So, "we're" married (17 years) 40-somethings. After several false starts, we got properly in to Femdom about 8 years ago, from a discipline perspective. This led to chastity, which She initially rejected (when the cage arrived in the post), but enthusiastically fell in love with the first day I wore it. I'm now locked about 50% of the time. I'm also still spanked (hard and properly) when I piss her off (seems to average about once every two to three months). We both travel fairly frequently for work. We have a child. She recently was away for 10 days and I was left unlocked as to solo-parent whilst trying to stay undetected is too risky... however I was ordered to only pleasure myself over the 10 days once. I obeyed this request. Upon her return I was rewarded with a hand job before being locked back up. To my surprise She asked what I had fantasised about when I had my one wank while she was away. It had been her cuckolding me with a young black guy... classic BBC. But I didn't have to guts to say it. I just said I'd thought about Her just generally being Domme. Three nights ago, after sharing a bottle of wine and being allowed to go down on Her (no orgasm for me), I surprised myself and plucked up the guts to tell Her I had thought about Her fucking a young, hung black guy. Her instant and immediate response was "well I don't want to do that!". Last night. I get unlocked as I travel myself for a week later today. She's giving me hand relief and says "So, what's this about thinking about me fucking a black guy?"... I instantly get harder, she notices. Me: Well the dude isn't really in focus, it's more about watching you fucking and cumming hard. She: Wow. That's a surprise. Why would you want to watch? Why not you make me cum? Me: It's a wank fantasy, don't overthink it. *she's still vigorously pulling me off. Me: Doesn't have to be a black guy, could be any young, athletic (she smiles at this) well hung guy. Her: I see. (she's still pulling on me, but doing a bit of a middle distance stare). Me: Well, we could be at a fancy hotel, he could be a kind of butler... is this turning you on? Her: *laughs nervously* I'm just surprised, but whats not to like? Me: So maybe you are in the bath, in the hotel suite, and he comes in to dry you off and help you dress and you notice he's hung and rock hard... Her: OK, my head is spinning. I can't believe, I'm not sure. I'm walking you off and you're talking about me fucking another guy... Me: Do you find it hot? Her: It's too much, my head is spinning. Stop talking about it. Me: Are you going to lock me up when I get home? Her: Oh yes. 2 weeks. Me: with lots of servicing you? Her: Oh yes ...and the night continues. Do you think she'll broach the topic with me again?