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  1. L-u-c-y
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    #1 L-u-c-y, Aug 19, 2018
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    You might have noticed some verified badges appearing on profiles... We now have 7 verified female members on the site.

    If you are interested in being verified drop me a message and it can be done quickly and anonymously.

    I myself have verified with Jens, Mistress Jules, Maid Carrie and numerous other members of the site. I've also met 3 members in person.

    There are some others who have been asked to verify and have not done so...

    Some tips for spotting a fake
    • They will make every excuse not to verify.
    • If a woman contacts YOU she will most likely be fake, especially if she wants to talk about sex, penises, sissification or devices.
    • If she has no photos at all. It's pretty easy to take photos anonymously.
    • If she has lots of photos of her husband but none of herself.
    • If her photos look photoshopped in any way.
    • If her posts seem like pure fantasy, they most probably are.
    If you have any other tips for spotting a fake, post them here.

    If a female profile is not verified it doesn't mean they are not real, but it might be best to take what they say with a pinch of salt :)
     
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    How about verified males? Will this be a one sex only verify?
     
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    Shhhhhh! Don't make a fuss. I personally am a guy pretending to be a guy. Confuses even me......(not hard to do)
     
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    That will certainly be considered if we have any problems with women pretending to be men. ;)
     
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    female/hk 4 @jb123 ..... you can tell by my pic... lol.... purple flower (favorite color) and a butterfly
     
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    Thank you Miss Lucy for taking these steps.

    It's great to see the verification process finally bearing real fruit. I feel it can only make any future female visitors to the site reassured when they see that other women share a genuine interest in the CM lifestyle.

    It's very powerful and inspiring to read posts and responses from verified women and to be able to see into their needs, wishes and hopes.

    I'd like to sincerely thank those 6 ladies here who have taken the time and trouble to verify. Such steps can only be for the long-term good of the site and the overall cause of the FLR dynamic.

    From such little acorns... etc.
     
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    Do you think this could lead to a "key holders only" section?
     
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    This is excellent. I wish more forums did this.
     
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    thank you for this Mistress Lucy
     
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    38K members and 7 verified F's.

    The old fashioned way to handle this was to assume an average IQ rating of members to find out who they are courting via telephone conversations and F2F meetings.

    Now you've essentially thrown all women who don't want to verify and feel no need to do it under a cloud of suspicion.

    Whoever knew that suspicions of MS's gender would have such an enormous impact on this website.
     
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    If that was the case it would put your IQ at the low end, as you are still a staunch supporter of mascara snake.

    I would guess less than 1% of members are female. Which would make less 380 women in the 10 year history of the site.

    Many of those members are inactive, so 7 verified females is quite a good number.

    More questions should be asked about why there are so few real women. What are you boys doing to put them off?
     
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    I'd say from what I've read over the last couple of years, that it's usually the male that brings the idea of chastity up and even though plenty of genetic women grow to love it, they weren't looking or even aware of chastity so the count will always be tiny.

    Plus I bet any dominant female in active forums gets swarmed with offers from day 1 and could find what they're looking for rather quickly.
     
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    Can I be verified and an unverified male?
     
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    I appreciate you doing this. I have read several posts purported to be made by a woman and I have to constantly remind myself this could be a guy in disguise. Personally, I want to read the perspective of real women, so knowing an author has been verified as a woman, is valuable to me. Thank you.
     
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    Do you think your experience is unique? If you've always attracted submissive men, isn't the likely to be true of most women? Why come on the internet (or at least this part of the internet) to find what you can possibly get offline (or through more normal dating means)?

    I would imagine that other than the curious, those few who do come online to find a specific type of man are doing so because they've not been satisfied by the pool they've attracted through more normal means then immediately come into contact with the hordes of perverts you've described which make the offline men look like saints. That probably causes them to write it off as a viable avenue.

    Even if 99% of men on these sites are princes among men, the 1% bad apple's shamelessness is almost impossible to counteract. Realistically, unless you screen all of the men as if you're running a match making service (something a quick google search says exists though how real they are is a different question), I'm not sure it IS possible.
     
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    You are right. I recently deleted my fetlife and other profiles. This is the only one remaining.

    I'm thinking of giving up keyholding as well.
     
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    hmmmmm - that would be great if it could be made to work.
     
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    I am curious on why that is if you don't mind sharing?
     
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    I think this is a great idea. As far as I know, there might already be one.
     
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    That's a great point. That or not actively inviting. I'm guilty of not doing much of anything in casual regular conversation to introduce new people. It seems like, to attract new members, you make it as welcoming and nice as possible, and that means being extra polite and not pushy and helpful. Manners plus.
     
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    I thought about this just now, and maybe verification can be used for extra good. What if anyone verified could boot a pushy jerk-face, with one button and no questions asked? Eliminate their unread PMs, block that email from re-registering, etc.

    Maybe, maybe allow people to plead and pay to reinstate themselves, with an acceptable sincere apology.

    I don't think of this place as intended to be built for pushy needy not-polite fellas, and maybe the imbalance is partly as a result of treating everyone more or less equally around here.

    It'd be a shame if one person could be bothering 10 people before someone was able to get around to dealing with it.

    It'd almost be worth charging a small fee for boys to sign up (like even $2 or something), just enough to make it not worth making a whole bunch of new accounts.

    With verification, it seems like this could really be useful being more welcoming to new members and holders. Anything that makes the whole experience more inviting to new or potential holders means its better for everyone, in my opinion.
     
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    Essentially wanting to give people that are 'verified' as female an exclusive level of mod control over a site is generally seen as a bad idea for any kind of forum like this. I'm not saying it would by default be abused, but no questions asked is, from my own experience running chat services, a very bad idea. I will tell other mods why I took a particular action, and will want the same from those I work with. Behind the scenes, good mods work together, and have a lot of communication that the site in general never knows about. We work hard to keep things running smoothly for everyone involved.
     
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    That raises a question I have often had...why does CM not charge for membership? It would dampen the enthusiasm for creating a host of fake profiles. Given the amount of money we (with penises) happily invest in 3-4 chastity devices, I would be more than willing to pay an annual membership fee to support this fabulous site. I would deem it a 'Tribute Fee' to the women we serve ;)
     
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    Just speaking for myself. I'm okay with the idea of ads, or donations, for a site like this. But a 'tribute' like this would, to me, make the site essentially a findom pay-to-play (or in this case not play) site. Those of us who don't have the spare money for a dozen different random memberships would definitely be priced out of any form of conversation
     
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    As for certified male .... I think :) Certified not to be a dick would be the proper tag :)
     
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