As I mentioned on another thread, I'm planning on giving hubby an orgasm on Valentine's Day, but I haven't told him yet. I often keep things vague, partly because I like to change my mind, and partly out of habit. But maybe in this case it would be better to tell him and let the anticipation build. The flip side is that telling him he will get an orgasm on Valentine's Day is also telling him that he definitely is not getting one before then. How important is that hope (no matter how small) that "tonight might be the night"? From past experience, it seemed like "you'll get an orgasm every Sunday" didn't work nearly as well as "about once a week". Some amount of unpredictability really helped... whether it was a pleasant surprise on Friday, or a last second denial on Sunday. But I'm not sure that's still true. For a while I was making him wait a month between orgasms. He never knew the exact day, but surely for the first few weeks he must have known there was zero chance of an orgasm, and he seemed fine with it. Or maybe somehow in his head he created a sliver of hope anyway. I'm not sure. I'm curious how everyone else feels about this. Is it better to have clear expectations, or to always be kept in suspense? Does knowing an exact date in the future make the intervening days better or worse?