Vanilla Partner agrees to chastity as last resort

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    #1 Guest 7493, Sep 20, 2018
    This is a complex one so sorry if I ramble, but please provide advice if you can!
    I suppose I have always liked the thought of giving up control, but what really changed things was being diagnosed with Parkinson's at a relatively young age....which basically had the following symptons (apart from the obvious ones of weakness etc);
    ...Obsession with sex with increased interest in pornography
    ...reduced ability to actually have intercourse ....i.e I cannot get a hard-on any more without viagra
    ...increasingly convinced that my partner was having an affair in the early part of this year...based on my obsessions with various IT data sets, google history, location and other "perceived changes in behaviour"

    Basically, we got to the position where I was stalking her and making her life miserable and not trusting her. She is an honest, very positive, trustworthy person with a good sense of right and wrong and wouldn't have an affair. What started this all off was an accidental discovery that she had had an affair when she was with her first long term boyfriend at uni...but hadn't told me in 15 years of being together. She is ashamed and very private about it. I started worrying about this as a previous partner of mine had an affair.
    Last year I suggested chastisty and, whilst she was repulsed by the whole idea, she reluctantly agreed to hold the keys, "as long as she didn't have to do anything". This was doomed to failure from the outset, and duly did!
    Things have come to a head very recently and will leave me unless something changes drastically...i.e. in terms of my behaviour.
    I suggested I wear the chastisty device for 2 weeks as I felt very different and very in control with it on!
    ...she could would just hide the keys and not have to do or say anything else, and i would never mention it.
    She said, "ok, whatever", and hid them.
    So, I ask all, what now?
    I love the transfer of power, i love the thought of wanting to please her all the time. But what next, as eventually, i would like to be teased, for me to be a good boy without the kink, and to change my behaviour!
    Thanks very much in advance.
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    #2 Guest 7493, Sep 20, 2018
    I forgot to add that I have become increasingly neurotic partly because of the medecine, and partly because of the condition.
    ...must go, I h ave been given loads of jobs to do!
     
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    #3 filltee, Sep 20, 2018
    Essentially you have forced your partner into something she did not want to do for your own selfish reasons.

    Your relationship as it was clearly was not enough for you.
    I do have some suggestions
    she is not into so you wont be doing it .... get over it. and spend the next few years trying to make up for your bullying tactics
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    get out of the relationship and give her the opportunity to find someone more compatable

    Chastity play is PLAY even if its part of a lifestyle dynamic

    and.... It is in my view guys like you that get male chastity all the others guys that are into it a bad press.

    maybe and I only mean PERHAPS it is possible you need to change your meds but I doubt they are bringing out somethings that are not already there. like paranoia self obsession and selfishness.

    In my opinion; and to put it both mildly and politely ..... you sir are acting like an ass.
     
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    #4 Guest 7493, Sep 20, 2018
    You have misunderstood matters....
    I haven't been able to explain all sufficiently as it is complex.... therefore please don't be too hasty to judge.
    There are many mitigating circumstances, not least of which is the medication.
    The crux is that being locked up helps me to be more positive
     
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    #5 Cockless, Sep 20, 2018
    Without any judgement it seems that you are counting on chastity to fix your relationship. Sorry to say it won’t work.
    Chastity is not a solution to a weak or broken relationships, it enforces strong ones.
     
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    #6 Joey love, Sep 20, 2018
    Happy Birthday
     
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    #7 Cockless, Sep 20, 2018
    Thanks!
     
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    #8 Guest 3729, Sep 21, 2018
    What medications are making you feel this way (I.e paranoia, neurotic). Your porn and sex obsession is probably more of a result of a lot of time spent in front of a computer because of your condition. As I don't have Parkinson's I'm definitely not judging because I don't mentally or physically know what it's like. I do have to agree with what others said in regards to how chastity is implemented. if you have a strong relationship with your partner then Chastity is a great way to recapture old feeling they may have been lost. Or a couple that is trying to spice things up because they need something new in their lives. The most successful people I read about here at the mansion put a lot of thought and effort into making chastity something that suits them and builds their relationship. That being said it takes two to tango and if your partner is feeling forced into a role than it probably won't work out.

    If you really think this is something that could help you physically and mentally than try to find some good literature for your partner or steer her here so she can learn what chastity is about and understand why couples choose this lifestyle. My partner was uninterested until she was able to understand chastity from the female perspective. To be honest I also didn't understand chastity until I realized the importance of the female perspective and benefits for my Miss without my own selfish wants involved. When I figured that out it was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

    I hope you and your partner try to make chastity work for you both but remember, just because it's helping you and you're getting what you need, you need to remember it's really about what she needs.
     
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    #9 LesterBallard, Sep 21, 2018
    the symptoms you've described are not symptoms of Parkinson's, but of a secondary condition relating to mental health. Perfectly understandable, and brought on by the shock of early-onset Parkinson's. However, I think you should be seeking medical help for that. If you have reached the stage of stalking, that is not tenable for either of you.
     
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