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    #1 mommyishome, May 16, 2022
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    Calling all subs.

    Tell me: What are the rules you MUST follow from your KH, Mistress, GF or wife?

    Listed and numbered.

    xx
     
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    My wife’s expectations are:

    1. I must obey every order she gives, no arguments, straight away.
    2. I must speak to her with respect and not raise my voice.
    3. I must not ask or nag for an orgasm.
    4. As she exits the shower I get on my knees and I kiss her feet and mound before saying “good morning goddess’.
     
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    1 make the bed every morning.
    2 text her when I have arrived safely where I am going.
    3 text her when I am on my way home.
    4 speak calmly and politely to everyone. Snappy talk is not allowed ever.
    5 serve her before myself.
    6 ask her before making any plans.
    7 all appts are to be placed in joint calendar.
     
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    Hmm. So few rules, but well warranted. My sub has many, many more.

    xx
     
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    There is but one rule, OBEY

    The order of rules is less important since the Mistress can change the order anytime She pleases.

    There are of course the basics:

    - Never ever go into discussion or disagree: Mistress is always right

    - Always fulfil any wish of the Mistress as soon as possible to the maximum. Only the very best might be good enough

    - Always be humble and polite

    - Ask permission from the Mistress first, for anything

    - Every day needs to start with wishing the Mistress a fine day and should end with wishing Her a goodnight and sweet dreams

    - Never ever lie or be dishonest
     
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    This is a good one, they have changed over the years but this is our current situation.

    1. No touching or cumming without permission. I’m rarely out of cage anyway, but even during playtime I have to ask.

    2. No body hair, stubble is not allowed.

    3. In event that I do cum, clean up is mandatory.

    4. I must keep up on grooming, hygiene, and keep her property in pristine condition. If I am having cage issue I must tell her before it leads to long healing periods.

    5. I must perform my maid duty on my days off, includes everything that needs to be done, not just cleaning. Plus tasks as requested.

    6. Must worship her feet every night. I sometimes miss a night if we are busy, no repercussions.

    7. No sass mouth. This is my most frequent violation, and one I’m punished the most for.

    8. Must keep her informed of my sub level. If I begin to feel less subbie, I need to tell her.

    9. I must help her as much as I can to achieve sexual satisfaction whenever possible. This mostly involves just caressing her as she uses a toy, helping with fingers or mouth.

    10. I will remain caged at all times, except for the time she wants it removed, must put it back on as soon as that is over. Always locked.

    There are some routines and understandings as well, but these are the heavy rules that haven’t changed much.
     
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    Rule #1. Do what she says.
    Rule #2. Don't question her about what she says.
     
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    1. She is always right.
    2. When in doubt, see rule #1.

    That's it.
     
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    Now I'm curious :)

    What are your rules?
     
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    I agree! Although we add, always obey madam!
     
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    Lady C decides. #1
     
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    We don't have rules. We have expectations. Or Wife does of me. Every day is different. But..I am expected to....
    Be honest
    Be helpful
    Anticipate her need
    Adore, worship and be grateful most of all

    Basic marriage 101.

    Then there's our kinks...
    Different expectations and a bit much to list but we found what works for us. I give always. Sometimes she gives in to me and my desires.
    Open communication is key and accept her authority if it is beyond her limits.
     
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    There are only two
    #1...What ever she wants she gets...No questions asked...
    #2...Never, ever ask/beg for a orgasm...Not a good idea...:)
     
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    Our rules are an 8 page document. All of the rules were about how to behave and the nature of our relationship. There were no tasks or duties listed.

    Some of the more interesting ones are:

    Before sharing my perspective I needed to show that I had fully heard and understood her perspective first, and had her permission.

    There were other rules around communication:
    • First and foremost, seeing her loving intent.
    • Always first understanding what she wants.
    • Never making her wrong, even subtly.
    • Never telling her what to do or think.
    • Never attempting to negotiate.
    • Always offering something helpful.
    • Never resisting her attempts to tell me what she wanted.
    There was a rule about talking about the rules - no talking about them without first asking for and receiving explicit permission.

    Another rule was that our relationship would involve intentionally challenging experiences designed to deepen the power dynamic that I would genuinely want to escape from but wouldn’t be permitted to.

    There was also an explicit rule that there would be no exceptions for any reason to me following the rules at all times.

    There was a statement on her side of responsibilities rather than rules. In particular she promised never to allow even small things to go uncorrected and never to temper the tone or intensity of her feedback.
     
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    I really do like this one. I do try to live by this rule (although we have no written rules).

    I know now that I was a horrible listener for most of our marriage, but only because I am finally learning to be a decent listener and I can see how different that is from what I used to be.
     
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    Our rules? Unspoken over the years:-
    1. Me being nude (no problem, its hot/humid mostly here..) it gives her superiority and confidence in giving orders…
    2. Me taking care of the household (groceries, cleanliness, maintenance, meals..)
    3. Giving her thigh massage every nite ( which will end with an oral orgasm for her if shes in the mood)
    4. Me going to the gym 2x/week.. (she likes her man to be slim.. )
    5. Me never asking too much of her daily work/people she meets.. (she would tell if she has any story.. )
     
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    Hi Andy - thanks for spelling stuff out! Much easier to read now!
     
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    wear the cage...thats it...other than that we are just like any other couple you see I can't even say its a rule...she enjoys it...I enjoy doing it for her
     
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    Since we don't do 24/7 there are no all-time rules, but we have a particular play context, and then these apply:
    • No expression of own will without permission
    • No stimulation without permission
    • No orgasm without permission
    • No toilet break without permission
    • No food without permission
    • Communication is always initiated with the question "Mylady?" and, if necessary, permission to continue.
    • Commands are acknowledged with the response, "Yes, Mylady." and carried out immediately, without argument, and in full.
    • Communication will take place at the volume specified by Mylady.
    • Violations, mistakes and other failures will be assessed by Mylady with penalty points. For the balance of the penalty account, the following values apply in principle. Additions and adjustments by Mylady are possible.
      • riding crop, slap, flogger: 1 point
      • cane, baton: 3 points
      • bullwhip, tawse, singletail, carbon rod: 5 points
      • sjambok, El Bastardo: 10 points
    For going in and out of context, see my more detailed description: Do you and your wife “switch”?

    Ciao
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    i have never know all the rules cos i just do what im tell to do. If i writ them all they wud be hundreds.
     
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    All of this is just common courtesy and good in any good relationship :).

     
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    1. Miss Cecilia is always right.
    2. If Miss Cecilia is wrong, see Rule #1.
    3. Miss Cecilia has the vagina, Miss Cecilia makes the Rules.
    4. Priscilla Prettypanties has the penis. Priscilla Prettypanties obeys the Rules.
    5. Miss Cecilia wears the pants. Miss Cecilia gives the orders.
    6. Priscilla Prettypanties wears the panties. Priscilla Prettypanties obeys the orders.

    He has some Rules, but in no particular order:

    No pornography unless I decree he watch it (like when I have point of intrigue in his CB-6000 or supervised masturbation).

    He must mind his manners and be polite to everyone, even if they're impolite to him. If he thinks somebody's getting out of line or pushing it too far, he can come and tell me about it. If I can't get them to back off, I will give him permission to speak his mind, but he's got to have permission, first.

    He must open doors for me, but he's always done that. I just told him to make sure he keeps doing it.

    He always was polite to what he calls the "help": servers in restaurants, bartenders, cab or Lyft drivers (he likes cabs, I like Lyft. Neither of us like Uber but sometimes he'll get a cab from Uber since Uber has them in our city), the employees of any business we go in. I told him to make sure he keeps that up. He said one thing his mother taught him just before he started dating was the one sure way to make sure you don't get a second date is be rude to the "help". He says she told him the girls hate that. I always did hate it and hate it even more now that I work at hotel.

    Rinse off dishes and put them in the dishwasher WHEN he;s finished with them. He's not allowed to let them sit until just before he goes to bed.

    The one thing I can't get him to agree to is putting the toilet seat down. We live in his house. He had it before we were married or even dating. If he's under Discipline or in chastity, he has to put it down, but when he's not, he won't agree to it (we're not in this 24/7; lifestyle). He tells me I'm a Big Girl, if the seat's up, put it down. He says he doesn't say anything when I leave the seat down. I tried to tell him if it's dark even when I turn on the light, I can't see right away, but he says that applies to him, too. He just won't do it. If he leaves it up while he's in chastity or under Discipline, h e does get extra paddling for it during a Disciplinary Session. I have to admit I get a little extra enjoyment out of giving him that extra.
     
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    Marriage Covenant

    xxx xx, xxxx

    xxx and xxx, married xxx years this date as husband and wife, celebrate their anniversary and anticipate a lifetime of love, sex, and happiness, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, to have and to hold, and to honor and obey.

    Husband xxx, having a strong desire to worship Wife, xxx, prays for Wife xxx consent to these things, which shall be binding on Husband xxx.

    Nothing in this agreement binds or restricts Wife xxx, who shall retain this only copy, and who may add to, delete from, change, modify, or alter the agreement in any way that she chooses, at any time, with or without notice to Husband xxx.

    Wife xxx shall not require consent from Husband xxx.

    Husband xxx shall abide the agreement and any changes, whether he has been informed, or not, and will be held responsible for knowing, remembering, and obeying the terms set by Wife xxx.

    Any conditions or terms set by Wife xxx shall be in effect, until she changes them. There is no limit to this agreement; it shall be binding for the lifetime and duration of the marriage of Husband xxx and Wife xxx, as shall any changes or additions made by Wife xxx. Only Wife xxx may change this agreement.

    Because Husband xxx has proven unworthy of Wife xxx financially, sexually, personally, and as a husband and man in general, this agreement serves to clarify Wife xxx’s pre-eminent role, authority, and superiority in the marriage. Husband xxx shall worship Wife xxx as Wife and Queen in their life, household, and marriage.

    Wife xxx shall, with immediate effect, have control over all marital funds, assets, and properties. Husband xxx shall be restricted in ownership, spending, behavior, sexuality, and any other area that Wife xxx deems appropriate. Husband xxx shall not dispute Wife xxx’s decisions, and Wife xxx’s decisions shall be final. There shall be no appeal.

    Wife xxx shall place Husband xxx on a small allowance, limiting his daily funds and placing a cap or limit on the amount that may be in his account. Wife xxx may adjust or withhold Husband xxx’s allowance at any time, with or without notice.

    As a token of faith and subservience to Wife xxx, Husband xxx shall lose all sexual privileges. Wife xxx shall have sole right to permit or deny Husband xxx any sexual release or activity, and may set any term or restriction that she chooses to encourage, punish, or direct his attention as she sees fit.

    Wife xxx retains full rights and authority, and nothing in this agreement limits her power, choice, actions, or pleasure. Wife xxx shall not be limited or restricted in any way, including sexually, and may use Husband xxx by any means that she desires.

    Wife xxx shall lose no privilege, and holds all rights. Wife xxx may consent to anything she chooses, or deny anything that she chooses. Husband xxx shall not tell Wife xxx, “no,” nor may he refuse any task, direction from Wife xxx. Husband xxx’s consent shall never be required, but he shall be obligated and required to do and behave as Wife xxx directs.

    Wife xxx’s decisions shall have no argument, and are final.

    Wife xxx shall have full right to discipline or punish Husband xxx for any failure to obey, for failure to follow any rule, for failure to complete a task or to complete a task on time, for absence from the home, for profanity, for any act or word or language which displeases Wife xxx, or for any reason that she chooses. Wife xxx shall never be required to justify or explain her decisions or actions, nor shall Wife xxx be required to provide a reason or answer any question.

    Any request, command, duty, task, assignment, or order by Wife xxx shall have immediate priority; Husband xxx shall drop whatever he is doing to obey, at all times and circumstances.

    This agreement addresses Authority; Finances & Property; Discipline & Punishment; Chores & Duties; and Sexuality. Any rights and privileges not covered specifically shall be Wife xxx’s.
     
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    Authority:

    By Signing, both parties agree to the terms set out on the Authority page. Husband xxx recognizes Wife xxx’s supreme authority and superiority. Wife xxx accepts Husband xxx’s obedience


    ________________________ _______________________

    (Wife xxx) (Husband xxx)


    Financial and Property:

    By Signing, both parties agree to the terms set out on the Financial and Property page. Husband xxx recognizes wife xxx’s supreme control and ownership in all things, himself included. Wife xxx accepts ownership and control of all accounts, property, assets, and agrees that all paychecks become hers to control. Wife xxx agrees to provide Husband xxx with an allowance, to be decided by her.


    ________________________ _______________________

    (Wife xxx) (Husband xxx)


    Discipline & Punishment:

    By signing, both parties agree to the terms set out on the Discipline & Punishment page. Husband xxx agrees to accept any discipline or punishment set by Wife xxx. Wife xxx agrees that Husband xxx requires discipline and deserves punishment, and retains sole right to determine any discipline or punishment, at any time.


    ________________________ _______________________

    (Wife xxx) (Husband xxx)


    Chores, Duties, and Assignments:

    By signing, both parties agree to the terms set out on the Chores, Duties & Assignments page. Husband xxx agrees to make a top priority of any task assigned by Wife xxx. Wife xxx accepts Husband xxx's service and agrees to use him as she sees fit.


    ________________________ _______________________

    (Wife xxx) (Husband xxx)


    Sexuality:

    By signing, both parties agree to the terms set out on the Sexuality page. Husband xxx agrees to surrender all sexual release, except as allowed by Wife xxx. Wife xxx agrees to accept Husband xxxl’s surrender, and shall never be restricted or repressed in her choices.


    ________________________ _______________________

    (Wife xxx) (Husband xxx)
     
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    Authority


    Wife xxx:

    · As Husband and Wife, a full and frank discussion on all things shall be had at any time of Wife xxx’s choosing.

    · Wife xxx shall have the final word on all subjects, and may start or end discussion on any subject at any time: the conversation shall not be concluded until Wife xxx so says, and shall firmly be ended when Wife xxx decrees.

    · Wife xxx shall retain all rights and expectations as Wife: she may expect Husband xxx to protect, provide, and listen, and to make himself available for her at all times. This will not infringe her authority as Wife, which shall be without limit.

    · Wife xxx’s authority shall be final both in and outside the home.

    · Wife xxx’s authority shall be unconditional and without exception.

    · Wife xxx may consider Husband xxx’s wishes or requests, but is under no obligation to honor them, nor is Wife xxx obligated to explain her decisions.

    · Wife xxx may invoke, create, or change any rule or policy at any time, without notice, and may change this agreement at her pleasure.


    Husband xxx

    · Husband xxx shall accept Wife xxx’s authority and shall obey her wishes at any time or place, immediately, without exception.

    · Husband xxx shall serve Wife xxx, at her pleasure and choosing.

    · Husband xxx shall kneel when Wife xxx enters a room.

    · Husband xxx shall thank Wife xxx for being his wife, and express love for her, daily, without exception.

    · Husband xxx shall kiss Wife xxx’s feet at each greeting.

    · Husband xxx shall abide this agreement and any changes, additions, deletions, or alterations by Wife xxx.

    · Husband xxx shall defend Wife xxx in word and deed, with his life, and shall not hesitate to protect or defend her.

    · Husband xxx shall love xxx as he loves himself, and shall give himself to her.

    · Husband xxx shall strive at all times to behave in Wife xxx’s best interest, and shall never knowingly act in any way which shall displease Wife xxx.

    · Husband xxx shall reserve the right to act, as father, in the interest of the children, but shall seek and obey Wife xxx’s counsel and direction.

    · Husband xxx shall honor Wife xxx’s authority and final word, and shall submit to her decisions or choices.

    · All that Husband xxx shall earn, or would possess, at present or in future, he shall give to Wife xxx.
     
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