What do ladies get from male chastity?

Depends on situation. But if they do it properly they can usually get whatever they want!

On the basis that they've got him by the you know where

OK it may have started out as male fantasy, but once it happens it then turns to reality.

 

Obedience?

 

A renewed spark in their love life, a renewal of communication, cuddling, holding hands, being courted again. When done correctly it helps to restore a man's priorities to where they should of been all along, keeping their wife happy

 

So many fun things. I am sure it is different I each relationship. We're married so I feel like it has a lot more effects then just sex, or no sex. It brings the chase back from when you were dating. It makes him attentive and affectionate. And it brings the bossy out in me

 

My mistress says I make her feel like a princess, special, and a priority like she's never known. She also discussed how she has grown a lot more self confidence.

Sexually speaking, I am sure it is different being with a sexually submissive man, much to adjust to, and social norms to overcome. To her it well worth not having a selfish alpha male, even if deep down she is still attracted to them.

There was a meme once on Tumblr that said it all. Something about "so I get oral any time I like, an attentive and generous lover, know with certainty that you will never cheat, and a clean house....yeah I'll lock up your penis."

 

We just do chastity because my wife is not and never will be dominant. She is a people pleaser. Yet she has become a good key holder. She does things to tease me during the day and once a week we have sex. Lately she is keeping me locked up during sex to avoid any accidents and to focus on her pleasure and not mine. So that is one thing she gets out of chastity. After sharing me with other women for 30 years, she finally does not have to share me with anyone. Due to the many threesomes we had with her girlfriend, and letting me go one on one with her friend, my wife feels that I owe her. She has tried every fetish that I indulged in, even if she did not like it. My ladies made me the focus of sex for most of the time and I got to set what we would in the bedroom, even if I was just allowed to watch. Now she decides when and what kind of sex we have.

This is the only fetish that she actually enjoys a lot. She sometimes laughs as my sexual frustration because she feel powerful. She also gets a lot attention from me that makes her feel desirable despite her age. Makes her feel good unlike her friends who seldom have sex. So absolute control over our sex life. feeling sexy and making sex all about her are the major benefits for her. She has no desire to dominate me and views chastity as something we enjoy together. My roll is giving her pleasure and attention. Her role is to deny me and keep me locked up all the time when practical. We enjoy it.

 

Pestered. ;-)

 

Seriously though, you can use it to trap a man in the courtship phase.
And if your pleasure becomes his sole pursuit then that can feel very nice.

 

My wife and I talked about this recently. She said the thing she most liked was the fact that the device made my penis irrelevant to her sexual pleasure and that my oral skills are much improved through practice. She also said that any thoughts that the device would stop ejaculations was fantasy, but it did stop proper orgasms. For 10+ years she has liked denial of male orgasms provided they were willingly given-up to her, like a tribute, she doesn't like the idea that she is forcing this to happen.

 

There are probably as many answers to this as there are contributors to the site. I can only speak from my own perspective.

Chastity is a large part, but not the totality of our sex life. I like the control aspect. I decide when, where, how and with whom we have sex. If Ian has an idea I like we go for it. We both enjoy nudity and exhibitionism, and when I see Ian caged it turns me on.

Others will say I am playing at this, as I don't lock him up for years at a time. Well, that's not for me, my life, my rules!

Jane
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Xena likes it that I can't masturbate. The chastity is part of that.

However, with that logic, it's therefore strictly only necessary when I am on my own, or she is asleep.

What she's realising now is that longer term lockup makes me more submissive and calm.

 

I like mascara snakes replies. Please note you have to have a male who is willing to be submissive and a female willing to participate. If they ignore each other the game is done. If the key holder isn't making it worthwhile for the locked I suspect at some point he will man up and quite the game.

 

I have to stand on the imaginary brakes a lot less when he's driving if he's been locked for some time.

 

Beautiful!

 

And often when I chat to people here who are long term locked they seem so much more respectful, understanding and polite.

 

Oh and you can fall asleep fully satiated in his arms after lovemaking while having your hair stroked.
Rather than laying in a wet patch with him snoring on top of and crushing you while you lay awake trying to remember when you last had an orgasm.

 

Chastity has definitely given our sex life a new spark! I get off just by teasing My submissive, hearing him moan. Chastity makes Me feel powerful over him in the bedroom.

 

Very well said ,
There's no "right or wrong way" to do this .
It's what makes you happy and comfortable is all that matters regardless of "how others do it" .

 

I believe the ladies (or KHs) can get what they want out of it once they are comfortable with the role. But I also believe all involved can only get out of it for themselves what the other(s) are willing to put in. So the key is probably finding what you can do to best motivate your partner(s) in a manner that is mutuably agreeable to you all.

And all without anyone topping from the top or bottom simply to get their own way without considering the other(s).

 

Nice

 

I have to be the most polite and respectful around then

 

I have no idea I've never communicated with you.

 

I haven't had to wash the dishes in months.