Hi all, Just want to post a little update. A while back I posted something about how real life chastity isn't at all like the stories and it is actually quite inconvenient, boring and, of course, maddening. I was really heartened to see so many replies that seem to care about me and my relationship more than the kink. It just goes to show that so many people on this forum are real folks who are not one dimensional kinksters. Anyhow, we have talked. The gist of it is, she has said, she isn't ever going to be a dominatrix and that her drive and desire ebb and flow. She doesn't want to be hassled about our sex life. (I think this is true of all people, sex should be stress free) She likes certain aspects of chastity and likes it when I'm locked. But, if she is going to do it, she wants to do it her way and not be pestered about it. When I introduced it to her years ago, she was nervous and worried about safety. In begging her to be a keyholder back then, I assured her it was safe and that there wasn't a limit to how long it could be locked on. So now, when I'm locked, she is comfortable keeping me locked far past when I would like to have it off. We have a loving relationship. Sexually, sometimes she wants oral without anything else. That usually happens when I'm locked and she will not budge when I ask. About every week or two, she wants real sex and unlocks me. Sometimes she forgets to tell me to lock it up. I will say this, chastity is real enough that I'm not necessarily eager to put it back on. I don't mind some time to myself. She doesn't like it when she thinks I am self pleasuring. So, I'm locked more than I'm not. She prefers it that way. So again, thank you for the concern that was shown and for the advice about communication. If I want her to be my keyholder, then we do it her way. Maybe I'm not submissive enough or in a real FRL or devoted enough, but I will say that being locked in chastity is really frustrating and not always fun, sexy or pleasant. Best, Ed PS. Given that my wife likes what she likes, enjoys her peace, and is not afraid to enforce rules, you are going to think I'm crazy for the request I am going to put in the punishments forum. I'm looking for any pics of a man standing in a corner or against a wall while a wife enjoys wine, a book, or just TV. Ideally something domestic and real rather than BDSM.