Vanilla wife, horny husband

My Wife and I have already a long relation. She has always know, I like it she takes the lead in bed. Since 5 years we don't have sex very often (Mistress).
I masturbate about 2-3 times a day. She doesn't knows this.
After our kid, she has some issues when we have sex. Although my penis is not very long, She prefers I'm not going to deep.
We talked about the fact for me it is really no fun to masturbate all the time.
She also feels it like an obligation, when I give her a massage, we need to have sex. Which is not really something I require.
So I bought a chastity cage. She was not really into it and refused to take the key. Some weeks passes and I was not masturbating for 4 days. When we wanted to take a shower together, I washed her back and touched het everywhere verry gently. As I was locked, we couldn't have sex. When I wanted to go out of the shower, she wispered that if I masturbate and come in 30 seconds with her in the shower, I would be locked up for 14 days....
I was thinking, this is the moment. I went in the shower and in less than 30 seconds I came.
I locked myself up again after and left the key on the night tabled of her bed.
The day after the key was still there. But 2 days later, when we were in the couch, I gave her feet a massage. The I massaged her back and the side of her breasts. She asked if I was enjoying, and I confirmed. After 30 minutes, she told me to stop, that I played enough, that she was going to bed. I felt she was not asking to go with her, and I asked her if she could hide the key. I continued to watch television. The day after when we woke up, I saw the key was gone.
The day after we were showering together, I played a little bit with her and she teased me with saying: locked for two weeks.
The next day I wanted to give her a massage in bed, but she told me to stop, she wanted to sleep. I did this and after a few seconds she asked what I did when she was pregnant. (Because of risk of early birth, we couldn't have sex for 8 months). I told her that I masturbated 2-3 times a day. She didn't say anything anymore.
The day after I went to bed a bit earlier and shortly after, she came also to bed. She reading a book, me also, but giving her back a massage. When she stopped reading and wanted to go to sleep, I stopped also giving her a massage.
But her she asked to continue, if I want to. I told her I will continue, but she has to keep me locked (I said this, with the hope, she will find out that I enjoy, that she is enjoying, without she has to think I want sex afterwards). After the massage, she asked if like to do this and I confirmed.
I'm locked now for 4 days and 12 hours

 

I take your advise with me. For the moment I try to let her feel admired, without the requirement of having sex

 

This morning we had a chat. My wife told me she does not like at all the chastity. I explained her that giving her a massage and being caged does not feel the same as without cage.
After our chat, I asked her to get the key so I will unlock me. But when I wanted to go with her to get the key, she requested not to come with her, because she does not want that I know where the keys is...

 

Your more or less correct. The thing is, that I do not really need to have sex after a massage. The fact of taking care, makes me more or less horny. But like every man, when you come, the fun is gone.
She doesn't like the cage, because she links it to wrong people.
I do try to listen to her. The reason, I'm still uncaged.

 

A few month's ago I stopped locking and we got back in the old scenario shower, massage sex,....
Three weeks ago, she asked me to remove the calluses on her feet. We didn't really come to it. Last week, I locked myself, and when I was putting the device, my wife came in. She asked why I was putting it on, knowing she doesn't really like it.
I explained her that it turns me on and like removing calluses from her feet while locked, is fun and makes me horny because I makes me feel to serve her. It helps me to pleasure her without sex having followed. I explained her that she can now be sure no sex has to follow if we swim, shower, ... together. She told me that she is a bit afraid that the whole day will go about sex. We talked about it and she agreed to keep me locked and since one week I'm taking care of her feet. Two days ago she asked me to give her a massage. Suddenly she putted my hands on her breasts and I had to play with it. Still locked. She was even so mean to take my hand and we stimulated her clitoris, till she got an orgasm. Yesterday we went walking and cycling together, not one sexual activity (which is ok), but in bed, suddenly she grabbed me and putted my hand again on her clitoris, while she asked if I liked it. She told me to grab my balls. I was weak and asked her to unlock me, the key is on the night table, she doesn't really hold it, but she refused and I was not allowed to take the key....
I hope we can continue, locked for 8 days by my wife. And she doesn't want to tell me when she will release me

 

You are completely correct.
The first time I was all the time hugging and playing around. She also told, you are all the time horny.
This time I approached it differently. I kind of ignored her. Ignoring in the sense of I didn't go to hug, but she asked during the day to help removing calluses from her feet. I then gave a massage to her feet. I think she enjoyed it, because she knew that no sex had to follow.
What I did was looking naked to pictures of her in a bad suite and hoped that she would come after me to see where I was. I let me betrayed and think she enjoyed it. (I user to jerk of daily 2-4 times). And my attention to her was lower.
For the first time two nights following she used my hand to play with herself and although I asked to unlock me, she refused...
I really hope we can continue... :d