What does it mean to "Break him"

It's your game... What do you want it to mean?
Some people might think that it means "Break the habit of masturbation" by installing a chastity device.
Some people might think that (like a horse) you break his spirit so that he knows that this is the new life that he is leading.
Some people might think that it means to get him to completely abandon putting himself first. He would then place you and your needs first.
Some people might think that it simply means physical punishment until he folds, cries, and does what you tell him even if he wouldn't before.

I think Queen wrote a song about this... Another one bites the dust!
So... What do you want it to mean?

 

Or that he stops asking for the cage to be removed and given pleasure and just accepts that he has no part in such decisions and just accepts that it may or may not be removed today, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year or whenever regardless of his desires.

 

I think this is probably the most common answer you will find to your question. This was the case for us. Took about 9 months to "break" me to where I didn't argue or negotiate with my wife about wanting to be unlocked anymore.

Doesn't mean the desire to be free isn't still there sometimes, just that my will to want to do anything about it has faded.

 

For me it means that my wife broke my daily masturbation habit and need for a few orgasms ever week. She basically broke me of expecting to orgasm whenever I wanted to. Got me to go 2-3 months without an orgasms and not ask her for one. When we were into BDSM for the last few decades, most dommes were focused on breaking the male's ego and not his self worth. Most of that stuff you see in porn where the guy feels worthless and only worthy of serving his Mistress, does not happen much in real life. I have run across people like that at the BDSM conventions and clubs but they are the exception and not the rule. Most into BDSM do not join any clubs or go to BDSM conventions.

 

My understanding is that breaking refers to the scenario where the subjects keyholder chooses to keep him locked for a period which extends beyond his comfort zone. Therefore providing a change in dynamic related the keyholders control of the situation.
His acceptance of that loss of control means he has been "broken".

 

In my view, its when a sub mentally surrenders any input into the unlocking/locking decision making of his/her device, leaving it totally in the hands of Mistress.

 

I am sure every situation is different. For my wife it meant "breaking me" of all my bad habits. I used to argue with her. I would forget things, not call her when I should, not clean up after myself and just not 'listen'. She wanted to break me of those behaviors. Chastity is used as both a punishment and behavior modification. She gets compliance because I want my cage off and she eliminates my ability to masturbate. But that's only chastity. It doesn't speak to the other aspects of our relationship. What she really desires is to get me more in line with her way of thinking and doing things. That is kind of the cornerstone of our FLR agreement. And honestly, I really do try my best to please her and do things her way, but I don't always do that. She let's me know it.

So, how my wife 'breaks' me is to severely lecture me in a very ritualistic way. No matter if it is a dish I cleaned poorly or an instruction I failed to successfully complete, my wife sends me to my chair. It's just this small chair in the living room. I kind of look silly sitting in it, which is clearly part of her ritual play. When we drafted our FLR agreement, we discussed punishments and she said she could not spank me or do physical stuff. However, she would have no issue with verbal lectures or humiliating me.

Her lectures are 'immediate' and quite long no matter how small the offense. There is a lot of finger pointing and talk of how 'disappointing' I am. I am made to repeat things to her over and over at her command. She is extremely stern in her language and even though she might be a small woman, what's coming out of her mouth is most certainly to be taken seriously. Which I do. When she is done, I get corner time until she comes back over and gives me another small lecture about the lecture I just got. It's very, very humbling and humiliating to go through this. Trust me. For my wife, it is exhilarating. When she is done, it's all hugs and happiness.

The way she re-inforces all of this is by constantly reminding me of our agreement. "Who's the boss" or "who is the decision maker around here"? I get that at least once a day. I have many chores I am required to do (which I actually don't mind doing at all). When I do them well, she is really very sweet to me and so loving. It's awesome. But even small mistakes, like forgetting to put the cleaning supplies back in the right manner, is met with immediate criticism and a chair lecture. I realize that probably seems severe but this is how she breaks me. She doesn't let me get a pass on anything. Nothing.

Just a few weeks ago, we were having a great day and getting ready to meet friends for dinner and I left the damned bathroom seat up (pet peeve of hers). My wife called our friends and announced we were going to be an hour late - an hour. She pointed me over to that chair and lectured the living hell out of me on bathroom etiquette for 45 minutes. I got 15 minutes corner time after that. Once we were done, everything went back to normal. We had a great dinner and I was very well behaved lol.

 

It really depends. When i met my wife i already had a submissive side but it was all fantasy and soft. After telling her about my kinks, She took charge and broke me in the sense that i now look forward doing things i would never though i would. I used to not enjoy giving oral to women. Now i beg her to let me give her oral. She now has me cleaning the house, doing all the dishes, vacuuming while she goes to the gym or to meet her friends. Similarly she made me realize i have a small penis whereas i used to think it was above average. In that way, she broke me also. I know i cant please her with my penis, only by giving her oral.
I also used to be very proud, cocky and would always want to have the last word. Now, whenever she wants it, if we are having a discussion or arguing, she will either just say "Shut up, i dont want to hear your opinion" or simply slap me and tell me to remember what my place is.

She also 'breaks' me every now and then out of the blue. If i forget to put the toilet seat down, she will say "You are not a man, dont forget it." Or when we go out and she checks if i am wearing panties..she will say that they cover my mangina very well etc...