What Are the Best Methods for Finding an FLR?

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    I would be open to receiving ideas on what works best for finding someone to enter into an FLR. I've been searching for some time now but haven't had much luck and am not sure what else to try. If you have any advice it will be appreciated.
     
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    I guess I’ll indulge… ;)

    There are two ways to get what you are looking for - creating the woman or finding the women.

    Creating:
    A lot of men get married first to vanilla women and when their sex life crashes (for various reasons) they encourage their partner into chastity or FLR to revive their sex life/connection. (Of course, there are varying versions of this - but they all happen after the vanilla relationship has been established.)

    Finding:
    Being active in the BDSM scene, and meeting a woman who is already interested in FLR and chastity. Finding a woman in the vanilla world who is interested is like finding a needle in a haystack.

    The first option is a huge risk - so many complications. If you want the second then I would suggest becoming active in the BDSM scene in your area. The more people you meet irl, the more opportunity you will have of finding someone who is perfect for you. (Do not chose a FLR partner online.)
     
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    Getting into a FLR is hard. However, it is possible providing you are upfront on first meeting/texting/emailing etc. Any regular dating site has such a range of characters and by either upfront or cryptic where thhe conclusion of an intelligent possible date could work it out leads to questions and then you can explain further your needs. After all, if the other person contacts you first then they are either on tune with you or completely ignorant of your 'message'. Then, when things are in the open so to speak the conversation will flow and you have got over that initial 'shall I or shall I not tell?' bit
     
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    I want to thank you for the exceptionally good advice. I will take it and do my best to find someone in the future. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It is very much appreciated.
     
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    Thank you for the great advice. It is appreciated.
     
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    First and foremost you should be looking for the kind of long term relationship that will endure.
    By the time you have established that compatability between your twoselves and what kinks you are interested in either individually or as a couple should become evident.

    If not you have not got to know each other yet.

    But definitely relationship first is generally the best route.
     
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    Thank you for the excellent advice.
     
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    It is however, really important not to pull a bait and switch! Date broad minded women and introduce kink really early, focusing on what's in it for them.
     
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    Yes. and that too, it works both ways ... definitely the bit about broad minded people
     
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    Yep, date as per normal, but just with relationship styles/kinks being an important factor in decision making. You will be surprised how many ladies have a kinky side (100% of my exes and wife, maybe I just a kink-dar). Just be aware that most women are not into male chastity, as they would rather be f****d hard by a real man.
     
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    Thank you. Great advice and very true.
     
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    Actually, no they wouldn't. Depending on which studies you believe, less than half of women get off on penetration alone. But otherwise this is all certainly true.
     
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    I think you may be confused between being able to orgasm through PIV sex (minority of women) vs enjoying PIV sex (majority of women).
     
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    I believe this depends on age and situation. It's certainly not uncommon to dislike PIV and current consensus is that good lovers focus on everything else, since only about 25% of women reliably orgasm from PIV. For a lot of women it seems to be about intimacy and reciprocity.

    It therefore strikes me as unlikely that most women are gagging for, as you put it, being "f****d hard by a real man", except in specific circumstances: passionate moment, one night stand, new relationship etc. That doesn't mean they'll be instantly enthusiastic about unusual sexual practices, just that it's less of a leap than some people expect, especially in a longer term relationship.
     
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