The Wife Files.

Just ignore her on this thread it's not about her. If she wishes to continue this conversation, I'm sure she knows how to send a private message.
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Things are certainly changing around our house that's for sure.
I feel by the time My pet is chaste more permanently he will already have some routines in place . It's been three weeks since we ordered. Time can't go fast enough

 

I don't want a war. Thats why I made the statement of ignoring and that if anyone needs to continue, it can be sent privately.

 

The slaps have slowed down!! And he has been saying my name even quietly thanking his queen when the kids are around.
I brought him home a gift the other day even tho he was rude to me over text. But walking in the door and seeing he did the chores I told him he didn't have to do pleased me so much. When we made it to bed I surprised him by pulling out his masturbator and letting him use it while I watched. After a while I took over I need to torment him a little befor we went to sleep. I don't know how many times I had him on edge but he said it was becoming exhausting, so I gave him a couple more edges and then told him it was time for sleep.

I was thinking of him and I doing a naughty Christmas card to share with this site.
I have to say I am so thankful to have found this place and all the people I have come in contact with.Well most of them.

 

Just as soon as everythign feel like it's just right it spirals out of control.
I have a daughter that came befor I met my husband. And the relationship with her dad, step mom , myslef and my husband has always been a bit of a horror story.
It's goes so deeps it's terrible. And heart breaking
All I do in life is try to make everyone happy especially her. I have always felt bad for and guilty for her having to have a split family.
And one thing my hubby is good at is making me feel like shit about it. Maybe it's not intentional but when ever it come up I'm always the one left to deal with it and feeling shitty
Now we have had a very terrible talk over text that has left me extreamly upset.
I was rather caught off guard by the way he treated me and can feel the bubble boiling inside of me. The one that usually comes out as rage.

I'm really not sure how to deal with it this time.

 

Merry Christmas to everyone in the mansion!

 

From a transforming woman's point of view.

Up until a weeks ago almost everything had been going great. The we hit a rough patch. There wasn't any sexual activity going on and some pre Christmas grumps.
Hubby was grumpy and tired and Then I got grumpy and tired.
I had been doing some "training" over the last couple of weeks. Trying to get him in the habit of calling me by my name. He caught on quick and I deffintaly felt this was boost in confidence, listening to my name being used in a dominant way was fun. It was a small way to take a lot of controll without him having to call me misstress or anything else but he found it difficult to do and complained often about it.HIs attitude about it really botherd me and it came up in conversation several time and the complaining never stoped

Here is the major dip that set me up for a bad mood.

He was busy taking care of my lady bits one night and I felt like I was getting very close to finishing when all of a sudden he stops, throwing his hands up in the air having a small tantrum about how what ever I'm doing is making it so he can't breath.
So that was it I rolled over, we had some heated conversation, I might of maybe cried a bit and went to sleep.
We ended up getting over it then comes Friday night.
I was so excited for Friday night becuase we were going out. It was befor Christmas I wanted to have a few drinks and give him a good spanking for the previous event.
We went to the local bar ended having a great night saw a lot of people we knew.
Once we left everything went downhill. Just a Note he went cageless. I don't know why or how that happend. The beggining of the rebellion I suppose. So as we were walking home, both of us pretty intoxicated, I made some comments about his penis when he stoped to make a pee and he got really offended. These were thing that we had been saying for a few weeks so it was nothing new.But I was drunk and wasn't scared to say it out loud.
Once we got the kids moved down to thier beds we were both pretty liquored up. But we got to talking and then taking turned to fighting and that was it. Night ruined. Everyone went to sleep angry.
I fell down a few stairs and really hurt myslef so I was a little grumpy and tired over that so that added to my already X mood. Then I was just a down hill spiral of feeling rejected and putting myself in a dark place. Questioning EVERYTHING. I was feeling like everything that was going on was wrong. But how do you explain that you are sad becuase your partner doesn't want to take a spanking, wear what you want him to wear or say your name?
That is the dumbest thing ever. That's how I was feeling though. And I felt like if he doesn't want to play by rules that And that he just wantex to play by the, pick and choose when it's appropriate rules, then what's the point?
Why tell someone to take controll but not want to let them take controll?
I was just at the point of ultimate doubt and confusion and I'm terrible at getting feelings out unless its anger.
So fast forward to where we have talked enought that I am feeling better and confident that we will succeed at what works for us and that willl work out for both of us getting what we want.
I will always love him even when I'm just want to lay in bed with a blanket over my head.
I will always love tha the come back to try and make me feel better even tho I want nothing to do wit it. But deep down I love that he is so persistent.
So we are getting thing figured out and back to the good feelings.

 

Changes in our game.

Well the new year has started and I am fineally feeling confident in mine and hubby's relationship and dealing with all our wants and desires.
After a week of him being unlocked, due to his stubbornness of not being able to follow my rules, I guess he had enough of playing with himself and he fineally came back to me. I'm sure he was also getting sick of my shit attitude towards him. As much as I said it was his choice to be unlocked all I wanted was for him to come back to me begging to take him back,and the fact it took him a week killed me and put a sour taste in my mouth.
After all the nights we had gone to bed upset I just wanted it to be all over. I just wanted him living between my legs ( as much as we can)And looking at me with that look all the time. I wanted my pet back. Living with out it makes for a heavy heart.
He brought up a good point yesterday about how we are either really in love and passionate always wanting eachother or the complete opposite. We reply have a middle ground.

We decided that I will be the dominant In our relationship but there will be times I let him have a small amountof power. But with my rules. And if I want him to be caged for the time then he stays caged. I also told him he would be regularly played with. I have a plan. And we will just have to see how it goes.

Last night he received an hour long play time.

I edged him over and over again. Slowly rubbing him and furiously rubbing him.
I played with nothing else but his penis. Letting him know just what I thought about it's uselessness and how soon he will be caged up for real.
At no time was he was not allowed to pleasure me.
We made it into the room where I I sat on top of his chest fully clothed, minus only my shirt, still with my bra on. I kept him lubed up. And rubbed him for what felt like forever. Continuing to edge him Over and over.
keeping myself inched from his face. I knew my panties were soaked. So I took of my pants leaving on my panties and sat right on his face and let him eat me. At this point I had fully planned on peeing in my panties onto his face.
I was shaking trying to get myself to get anything out. He had no idea this was happaning slowly I could feel my panties getting warmer and wetter and I could hear him moaning as he realized what was happaning.
He was drinking my juices. to explain all the feeling I had would take all day but just like a lot of first we have had this just made me feel intoxicated. I let him have a small spurt but nothing with him is ever small and it ended up being a very hard liquidy shot.that got all over him.
After we payed there I held him and giggled... like I usually do.
We showerd talked loved eacother. I giggled more.

I really believe he is ready to really do this and I think I am really ready now.
To me the fact we have already figured out this much without real lock ups is amazing.
I think it will make long term lock ups much easier when they start to happen.