I am part of an FLR relationship although lately have not been doing so well with it. I am really struggling with things to say to my hubby when we are apart via text. We both work and he works 24 hr shifts a few days a week. On those days we tend to not talk much mostly because I’m busy rushing around and at the end of the day I just want to fall asleep Or watch mindless tv. I’d really like to be able to text him throughout the day to keep him thinking of me however I can’t seem to come up with anything to say. If I do it would end up being the same thing over and over. Could you all please help in giving me some scenarios or ideas of things to send him during the week to get me started?
I've been reading Tease and Denial by Georgia Ivey Green which has a bit of inspiration for you. I think there are quite a few books by this author which might be useful.
The worst thing you can do is do nothing. Locked and forgotten is a lonely feeling. It's hard to say without knowing what you and your husband are into. I will say that it doesn't take much. To start with just use other people's work. Get memes that are already made and send those to him. You can just google male chastity memes. It used to be easier before TUMBLR got their panties in a twist. You can still find them on Pinterest and BDSMLR.com. As you read them, you'll develop ideas that fit you personally. I now use a meme generator for giving my wife ideas.
This is something you can really have fun with so don’t pressure yourself to come up with the “perfect thing to say”, just keep it simple. Take some pictures of the naughty toys you guys have and maybe pics of yourself or in some domme type attire or whatever. You could send him a pic of your legs in a pair of thigh high boots or a pair of heels with a small caption like “I own you” or something of the like. Or a pic of your key resting on some part of your body, tons of easy possibilities to tease your sub. Sometimes my Miss will just send me short one or two word texts just to let me know she’s thinking about me. She likes to call me “slut puppy” or just “slut”, sometimes ask me questions like if I’m leaking yet when dvd knows I’m desperate to have her. Anyway us chaste love any kind of flirting like that so you really can’t go wrong
What everyone else said, even sending the same thing over and over would work fine - simply knowing that you are thinking of him will be enough, in most cases, to keep him thinking of you.
It sounds more as if you lost your connection. That doesn't include your D/s relationship, but more your connection as the person you were when you fell in love/startetd dating/startetd your flr or whatever it was back then. Ask yourself this question: would a hard day stop you from getting in contact with the person who excites you? My answer is no. Because that person gives you energy back! Flr - all conviction aside is still a relationship and you both feel the same in not knowing what to say, because you're both unsure about your current status. Maybe take a break and get to know each other AGAIN. Work, daily routine, obligations and stress makes us drift apart sometimes. Find that spark what excited you in the beginning... the rest is simple and natural.