i had been celibate for about 4 weeks. Mistress promised a Xmas gift and sure enough She provided. She gave me an orgasm. What surprised me was the quality of my response. She was very careful to completely control it. It was a hand job with Mistress staring deep into my eyes and me thanking Her all the way for my position in life. It happened fast and was without much force on ejaculation. Both of us commented afterwards it was more akin to a milking than anything else. The last orgasm i had prior to this was with my own hand and it was after a long celibate period. It was effusive and forceful. i used some of my favorite fantasy visualizations in that one. i've read the essay at Ms. Lori's, http://www.chastitytube.com/control.html, and it does a great job of explaining the difference from a Mistress' point of view. Definitely right on as an instruction manual for maximum D/s relationship development. What i am wondering is how other sissies and subs relate to these two types of orgasms. One of the things that has struck me in reading Forum entries is how some folks talk about how comfortable they are now that their penis is no longer there's and how others talk expectantly about how they've been promised to be let out at some point for an orgasm. No judgement here on either position. i am just wondering which you'd prefer? Orgasm 1: with reduced sensation and contolled fantasy or Orgasm 2: hands on with a bit of your own fantasy when you finally get your release and 'reward'. Also, i was wondering if Mistresses felt both of these types of orgasms had their place or just the first?