satisfaction and agrees I am becomming more aware of her.

    I am pleased with the way and more importantly how I am adapting,, I just hope I am fully meeting my wifes expectations, time will tell. I asked her if she had considered allowing me a release at any time in the last two weeks, her response was an implict "definatly not, why spoil a good thing". I suppose from her side she is enjoying the attention, possibly the same attention I gave her when we first went out, so basically it is no more that what I showed her way back then, So maybe she has a point, why change. On the down side I used to get sex, but now not. Fortunatly I have not reached breaking point and feel far from it, frustrated, yes, horny or the time, want sex, not yet, I am enjoying pleasing my wife and look forward to doing so again as a subsitute for my own release. This could change rapidly but for now this is where I am and enjoying the journey.

    I suppose the fixation becomes less the more busy you are, and there I need to pay a little more attention, to find the balance is sometimes a little difficult, but I keep in mind the objective and that is to get back in touch with my wifes desires and learn to rekindel and respark her sexually in time to come, and if that does not happen learn to live with what she hands me. V is not unkind but is rather a deep thinker and loyal loving person in her own way. I know that this experiance could do us both well if is observance to each others emotional and physical state is maintained. Hey I waffel on a bit, but hey this is my journal so please forgive me.

    Same time next week so untill then I greet you all well.
     
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    Hi , you seem to be in a similar situation to myself, although you sound like youve had a bit more experience, I have also gone a short time out of chastity, and have to admit, apart from the constant checking if its obviously showing under my clothes, I miss it. Im waiting for my vasectomy to heal up, and then hopefully back to it, but like you id like to up the stakes a little, not quite on the same scale as you talk about, but id like my partner/key holder to be a bit more involved, and also a little more sadistic, as it stands, my partner also has a lower libido than me, but she has said she greatly enjoys the control she has upon our sex life, when im locked up, as it take the pressure off her to please me, it also makes me far more confident, that when we cuddle and kiss, I know she hasnt got that oh god, here we go again thought running though her mind, and we can both just enjoy an affectionate embrace, with out it having any hidden agenda ( although I have to admit, the last time we did have, just a good snog after a week of chastity, it was just as arousing, as an ejaculation would have been before we entered this chastity lifestyle.
     
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    there is no better joy in my life than making Mistress cum. i really do enjoy it so much more than my own orgasm. it makes me so proud that i can bring Her such pleasure!
     
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    yes it's been 21 days of confinement :) I am learning that V (my wife and KH) is not as intense about my chastity as I am and infact does not want me constantly talking about it. She has a very low libido at this stage and hense my former frustration at our sexual relationship. Now I am learning to love her for who she is and not because I want sex. I find myself more interested in her well being and know she is the single most important person in my life.

    The sexual friction that presviously existed seems to be disapating as I get used to what it is that she wants. She was conducive to sexual activity twice this last week which by her standards is a huge step forward and an even greater thrill for me. Her orgasms have become a substitute for my own. It is remarkable that I accepted them and allowed her to slip into a peacefull slumber afterwards without wanting my own gratification.

    I do not feel the sense of urgancy to have sex and at this stage and wonder how long I will remain so dedicated, or if I will have a choice in the matter when beaking point is reached. I am fully satisfied knowing V is pleasured and pleased with the situation. She indicated that this is good for her and that I should not expect any yielding from her side any time soon.

    I wonder how long a man can go before that breaking point is reached. As V put it, why would she spoil a good thing, Well the true test will be when I do reach that point if she will have the resolve to have her way. At this stage it is a game, and a most enjoyable one at that. Learning restraint :) and learning to love again.

    Well my new belt has not arrived, seems postal services are chocked this time of the year :(. V says that the current CB3000 is only for test purposes and I should not expect an orgasm for at least a year. I know she is joking, I hope. maybe she is adding a little "excitement" into the games. I said to her she will want cock long before a year is out and asked her what she would do, her response was to wait and see. Well we will just have to wait and see.

    So far a lovely experiance and highly recommended so far.

    See you all same time next week.
    Cheers for now, same time next week.
     
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    Start of week 5
    (V's rgasms 7 mine 1)

    Well a bit late but I hope all that read this had a reastfull and peace full Christmas.

    Well an intesteing and busy week. I had to work right up to Christmas eve but hey so do millions of folk, (smile). A truly lovely time of the year to share with family and friends.

    V has been a little up and down of late, I think the Christmas shoping for all our relatives brought it on. I think if it was me out there at the Malls I would also be a little out of sorts as well and then there is the traditional cooking feast which in its self is tireing at best. Well in that regard V is a star so I understand her mood swings.

    On the lifestyle front we had a eventfull eveining two days before Christmas. The wine, jacuzzi and music set V in the mood. This was a scheduled cleaning night and I was released for that purpose. Well the evening turned out to be a tender and loving affair with me attending to her every pleasure. As things would have it bed time was everything I have dreamed of, being allowed to massage V and slowly stimulate her to multiple orgasams in succession. After she was done she allowed me to enter the forbidden zone and as i did she insisted I "up the tempo" to aid her to further orgasmic pleasure. Well after 4 weeks, this did not go so well for me and I exploded a little to soon. V did however fall in slumber wih a huge smile, as did I.

    Christmas came and went and the new steel belt arrived today and I was promptly reasigned to it and have hopefully seen the last of the ball crushig CB series. V,s first remarks were that her days of serving were over. mmmm. Well V is somewhat vanilla and it will take time for me to reach the same level of attentiveness after my orgasm. Having read the forums I do agree that at this stage this is something I want and hopefully it will fit into V's sex life schedule. I do belive that chastity whilst erotic for the chatate is of somewhat lessor importance to a vanilla partner untill they see change and have the desire to engage in activity. For me, and possibly othe,r who are entering this life style and attain enjoyment out of it, is to balance ones own desires with that of their spouce. The last thing I want is for V to give up on it. Our sex life was shot to hell and her acceptance of the keys even if she is a trifle disinterested at this stage, gives me pleasure so I will temper myself in the vain hope she will enjoy her new found "power"

    On a mechanical side the full belt seems comfortable and is totally "sexy" yet, denys me any chance of self stimulation to any part of my genitals, and that's V likes, or so it would seem. Times ahead will depend upon me gettig used to the belt and not in any way "pestering" V. As she put it " get used to it". On reflection I was only getting sex once a week at best so and extension of a few weeks should pose little difficulty, lol easily said than done, lol Lets see. She did mention a possible release on her birthday on 13 Jan or our wedding aniversary in April, if I was good indicating to her nether regions, smile.

    Bye for now untill net week. Please enjoy your New Years and please dont drink and drive.
     
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    Well it has been two weeks since my last diary and a lot has happened. The steel belt arrived from DD Machinery which turned out to be a waste of time. I feel it fair to give the manufacturer the opportunity to respond to me before posting a review based on my assessment over a two week period.

    Well aside from the downer regarding the new belt, my good lady is beginning to enjoy her new found "power" heck she even had me repaint the lounge and I see she has many other home improvement tasks lined up. From my side I am getting used to not having sex and am really enjoying the journey thus far. We really do seem to be reaching an understanding of what we both want in our relationship. I know she hates being bothered with pressure relating to my sexual needs and as we go on with this my needs in this regard are really becomming unimportant to her. The other evening during her play time she comented that my equipment really did not do it for her and she could not visualise allowing me to ride her anytime soon as her vibrator was doing an excellent job. She has said that on her birthday she will reconsider that since it will only have been two weeks since my last orgasm. This is something to lookforward to although I really do enjoy the tease, but who knows.

    The week before last V was not into anything, being her time of the month, but this last week she enjoyed a couple of fun times and really does enjoy them which makes me feel really good. Bearing in mind that V has a very low libido, these occasions are a huge leap for her. Hopefully she will start seeing the changes that I feel within myself and get comfortable with the whole concept that it really makes me happy to see her enjoying herself and getting things in life which make her happy.

    Well as I said its V birthday on the 13 and we have planned a long weekend away at a lovely penthouse on the Coast. About 18 mmonths ago we had a "dirty" weekend where she lay back and allowed me to pleasure her for two full days. During this time I was locked up and served her hand and foot and brought her to 16 orgasams, each of which seemed stronger than the last, she was not allowed to say no and my sole purpose was to ensure that she was fully taken care of. V has said that I could organise another weekend as her birthday treat, and because I painted the lounge. So having said that we / I lookforward to some fun times. I asked her this morning if there was a limit as to the number of orgasasms over the 4 nights that we will be away, She smiled and said that since this whole chastity thing was being treated as an experiment and she enjoyed 16 orgasms in two days she would simply let me treat her and see what happened. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMM and what of me I asked, and she responded, "I thought this was about me". Well indeed it is about her and if I am true to what I have been saying I should derive my pleasure out of treating V and my orgasm should fade into insignificance and be replaced by her sexual pleasure she gets. Lets see how it goes.

    This whole idea of chasity is in my mind a bonding process. I am enjoying spooning in bed knowing that sex for me is no longer my call. V I can feel enjoys having the control but we will see how her resolve goes, and for that matter mine. The other night out of her own she climed naked into our jacuzzi, something she has never done of her own accord. It was so lovely being with her naked in such a relaxed enviroment, I was not invited to touch her and the fact that I did not try went a long way to reassure V of my commitment to her sexual wishes. Later she asked me to pleasure her and fell into a deep sleep. I was of course raging but really like the fact that she was pleasured.

    Am I mad? I sometimes wonder.

    Anyhow thats it for now.
     
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    Hey, I really enjoy reading your journal! I'm surprised at how easy you describe dealing with not being able to orgasm. Maybe it's because I'm way younger, but I get absolutely crazy after more than two weeks.
    It's really too bad the belt does not answer your expectations...

    That sounds wonderful!

    So true. And still I feel the constant wish for it to end...
     
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