Actually "you can cum if you want" is worse but very similar to being given permission. When its a choice then it should be her choice. Maybe a trap. If i am going to cum it should because my partner wants me too not because I want to. In a perfect world I should only cum if it gives her pleasure for me to do so and if she so tells me to cum....or not.
Every time she wants me to ruin I tell her that I was programmed not to cum anymore. Then she starts laughing. The fact that I don't want to cum under permission to orgasm... drives me crazy. My orgasm is forbidden, she knows that. She knows that I will always choose to deny myself.
I don't have that choice, I've asked for my wife to deny me and she said no. She said me getting off is what gets her off so she insists on me cumming inside her.
@Caged for life I have a very similar situation mate. My wife doesn't like the idea of denying me, on the upside I'm only allowed to cum inside her, and it's usually very quick!
I definitely don't last very long anymore myself, since I can't touch myself anymore I've become so sensitive I finish quickly
Same here and if that's what wants that the was it is. She doesn't want to give up PIV because we're both in chastity
These situations can change very quickly, once sex was off the table and my wife saw the benefits to no orgasms she soon learnt that she didn’t need PIV as a means to satisfy me. She gets off on my pleasure too… but less and less does this come through intercourse.