Uncertainty?

Hmm... I don't know. I've gained permission to ruin my orgasm, but... I don't want to do it. I am able to, but I don't want it.

I've been edged for so long that simply I do not want to cum. I felt many times that I was starting to ruin, and each time I did not want to feel pleasure. I've always wanted to hold back an orgasm and return to the edging state.

 

My wife was eager to please me when we first started and weekly was the routine. Knowing when it would happen just didn't work for me. I just had to wait her out and no amount of teasing would make it so difficult that the weekend wouldn't solve.

I challenged her to do what she wanted, enjoy as many orgasms as she liked without the need to please me. She would decide and I would be happy with whatever number of days/weeks/months she decided. She accepted the challenge and it seems that each orgasm is followed by an even longer lockup for the next cycle.

I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

For many men, this is a huge motivator. It is the source of most of your power and influence. You deserve credit for accepting and using this for your benefit.

 

I prefer randomness. Tell me a date, then when it comes, so no. Tell me a date, and surprise me the day before. Don't tell me a date, but tell me you have one in mind. When the day comes, ruin it instead, or just stop short completely. Keep me guessing.

 

My last O was only 9 days ago but it came 4 days early. She made me wait those 4 days before she rolled the dice and I got the shortest lockup .... 1 week. So I have 2 days to go but already it seems like a distant memory. A distant date would seem interminable right now. I would be dying for her touch & tease... I already am!

 

Ive come to realize that at least in my case, OBE (overcome by events. A term our best friend uses often) trumps promised sexual interaction for me. And these OBE's can be anything, however trivial, up to and including "I'm too tired". With maybe a "sorry", and maybe not. This past week has been a perfect example. Essentially promised the opportunity to go down on her virtually every one of those days. Sometimes even after I shaved her, as we always do that prior to oral for her. This is still no guarantee it's going to happen. A week later , and I'm up to a promise for "definitely tomorrow".. Guess what.? I know to believe it when my face is between her legs., not a minute before. Is she doing it intentionally? I have no idea. Doesn't matter. She has the keys. I have the cage. She has the control. I have the locked D.
What I am saying is I would not read too much into this. Your power, and the awe your husband will feel for you, can only be increased by your unpredictability. Remember what so many of those clever chastity memes end with . "I don't care what you think".

 

Big difference between a kid being disappointed and us caged critters. Whether we knew it or not, we asked for this. Every. Single .One of us. Tough titty if we were letting the little head think for the big head. There are always repercussions for that.