What do you KHs do to make your man more submissive

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    Very informative and well put Donna. Getting into their heads and leveraging their needs, desires, and kinks is very powerful stuff. A lot of which I did as well with my sissy.
     
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    The blackmail is a bit questionable but I have to say in the final analysis it seems she got you all buttoned up! Dominant women like that are what all us submissive men dream about you lucky bastard!
     
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    My Mistress/Queen never uses the term blackmail - she has her insurance policy ( piccys of me in non flattering position).

    She loves the power she holds over me - she would never abuse it - I hope - I recall the time she first took photos of me in her panties - it seemed such a laugh, a game at the time ,only later did she say that they are her insurance policies to make me do what she wants them to do.

    Once o4 twice I have got into a real state about wanting to get those pictures back - we both have a little cry about the position I find myself in - she carefully and diligently tells me that providing I do as I m told ,wear what she wants me to wear ,all will be well - besides I get the feeling she has places to take me , physically and in my mind that will play well with the power exchange she has with me. Exciting and frightening at the same time.
     
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    These ‘blackmail’ situations drift disturbingly close to revenge porn. Depending upon where you live her carrying out the threat could have serious legal consequences. I am assuming your situation is more consensual than that. Good luck
     
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    You're right but My Mistress is a mature & responsible adult ( with a good job) - we'd both hate it if her insurance policy degenerated into something like revenge porn - thing is we both really really get a kick /excitement over this kind of action - it's sure, on the limits of consensual but in the limit both parties get hurt if one party does the dirty on the other - we've almost got mutually assured success /destruction

    We've got great communications - she says, I do.
     
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    She wrote on me "Alpha's Dick" with an arrow. It was just at the top of my thigh and written so I could easily read it if I looked down. It reminded me who is in control every time I looked at her mark. I felt like her territory.
     
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    seems to me that you all like to play for a little, and then go back to vanilla. No harm in that, and you all are on the same page.

    if you want to get serious, your sub will first need to submit to you. And you will need to dominate. Then move forward. Sounds obvious, but both actions are free will choices. And it doesn’t seem like either of you are there, yet. Vidit Ms Bella X youtube. she has some very good advice
     
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    I feel your issues too, I want to dom but its definitely doesnt come naturally to me and sometimes it overwhelms my head! I'm going to make a weekly plan - nothing too rigid but a loose plan and see how that goes. Great thread thanks for raising the post!
     
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    If the superiors don't mind things that make me more submissive.
    - a D/s contract
    -public humiliation Inc online
    - my genitals being referred to as something other than 'cock etc things like cockette, dicklet or clitty all make me squirm
    -feminization.... pink and frills
    - smaller cages
    - a large butt plug
    - being given orders with no choice
    - regular spankings for minor things

    I know this isn't for all but being used as a toilet receptical, my Domme uses my mouth and a funnel gag every so often just to reinforce my place.

    hope that helps x
     
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    Caning, definitely! Being told I am going to be caned and there is nothing I can do about it (of course there is the safeword, but I haven't used it yet) fills me with fear, excitement and submission. And Mistress absolutely loves caning me!
     
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    My wife is a high powered executive for a successful company. I work part-time from home. So, she tells me what to do around the house. While my dominant partner was at work, she texted me to tell me to drop everything and make the bed naked. She will often make me do chores naked. We have spoken about adding a butt plug. The plug would heighten the humiliation and therefore increase the submissiveness.
     
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    It's the little things that make up life, right? Observing and demonstrating the dynamic in even the seemingly minuscule ways can make a big difference over time.

    My speech and, indirectly, thoughts as well, are considered something that ought to reflect my submission to Madame J. This means a lot of little things that began as rules but have become ingrained as habits over time. The biggest one, IMHO, is being required to address her by her chosen title whenever reasonably possible as a demonstration of my respect and observance of me being subservient and belonging to her. Sometimes she likes to embrace a "control freak" level of micromanagement for a while (a few hours or so at a time) in which I am required to serve at her side and obey every single wish as my command. This means a whole lot of pampering and home spa types of services while also requiring me to ask and obtain permission before doing anything other than directly being at her side and following orders (obviously this gets tiring for both parties after a short while, but it's a strong reminder of who's who in our relationship).

    Being put to use as a servant for any domestic duties my Mistress doesn't desire to do herself is another subtle activity that I personally find to be a wonderful reinforcement of my status. Basically, I am responsible for everything but cooking (she enjoys making the messes and having them taken care of ever so lovingly and cheerfully by me).

    Usage of physical/tangible items: Madame J requires that I accept her choice of physical reminders of her authority and control over me. Butt plugs are AMAZING for this exact purpose thanks to their long-term wearability and discrete ability to be worn anytime and anywhere. I am often collared while at home as well. We prefer (well, I thankfully accept!) having me plugged up in public rather than keeping me in the slave collar often worn at home. We actually consider me wearing plugs to be like an "invisible collar" of sorts for me. One last example: she likes to keep me quiet and often gags me (usually ball-gagged, but any method will suffice) while going about a lot of mundane household things (like my daily chores - my Mistress doesn't accept that I'd have any questions about where clothes or laundry goes by now after 10 years, lol).

    These are just some of many rules and rituals we've incorporated over the years together.

    Any single one of these sorts of things, done with the right intent and action, can honestly be all you need! Not that combinations of them at the same time aren't appreciated and valued either :p

    Best of luck to you and yours @BKwife!

    Respectfully,
    Madame J's boo
     
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    Everyone should be as lucky as you to have such a great FLR as you do.
     
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    There's nothing like being told what to do to please her.
     
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    Just wanted to say what a beautiful world this would be if all male's submitted to Female's. I'd love to live in that world.
     
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    He's very lucky to serve you.
     
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    I self manage my cage (working on getting my wife to take over) when I'm locked, I seem to be more focused on my wife's needs/serving. When freed not so much :) I bought a fingerprint lock for the chastity key to make it easier for my wife. Used it a few times, but she worries about me needing access/ the cage breaking my penis even though I have an emergency key.
     
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    That's normal. Most women have spent a lifetime having to carefully monitor the men in their lives, both to keep themselves safe but also to keep those men happy (as society says that they should).

    It seems to take some time for most woman to come to grips with the new reality that a cage dictates (no pun intended). It takes time, but it sure does seem to happen ...
     
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    Here is a different perspective, it is not always what you can to to make him feel more submissive but observing his actions on what he does and expanding on that. I have a journal on here I started in 2016 which talks about what we have done, what worked, what failed, and the negative results of trying to hard. However, if you do have a fighter than denial may be a logical first step. Just make sure that his resistance is not "resistance" meaning that he is not trying to top from the bottom.
     
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    Read the attached "How to train a male Slave" if he's really serious about it.
     

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    Many think just because the male is in chastity and she is leading in most ways.. that would make him a slave to be subjected to torture and the relationship becomes one-sided.. the opposite is true. Every wonderful deed she does.. i return twice the favor.. treat him well, he will submit more to you.. the other day i was busy climbing up ladder to repair a leaking ceiling.. she gave me a nice warm massage on the legs.. i had a some good erection within the cage.. i was hoping she would remove it for a quick handjob like the good old days.. she ignored me.. while continued to press deep to relieve my thigh cramps.. I will reward her.. surely
     
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    what is a sissygasm?
     
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    a sissygasm is what a sissy thats locked up in a cage has and it last longer than what a man has and only a teeny bit of mess happen. some does it with a vibrate thingys and some has it when other bits of them get stroke and play with.
     
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    On-topic real life story that happened this morning.

    My Wife got up early and took a shower. She walked back into her bedroom, wrapped in a towel. I'm naked in her bed, caged with flaccid penis exposed, in the first stages of waking up. (I'm not allowed clothes in her bed).

    She immediately walks up to the edge of the bed, shoves me onto my side, and WAP WAP WAP she begins popping my ass with her hairbrush. It HURT! but I know better than to complain or move away. I quietly took my morning beating, even though I went from sleep to groggy to fully awake in moments.

    She stops beating me and straightens up, standing beside her bed. I roll onto my back. "Good morning Mistress", I say.

    She is staring down at me, with a smirk. She points at my now erect penis straining in her cage. "You will always be my submissive boy, whether you like it or not!" and spins on her heel and walks back into her bathroom.
     
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    well praps if you had got up first and maked Her a nice cup of tea She wud not have smack you.
     
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