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    I recently re-started chastity with my ex. But now as a FWB situation. I plan on being a bit more strict and even have a point system started with him. However, I'm a bit unsure of good ideas for fun and creative punishments. Or even more interesting ways to make him earn his points.
    Any ideas would be wonderful!
     
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    Really depends on what he is into, I assume if he's your ex you have some idea of what he likes and doesn't.

    For rewards indulge fetishes/desires, up to you if you want punishments to be more funishment or actual punishments -- But if you wanna really make him regret bad behavior, you can always push his limits. Maybe he's into spanking but only with a paddle, use a crop for real punishments. Or make him do things he doesn't want to, maybe he has no interest in cross dressing, dress him up anyways for the day.

    ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Good luck, and have fun!
     
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    Can you tell us more about your ex Mistress? What does he like and not like? What kinds of things motivate him? What do you want from him?
     
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    The best bit is to make him expect the unexpected. Complete randomness, you know the rules, he doesn't. Let him find them out slowly, and once he thinks he knows them, change them. And above anything, don't let him out on a day you've told him.
     
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    I agree!
     
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    He should definitely be making your life easier in return for your efforts. And more fun. You are in a good position to be strict (without the emotional portion) and funishments could include some embarrasment or much extra servitude depending on the situation. No doubt he will test you at some point - don't budge! Not only will he learn a new respect but odds are high he will be more turned on by "no" than "ok".
     
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    Well, he is the one who initially showed me chastity and the list of things he enjoys is actually pretty long. I know I can use denial as a punishment but he enjoys that far too much for it to be a real punishment. Also, domestic tasks as punishment has been suggested, but thats not really an option. Its hard to tell what he doesn't like honestly, but currently, I control basically all of his sexuality. Like, when he can or can't watch porn and what type of porn he can watch. Because he enjoys watching it, maybe as a punishment I can not give permission.
    I've had had embarrassment/ humiliation suggested to me as well but Im not sure how without feeling mean about it. I am still quite new to this in general, so understanding fully what I want out of it is hard.
     
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    If he likes porn, rather than taking it away as a punishment, just take it away. Spoon feed a little here or there to him as a reward. Then it's positive, and reinforces your control.

    He wants punishments that he enjoys, things that stimulate him or arouse him sexually. Things that play to his wants. But that's not punishment. It's sometimes called "funishment."

    Punishment should never be doing something that he should be doing. In other words, if you expect dishes done, then doing dishes isn't punishment. It's duty. If you enjoy being served orally or want your behind licked, then that's not punishment; he shouldn't need to be punished to be made to do what he's expected to do. He should approach his duties and assignments with enthusiasm, not because he wants them, but because you want them, and if any of it involves service to you directly, especially physical service, that can't be punishment. How can serving you be punishment and what does that say about where his head is? Serving you is a privilege. it's a reward.

    Physical punishments typically involve discomfort or pain, and if they're punishments, shouldn't be pleasant. Corner time is fun for the first ten or fifteen minutes. Less at an hour, and less when put in a dark room and deprived of sound and a clock. Less if placed on one's knees on a dish towel with rice on it. If a spanking is given, it should hurt. not tickle, not tease. It should be unpleasant. A bar of soap in the mouth, capzacin rub on the penis, standing arms outstretched with weights in each hand, are useful. Send him to the store to buy a can of peas. Make him walk. When he gets back, send him again. Give him a glass of water and when it needs to go, tell him to stand by the bathroom door until given permission. Wait. When the TV is on, watch programs you ant, not him. Put it on the hallmark channel and play 24/7 christmas movies and see how that goes.

    Everything he does is a privilege, because you allow it. Any privilege can be revoked. That includes sleep. Meals. Leaving the house. Sitting on furniture.

    Have him write a poem. He should beg for anything, and thank profusely. Clothespins on nipples are an old standby that never grows old. Stop using his name. Require him to call you by an honorific or title. Give him the silent treatment. Refuse his privilege to undress. Or keep him undressed. Adorn him in things he doesn't like, or tell him what to wear. If he finds something humiliating, go with that. Write on him. Give him chore lists and treat them like you would a child; give him a gold star, inspect his dishes, have him do menial things. He may be a grown man but he can scrub a toilet or the kitchen floor with a toothbrush. Dogs mark territory; mark him accordingly.

    Write lines; I will not talk aback, five hundred times, gets old after the first fifty or so. Your choice whether to tack it to the wall or simply crumple it up and throw it away. Go shopping; make him carry your purse, walk a step behind. If it strikes your fancy, put him in panties.

    If he's resistant to something, make a note. Use that. If he wants something, use that. Withhold what he wants, allowing it only as you see fit. When he approaches you, it should be below eye level, perhaps starting on his knees, kissing your feet.

    There are endless ways; it comes down to your preference (not his) and your comfort level (not his). His purpose is to honor and respect you. It doesn't necessarily work the other way around.
     
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    Put him in the smallest steel and totally secure device that can be fitted to him. Equip the the chastity device with a TENS unit and enjoy watching him squirm as you apply the power. I am in a stainless steel Nub that has TENS pads within the cage, while bound and the TENS modulating pules to my helpless member, it get maddening but sissy has to wait to be released.
     
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    Have him entertain you. For example, make one of his duties writing you a story each day, based on one of his fantasies. He'll basically write you a book if you're not careful, and in those stories, you'll have all of the ammo that you need.

    Also, do not tell my wife this. Thank you. That is all.
     
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    Have him do things of value to you.
    Detail your car. Keep it gassed up. Maintained.
    Make a meal plan for the week. Shop for ingredients. Prepare the meals and clean the kitchen.
    Do the laundry.
    Clean your home.
     
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    You could always tie him to the bed and take off cage and then tease him relentlessly but don't let him cum. Edge him to the brink several times and then put cage back on and leave him tied and turn on porn so he is forced to watch while caged. If any pre cum or cum from ruined orgasm, you make him eat it.
     
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    How do you control his porn habits? Teasing as always good telling him who is in control and make sure he remembers. Maybe for him to wear panties my ex did that and was super embarrassing had no choice since she bought them for me. Maybe lock his boxers away. Felt super submissive after that like mind control. If he don't comply handcuff him to something and spank him.
     
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