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    I sometimes contemplate on where i fit in the D/s discussion, not that i have doubts about my type, as i know myself pretty much already, but how others see having a trans woman as a sub, thus what are the odds for me to find someone.
    I sometimes wrote on fetlife about how having a trans is different from both male and female, but also a mix between them and about how sad it is that porn industry portray ts women as dominant, which in fact probably has the same incidence as cis women are dominant.
    As far as i know and saw on some other sub ts, even if we still have a penis, due to the hormone therapy, it works different. For me personally, i can handle orgasm denial easier, but my sex drive decreases also, so the dynamic of the D/s must be sexual enough in nature/practice that the arousal is maintained, otherwise sex becomes irrelevant which is not really the purpose, i hope because then a useful tool of the power dynamic disappears. Also emotional attachment is important, because even if i get enough attention, if it's not meaningful, i get depressed. Those i think are more close to a woman sub, but there still is a penis, so CBT still applies even though with some adaptations depending on how the trans perceives her penis.
    Also, some other activities mostly related to humiliation are voided by default. By that i mean everything related to feminisation or some related public play becomes useless as my mental gender is female anyway. It can be replaced by public exposure as a ts, especially for someone like me who is 100% passable, wearing a dress or skirt without panties, can instantly become a humiliation tool of being discovered as not being a cis-woman, which even if the society is open, it still raises some eyebrows.

    So to allow this thread to have a line of thought, i am curious what do you think about Dommes having a trans woman or if you are a dominant woman, would you or it's just not your cup of tea.
     
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    Jessica Alexander Trans woman not a mistress or Dom

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    As a trans woman, I can totally relate. Porn is total fantasy and you aren't going to learn anything about trans-women through porn. While I may be bi, there is no way in hell I would top a guy. I even find gay guys to be a turnoff which is fine because gay guys aren't attracted to trans-women. I can be a bit dom with my girlfriend sometimes but we both play switch. Personally, I would find it a 100% turnoff for a guy to want me to dominate him and I'm sure that applies to many women which kinda sucks for straight guys that enjoy it. It might be fun to lock a guy's cock in a cage and tease him and raise his desire level through the roof but that would be useless if I couldn't let him out regularly to show me who the boss really is. Just my 2 cents and perspective.
     
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    i agree. Porn is fantasy. I wouldnt try and live your life by what porn has to offer. Just be yourself and it will turn out fine. ;)
     
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    Wendygirl To offer advice and keep CM safe and welcoming

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    Yep porn and life are a million miles apart.

    What makes a true trans person tick is the subject of a whole library of books.
    But as I bet 99.999% are not writen by trans people then they are a best guess .

    We do think differently as we still have our twin spirits though one very likely much more dominant lol

    Also as has been said if you are on hormones as far as M 2F your sex drive can drop to just about zero . Making chastity not very necessary .
    . Xx Wendy
     
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    Well, i do have some complications with the hrt, in the way that it's unclear if i can take estrogen or not so i am not taking it, thus just blocking the T. I also thought my sex drive will go down years ago when i started my transition, but it hasn't. Testosterone might help in an increased sex drive, but not necessarily. I do know some women with high sex drive, so i concluded the hornyness is in the mind rather than hormones since am still pretty much the same.
    And chastity for me it's more a tool of surrender and mental masochism, rather than a tool to block the sex drive. It's why i personally believe mental chastity is more deep than having a metal cage on which is not always practical for a trans woman due to the increased bulge...especially since i am skinny. And furthermore, chastity, regardless of its type, does nothing to my sex drive lol, i just become more kinky in ways different than cock related.
    Plus, in my case there are pros and cons. With a cage it's guaranteed no erection, but without it and without panties in public, it becomes a way of instant public play and humiliation. lol
     
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