Training a man to have fewer orgasms

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    hello @Yearning1 your question is easy to anser cos when men orgasm they make there willys big and hard and if a cage is lock on it then it cant go big and hard and that stops orgasm.
     
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    this made me lol, cause it’s the truth!
     
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    Training? Why is that necessary, and what would it look like?

    It's called will power and desire to please. Just man up and don't cum without permission. It can be done.
     
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    Ive had plenty of anal sex and vibrator orgasms soft...
     
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    I’m not really sure if it’s training, but going without something tends to normalize not having it.

    I went from getting off at least once a day and sometimes more to 7 last year. So far this year I’ve had 2. I don’t think it was any forethought to it, she just doesn’t physically need me to get off, and must like me more when I don’t. I’m fairly certain if I was well endowed, there wouldn’t have been a drop in my orgasms, but as is, it just doesn’t benefit her when I do.

    It was more of a natural progression of her not feeling guilty about focusing on her desires.
     
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    Are you serious about reducing the frequency of sexual release? First and foremost, no matter who holds keys, no one can stop you from sexual relief, except you. If you are serious, remove stimulus. Stop watching porn. Accept the reality that unitil told otherwise, you are done release. It is no longer for you.

    It's a bit like jumping out of an airplane. Prior to exiting the door, there's trepidation; the possibility of not jumping exists. Once you're in freefall, that hesitation is irrelevant. It's no longer your problem. Or option. You're falling. Embrace it. Likewise with chastity, so long as there's a reminder of what you could have or be having, it's much harder. You're not committed.

    Start with a time period. One week. Now you have a release-free period which is defined, and you have a goal. You will cum in one week. You needn't stress daily, for that week, about what you can't have; you'll get it, just not now. You are free to focus on other things. Perhaps for the first time in your adult life, you have energy, thinking time, and focus on something else. It's quite remarkable the amount of mental RAM energy that has just been freed-up.

    Round two, go two weeks. Harder. But doable. And so on, until she says that you go without, until she tells you otherwise.

    You can temper the path with negative reinforcement if you feel the need. Or if she does. Put pepper rub on sensitive spots AFTER your release; a punishment, of sorts, for the release.

    Presently I'm doing a few days of a similar effort regarding my choice of profanity, and it involves soaping of the mouth. I nearly swore earlier this evening, but caught myself thinking of the taste of ivory soap, and stopped. It's okay to ask her help. You're partners on the same path.

    The desire for release, in my experience, never goes away, not even as one ages. I can't do what I could do when I was younger, but it doesn't mean I don't want to. You'll find that with discipline, the art of exercising control instead of giving it up and giving in, is a strength that builds character on many levels. It brings rewards you'll only understand from doing, learning, growing. Strength of character affects all facets of your life. Learning to control your own orgasm teaches you about controlling time, making you a more efficient worker, a more patient husband, a more accurate driver; it has implications in all aspects of your universe.

    But first, you must try.
     
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    Spot on @HusbandX ! It all starts with yourself, not with being locked (only). The change of mental behaviour and habits is paramount to start with.
     
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    I notice you said your partner wants to do this to you. I would add to the good points above by saying you simply need to commit/promise and let him/her lead.

    My wife (then GF) got such a promise out of me when I had no idea what she was planning. She did/does a lot to make it fun for both of us. One we got a cage that could stay on she started doubling lockups. I was mortified (still am a bit), but I felt compelled to tell her what works (including how making her orgasm is as pleasurable as my own) and she quickly grew in power and ability. Now l go months between O's.
     
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    yes but thats diffrent.
     
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    Months? Ouch. How does that feel?
     
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    For me, honestly, incredible! Once you put yourself at the back-row, focus all energy at your love and enjoy every time your partner is enjoying an orgasm by your energy, you may discover that this satisfies yourself even more. My longest denial was 4 months and I "landed" at a place where I was not even more looking forward to an orgasm...
     
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    She trains you to focus on other things. Early on it would mean getting me aroused at another day of denial. Then it was looking forward to any out of cage edging, etc. Soon I started feeling great any time she let me service her (I always loved giving her an orgasm but its a whole new level of satisfaction now). I want to orgasm desperately, but my sex life is better than ever...

    Long term chastity is a drug. A very cool one, once hooked the price (your penile orgasms) is easier to pay. Besides, set up right it will not be your decision (which makes the drug more effective).

    "Come on in, the water is fine!"
     
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    For us it was simple, she just stopped unlocking me. A few years ago I was playing with myself and having 4-6 orgasms a week. Then she locked me up and it was down to once a week, then once a month. Now she just doesn't unlock me at all anymore. I haven't been unlocked for 325 days except for 2 quick device changes. Really cuts down the orgasms.
     
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    I'm getting the feeling from replies it might get easier as it goes on. That surprises me. I'd have thought it would keep getting more difficult when it comes to being denied orgasms long term.
     
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    i spose that it depend really on the man and how much mess he has got inside him.
     
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    This is easy. Get a good metal cage. Have a date night, have her lock on the cage in a ceremony with her totally clothed and you totally naked. And then play a game to determine how many days it stays on WITHOUT release. It could be as simple as rolling a dice 5 times and adding the numbers, and be as low as 5x1=5 or as high as 5x6=30. But here's the catch, every day you are locked up you must make sure she climaxes (orally, manual stimulation, whatever without release). And every day you miss making her climax, another day gets added to your imprisonment. She will end up loving this game, you will get emotional release by seeing her climax. And when it's over, the thought of being locked up for a week won't seem nearly as long anymore :rolleyes:.
     
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    If everything stayed the same then that's what you'd expect, but it doesn't.

    Immediately after an orgasm, the male hormone balance changes considerably, and it takes two or three weeks for your hormones to revert back to the 'no orgasm' state.
    If you practice chastity where it's continually less than two or three weeks between orgasms, then you're never really going into the "no orgasm" state, where you're in a constant state of arousal. Once you get past a month of no orgasms, you can go indefinitely, due to the "happy hormones", you're also content and no longer seek orgasm.
    It's a very different feeling to being denied for only days at a time, when you get much more frustrated and unsatisfied.
     
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    I have definitely found this to be true with my sub-hubby. Keeping him locked 24/7 and denied orgasms for the past 16+ months has kept him continually horny and aroused, which makes him more willing to obey and serve me. Also, he no longer desires orgasms for himself but instead now gets pleasure by providing them to others.
     
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    Rule #1.....make sure that the woman is pleasured and satisfied.
     
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    Quite right! The woman has to be the priority. I am a chaste male, caged fir circa 5 weeks, and I only get my sexual pleasure now through my wife’s orgasms. I am in a very happy place, not missing messy ejaculations. I am allowed out at times to try PIV or teasing- but stopping short in both cases of cumming. I don’t want the drop I will feel if I was to cum, and my wife likes me ever eager to pleasure and worship her. With our children grown up and left home there is no need for my seed anymore. The lack of mess and cleaning up after sex is a nice change.
     
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    That is the objective of submissives/slaves that we have our little cocks
    caged and controlled by a KH Mistress that loves chastity, frustration and negation of orgasm.
     
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    Exactly that. It's not that I don't want an orgasm, I'm often randy, and love being at that hightend level of arousal more often than not. I don't want to lose that feeling for hours or days on end after having an orgasm. That momentary peak just isn't worth it.

    Another thing is that I get so aroused and excited when she orgasms, almost, if not equally as much as when I do (or should I say did). When you have your own orgasm you just don't feel your partner's orgasm in the same way. That too I don't want to lose. It does bring you both so much closer.

    There's also her point of view. She's just so amazed that I'm prepared to give up my own orgasms for her, there's no other way to replicate that. I'm on cloud nine much of the time and she seems to be like that with me too.

    There's so many advantages that you just don't get when you "Wham, bam, thank you m'am".
    It would be so easy to go back to what we did previously, but neither of us would want that.
     
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    After a while having no orgasms becomes a way of life . In place of orgasms you feel aroused all the time . No big let down after cuming. You get to the state of continous arousal. Your in a stimulated state of existence .. You have more energy, more mental alertness, and every woman ( for single guys) looks hot. Married guts will find themselves catering more and more to pleasing their wives, not only sexually ,but in everyday life , maybe bring her flowers once in a while, breakfast in bed ,and house cleaning as she watches her favorite movie .
     
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