I wanted to start a discussion about what levels of trust you have with your keyholders. I, until recently have not thought about keeping an emergency key. I have trusted my keyholder for a long time with control of both keys and she has never given me any cause to doubt that trust. Having her take revealing photos including my face is an example of trust where i draw the line. Everyone's situations are different, but what levels of trust do you have with your keyholders, and what boundaries have you set within that relationship?
My KH is my girlfriend I’ve been with for almost 2 years. I trust her 100%. Not a doubt in my mind she will always look out for me and my health. She’s my best friend and lover. But she’s in control.
Like @CagedJohn77 I trust my wife 100% when it comes to the important stuff. We have been together 10 years and she is an RN on top of that. She knows what to watch out for. Now trusting her to do what I want is a whole different story, LOL...
My keyholdress is my wife. I trust her, but always have an emergency key with me. For emergency! I would never use it. Usually I dont use the key withoit permission. Except when I go to gym and we forgot to unlock or didnt meet.
100% trust with my wife/key holder. No emergency key and she has photos of me in my cage. Not worried about any of it in the slightest. An emergency key isn’t a bad idea but I think we both like the mindfuck of her being solely in possession.
My wife of over 10 years is my keyholder and of course I trust her 100% or wouldn't be with her otherwise Key wise she has one obviously and there is a emergency one hidden somewhere in the house that's obviously just a phone call away if needed Never used tho Let's just say we are both in possession of pictures of each other
I've been with my wife 40+ years and she's been my KH for 1 year now. Prior to chastity, I would hold some things back from her and vice versa because we both felt the other wasn't emotionally safe. Now, we've both broken through that barrier. With my admission to being a PMO addict and asking her to hold my key to help me learn self control and to love her sacrificially, I've become fully transparent with her and opened up about everything. She now feels like I'm her best friend and can share everything with me.
IMO the concept of an “emergency” key is precisely that — for emergencies. When the keyholder is not present and unavailable to grant immediate access to a key/release. So it’s not about the level of trust, it’s about safety and practicality when the keyholder is not available.
25 years married, I trust her completely. How much does she trust me? More than uncaged. I have a laminated emergency key, never used. She wears a silver key charm, and the real key is on her bedside table. I'm trusted to clean without checking. However, the other day, I got in the shower after her and she was in and out of the bathroom naked and whilst cleaning I got a little handsy with myself. She poked her head around the corner and saw my guilt. Made me lock it right up. It was really hot actually, and she was amused. I of course blamed it on her naked teasing. Later we were driving and I said "I don't usually".... "I guessed you messed about sometimes" she said... "Well actually, not anymore really. At first when I thought you might actually come and check, that aroused me, but as you never do, I rarely get hard in the shower or bath and don't play" I said. That's the truth. I think she did believe me.
My kh has her key on her at all times but we have a spare key she has hidden in the house if I need it for any reason I just have to ask where it it and then it will be hidden some where new
Trust is a big part of this, both ways. She has to trust you not to cheat and follow her rules, and report any violations of her rules. You have to trust her to take of you and treat you in your best interests, even if you may not agree at all times. Trust is HUGE in this. It's one of my main attractions to it all IMO.
My KH is my wife for over 10 yearsand the mother of my child - I trust her with everything. Photos no problem - if she would call hem revealing photos though I might start to question her mind...^^ As for security keys - they are not about mistrust of your keyholder, but rather about a safety should some unforseen problems arise.
I’m not sure it’s always about trust What happens if you are alone and need to go to the ER. At night and need to unlock to check on things, do you wake her up? I think an emergency key is a good idea, keeping in secure in a way it’s known its been used. Maybe in a sealed envelope with her signature over the seal or using a box with a secure tag with ID numbers.
My KH is my Madam and I trust her with my life, we dont have a emergency key, as if it’s a true emergency my 3D printed device could be cut off very quickly.
Married 32 years this August, she’s been my best friend since we met at 18 at the end of High School and married a couple months later lol, been through a lot of crazy shit together, raised four great kids and now just having some fun swapping dominant / sub roles after all these years, there is no one I trust more on this planet with anything There’s only 1 key, MCN security screw, most days it sits on her nightstand and I know not to touch it. If I’m having a tough week and think I’ll be tempted, I let her know and she takes it to work. I believe in an emergency I could pull out and bend the locking bar of the cage enough to pull my balls through. It would probably destroy the cage, but an emergency would be just that. I suppose we should maybe buy a spare key from MCN
I completely trust my wife. I am in charge of most everything except when I can have her. if this was up to me she wouldn't be able to walk and I would be so spent all the time she would miss out on the loving she deserves. We both trust each other. We are very much in love as much today as we ever have been. We are in our 50s and have known each other since we were 14. She is absolutely so beautiful to me. She keeps the 2 keys.
We had been friends for about 6 years before my lady became my KH and subsequently became my Mistress Mutual rust is everything to us both and we have no worries or issues about it in relation to each other. She has full length naked photos of me caged and plenty of emails and texts where the content is related to me being locked and denied by her at my own request She is and because of the nature of her work is a very private person and is not a member of any type of kink related or social media other than facebook which she is required to have by her employer but is member of no groups on there other than her own family. I don't use social media either