What do you consider "long term"?

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    Long term chastity...guess that would depend on the individuals definition of chastity. Same with permanent.

    This is my thinking on the matter:

    Short term. A set period of time that both understand won’t be over a month or so, where you will remain locked or orgasm free. This period ends and any further lock ups are discussed.

    Long term. Same as short term but with understanding that lock ups and orgasm free may be much longer or up to someone else. When done it is discussed when or if it begins again.

    Permanent chastity. Wearing a device and orgasms are up to your partner. There is no end of this happening.

    I myself consider myself in permanent status, to me that doesn’t mean I never orgasm or never get out of my cage, it just means that I permanently gave up the control of either. I average about once per month, sometimes more sometimes less. I’m really the only one keeping track, she unlocks me when she feels like it.
     
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    I kind of like this definition. My longest lockup so far was my last and it was 38 days, and while that may be nothing to some people here it definitely felt quite frustrating to me toward the end of it. My current lockup has been 24 days, and I'm doing quite well. But my wife has informed me that when we travel in a couple weeks I will be unlocked that morning (because it's not practical or wise to be in chastity where we're going) and then locked back up immediately when we return. Assuming I have the will power to obey her and not sneak into the bathroom for a quick wank, this has the potential to be the longest I will have been chaste by a wide margin.
     
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    Every moment after the chastity device locks.... :)
     
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    Everyone has their own definitions and nine are right and wrong.

    To a beginner a day can be long. Even a few hours can be rough if you’re getting a new device adjusted.

    As you gain experience then a week, a month then a year or permanent become long.

    Personally I consider anything over a month a decent amount of time for anyone but those who do years at a time.

    Several months can be challenging. And a year is a goal for many that few achieve. Beyond that, we’re talking really long.

    But that’s my opinion. Others have given other good definitions and I agree with some of their points and nit others.
     
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    It really depends on what you're seeking and what you're measuring. Long term erection control is different that long term orgasm denial -- the latter allows for teasing and edging and denial, while the former doesn't. Two to three weeks can be a long time for erection control -- my personal record is around eight weeks -- while three or more months of orgasm denial is not difficult to achieve.
     
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    In my books, a long term starts somewhere around two to three months.
     
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    Wow, I don’t know how you guys do it.

    Being new to this we have slowly gotten me to 5 days now and I’m going completely crazy at times With this thing on.

    Anyone have tips for better nights sleep for a new guy? That seems to be a different challenge all in itself.
     
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    Slowly is a good way. For a better nights sleep try getting up earlier. You should find you will be able to do things with renewed vigour and need less sleep when chaste. It's important to go to bed tired. Because you are new to this it's perfectly natural you will find this difficult at times; but with more training it'll become more tolerable. Try to stay focused and keep busy
     
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    I am caged almost all the time, but released usually twice a week.
     
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    Released for an O?
     
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    Sometimes a full one, sometimes ruined.
     
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    I've never had a ruined one
     
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    Apply some lube / vaseline / skin cream around the ring, especially underneath. If you rotate the ring it'll spread it. That not only prevents chafing and soreness, it helps to stop skin and hairs getting tugged.

    The one thing that nearly everybody finds is they wake up trying to get an erection. It's usually nature's way of stopping you wetting yourself in your sleep, so get up, have a pee, and you'll find you'll go soft while doing it and you'll be able to get back to sleep. Trying to fight it any other way won't work. After a while, your body will learn and you'll do night time erections far less often, but it's impossible to predict if or how long that will take you, we're all different.
     
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    @Tom Allen
    and others ..

    What if one was unlocked, for whatever reason, but self-masturbation is denied, and orgasms are controlled? I think you had once written about taking the device off for cycling. People fetishize the continuous hours wearing the device over the willpower and discipline to maintain self control.

    In the interest of communication, I would like to know how you’d describe three “terms” or “durations”.

    - 4 years and 10 months of orgasm control
    - 1 year and 5 months of self-masturbation denial (supervised)
    - 12 weeks of orgasm denial
    - 3 weeks of constant chastity (erection denial, stimulation denial)

    We’ve never gone beyond 88 days orgasm denial (strictly less than 3 months) and never longer than 3 weeks without removing the device. So from that perspective, we’re doing more “tease and denial” short term chastity.

    I’m ok with that definition, if that’s the accepted community term. My wife might be happy with that characterization as well.

    But we’ve been practicing orgasm control and masturbation denial long term. Masturbation happens very rarely, and only when explicitly directed and supervised. It’s been once a year for the last few years. Her Orgasm control has lasted nearly 5 years now. Our shared intent is for her control to last for the rest of our days.

    I’m no longer worried about breaking other folks’ records or competing on the internet “who’s got the longest d-enail” ;) We are both happy.

    I should describe my own experience in accepted terms. I know she’s a generous keyholder - I think short term chastity fits. We’ve just been experiencing short term chastity over several long years. ;)
     
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    My longest period locked was over 5 years, with very short 5-7 minutes cleaning periods every week. I had to prepare everything before hand for cleaning/shaving and hurry up because every minute late would be punished.
     
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    I think that's long-term chastity.
     
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    Right. Sure, I have a saddle that allows me to wear a cage, but only for short distances, like 20 or 25 miles. After that, there's too much adjusting and chafing; riding is just not enjoyable. Since I'm riding for my health, it doesn't make sense to keep fighting it. I'm certainly not going to pull over and wank at the side of the road. Plus, after 50 miles in the New England hills, when I get back, I just don't have the energy. I shower and put the cage back on when I'm washing.

    All chastity is enhanced self control.

    And that's how it should be. We all know that there are some guys who love to create some arbitrary rules, but everybody just needs to follow their own path for what they enjoy. If you're happy coming once every three months, great. If you're enjoying a week or teasing, and then an orgasm, that's great, too.
     
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    Totally agree. There are no international rules. Only private necessities.
     
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    I think that it is if your cage is locked on your for ages and ages and ages.
     
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    My Mistress keeps me locked most of the time, releases me usually twice a week for full or spoiled Os.

    Any longer would feel long term to me.
     
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    Oh, man, my gf and I are so far on the low end! Longest she ever had me go denied and locked up (with unlock for showers) was two weeks. And during that, the longest continuous lockup without any release was about four days thanks to a kitchen safe.

    That was more than a year ago!

    We've been doing lockup during weekends here and there, but most of the time I'm only locked up for one, maybe two days.
    It would be safe to say that a week would be long now. Two weeks would be long term for sure!

    Today she locked me up again and will probably unlock me later tonight. Reading this thread got me all nervous and excited though... I really want to ask to stay locked up overnight.
     
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    For me, an important ingredient for keeping the hornyness is having the chance to remember, although only every now and then,what an orgasm feels like!
    My ideal, 3 to 5 per year,with time between them no shorter than one and no longer than 6 months.
     
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    For me, long term would be a month. That is saying being let out of the cage and having an O after a month. Longest I have gone, or better yet the longest my KH has kept me O free and locked has been just over 2 weeks. I am usually let out between a week or two. This is dependent on if I have done enough to earn it in her eyes. After being let out for an O in whatever fashion she usually lets me stay free for about 12 hours, then it's back in.
     
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