Urologist - orgasm unnecessary

I spoke with a urologist about health issues with avoiding orgasms, climax, and ejaculations.

I said that my wife and I keep me in the plateau phase to prevent a refractory period, and that I have gentle emissions. So, I basically described that we practice male orgasm denial, and my wife gives me (perfect) ruined orgasms and keeps me hard. I wanted to know if the clenching and twitching and big spurty orgasms that leave me spent, flaccid and uninterested were necessary for health.

We spoke in medical terms but I was told that (gentle) Emissions vs (forceful) Ejaculations are the same thing from a health perspective.

There’s no need for orgasms for male health.

I had a physical examination as well. I was feeling very full, plump, meaty and juicy on that day. I had been denied orgasm for three months prior, and it was nearly three weeks since I had last spilled out cum.

I was asked if I had any pain. Nothing hurt at all.

So, there it is. I have been been given the green light to continue our orgasm denial. Indefinitely. No concern, constraints or limits.

My wife can keep me orgasm denied.
I don’t need to cum. I can pour out slowly.

I was very pleased with my positive experience with my urologist in general. I’m excited I could accomplish such a direct and open conversation.

My wife was very pleased to hear all this.

 

I am perfectly healthy. There was no condition We were worried about. Thanks all for your well wishes.

I might describe more personal details later, but I wanted to report this information out on one medical opinion.

Emissions and Ejaculations were deemed “the same thing” from a health perspective. I was only focusing on the implications from avoiding strong muscle reflexes, climactic orgasms, and going soft due to the refractory period.

My prostate and other glands get exercised just fine without needing orgasms.

I did not discuss avoiding emissions.

We might discuss that in another consult.

But for us, she gives me perfect ruined orgasms, without single twitch to let me go soft, and when I don’t get unlocked I will gush a little cum in my cage, after two weeks or so. Only once have I gone 31 days without spilling. She keeps me teased and dripping precum, a lot.

In recent months, I have spilled in my cage when she was cuddling me and mindfucking me with discussion about permanent orgasm denial and endless enforced chastity with lots of edges and teasing, but never even spilling outside the cage. This pleased her greatly and she praised me for being such a good boy. I can stay healthy and locked up.

We didn’t talk chastity or female domination or any personal details of our relationship dynamic. I just said we did this on purpose, we enjoy it, and want to continue.

 

So let me reiterate, my post was about emissions vs ejaculations. The good doctor told me that there’s no difference from their medical perspective. A male can avoid orgasm without health concerns.

The muscular contractions associated with forceful ejaculation are pleasurable, but not necessary. My testes will produce sperm regardless. My seminal vesicles and prostate

We wanted to know if my wife can keep perfectly ruining my orgasms, and have me pour out slow and thick, and keep me hard and desirous. Other than mutual desire and consent, we didn’t talk about the details of our sex life.

Ok. So to repeat, my doctor’s medical advice was there is no difference between ejaculations or emissions. I don’t need to orgasm if we don’t want me to.

So equating
(pleasurable but flattening and deflecting) ejaculation and
(gentle, twitch-less, but arousal-retaining) emissions,
we can talk about these studies that I had read.

With my question, I was trying to understand these orgasm / ejaculation frequency studies and got confirmation that orgasm and spurt-free emissions can keep me healthy.

See the blog post by DenyingThumper:

https://denyingthumper.com/2015/05/28/the-coming-cancer-scare

The hazard ratio is 0.80. That means it’s a 20% risk reduction according the the study. Frequent emissions of semen drops the prostate cancer risk from 14% to 11%.

“other methods that may help reduce your risk of prostate cancer include achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, and regular exercise.”

 

I just found this other article that explains pretty well what we do:

http://www.articlesfactory.com/articles/sexuality/continuous-male-orgasms.html

I also try to keep all my sexual orgasm muscles relaxed. My keyholding wife brings me close to the point of ejaculatory inevitability, but stops seconds prior. This brings me to a level of bliss that I adore her for. And I’m frustrated thereafter. She really enjoys all of this. Her glee and praise is the reason I don’t masturbate myself anymore.

I have probably 100 sessions of emissions a year. I actually stopped counting ruined orgasms in 2017 because they got too frequent. Lately, she will proudly tell me how many spills: she’s regularly able to give me 3-4 in one edging and orgasm denial session. She grades/prides herself in keeping me from even the slightest twitch or letting me go just a little soft.

Even if we do this just one a week, I’m not that far off the 21 a month mark. She tells me she keeps me healthy and happy, and my frustration is good for me.

The difference with typical male-orgasm-centered sex and what we’re doing is the bonding and positive emotions associated with being owned and loved and controlled. We snuggle everyday which has positive mental and physical health implications. We’ve never been happier since I gave up self-masturbation five years ago.

There’s no going back. We’re committed.

In a separate post I’ll mention how often I was starting to gush cum spontaneously in my cage during my the third month of orgasm denial. This lead my wife to “You don’t have to cum. You don’t have to spill (when she’s got me unlocked to edge me).”

We’re trying out 24/7 chastity and real enforcement now after five years of “part time chastity but full time masturbation denial”.

 

@Quietlisten just a moment, listen to my post...

I only asked about Ejaculation vs Emission.

My doctor and I spoke in very specific terms about physiology and mechanisms. From a health perspective, the opinion provided was there is no difference.

From my own research I cannot a distinction either. That’s the entire point. Emissions=Ejaculation. I can be kept perfectly healthy with perfect-ruined orgasms.

I appreciate you bringing forward articles that I had read before my consult. I responded to your content because you included it in your reply. I addressed it but this thread was not intended to be about prostate health from emission/ejaculation denial.

You speak good advice for naive readers of medical journals. Don’t take one study as fact. Nor should you claim one doctor’s advice as the final word.

And finally, I think you’re missing the entire point, and misreading in your bringing up prostate health concerns.

Why would there be a prostate cancer risk for a male who get his glands expelled regularly, albeit orgasm free?

The male orgasm is not necessary. That’s the point of my post: there’s no distinction between emission and ejaculation from a medical health perspective.

(So I know we’re all pent up with scholarly articles about prostate-cancer and orgasm-frequency, but don’t prematurely ejaculate them in this thread. )

 

Getting back to my intent...

It was important to me, to speak to a urologist to be clear that my wife and I purposefully:
(1) avoid my orgasms
(2) avoid my forceful ejaculations
(3) keep me in the plateau phase and avoid going flaccid from a refractory phase
(4) do cause me gentle emissions (without orgasm, without muscular contractions, without going flaccid)

I pointed out that we are both happy with this and want to continue, as long as I’m not missing a health implication.

And the detailed discussion of anatomy and how it works, corroborated my research. I don’t have to worry about not getting full orgasms. Emissions vs ejaculations don’t matter. My orgasms aren’t necessary.

 

We did not discuss semen emission frequency. My own opinion (and ThumperMN’s) is that it’s a minor impact at best, and the benefits of male orgasm denial outweigh the risk.

We did not discuss if I’m doing Sex Magick, Tantra, Karezza, D/s, Femdom or chastity. I did not wear my chastity or piercing jewelry. I kept it purely anatomical.

I was thrilled to find a doctor open to a thorough conversation, and be willing to answer all my questions. My research and earnest desire to learn and listen earned me respect and was returned with a detailed in-depth explanation. I’m really am grateful.

If we build a rapport, I may someday bring up the frequency of my orgasm-free emissions and unconstrained erections. I may discuss my PA piercing health or other genital modifications.

My dream would be to find a doctor that would give me full service in keeping me healthy in chastity and denial.

But this was just a first consult. I felt brave but proudly well prepared to discuss my orgasm denial.