Chastity first to curb my wayward ways, and then the FLM set in and has thankfully remained our way of life now.
addendum: Recently, after having BDSM/Kink in our lives since our first pair of handcuffs in high school, chastity made its debut. VERY shortly after that came FLR. Both are fledgling adventures.
For us the chastity came first. Since then her enjoyment of the natural control/dominance has increased. Her favorite orders are "you're going to give me a massage tonight," "my nails need painted," or my personal favorite "don't you dare cum!" She also enjoys smacking my ass as she walks past, (total role reversal!) So I ordered her a pretty flogger to assist her in her new found desire! We've discussed how much we both enjoy the dominant/submissive aspects and it seems we will be trying some new things and expanding those roles. Cant wait to see where it leads!
Bondage came first. Chastity came from that, being 'cock bondage'; FLR came from that as she learnt that more things happened when she had me locked.
They both happened almost at the same time for us, I thought FLR and chastity went hand in hand and just assumed it was part of being chaste. Miss wasn’t very big on the FLR part in the beginning it kind of made her feel uncomfortable yet she would constantly remind me that she was in charge. The further along we’ve come the more natural being in charge and taking the lead has become for her. It’s an interesting and working dynamic for us, she still very much values my thoughts and opinions on matters but in the end it’s her decision and mistress gets what she wants. She gets the final word and is really good at wielding her domme power to get her way . She has me wrapped around her little finger and we have a better functioning relationship because of that.