The psychology of cage and key

Interesting and spot on in a way. Never thought about it like a “uniform” but that’s a great analogy.

I also think that both parties start to change or embrace the dynamic the longer they participate in this lifestyle. My wife has really come into her own recently…things she originally said she wouldn’t do or want to do, she’s considered and even decided to change her mind - getting me pierced with a PA is a good example. She starts to also realize the reminder of what she gets out of the relationship - a devoted husband constantly full of love, affection and obedience to her… not that we had any hint of a bad marriage before, but this has kicked it into another gear and the private bond we share with one another spills over into our “normal” life and others can see the devotion in our relationship, even though they don’t know the real catalyst behind it.

All I know is we’ve never been happier, and it’s hard to believe denying my orgasms for a while and adding in a few other fun things here and there have had such a profound effect on things. Wouldn’t change it for the world - other than maybe an occasionally more frequent orgasm, but that’s just me being selfish for a moment!

 

yes i agree, i feel something is missing if i'm not wearing my cage, and when i,m in panties i immediately turn in to sissy submissive mode, wanting more to please my wife.

 

I’m waiting to hear back from my Wife, her thoughts on whether she feels differently wearing the key. I have seen subtle changes over the last two years as the cage went from another kinky toy and play time, to the last 6 months far more serious and I’d say it’s now our lifestyle. She has a confidence in our alone time that has grown immensely, I truly feel our role swap is complete, mostly in our sexual lives but has carried over to all aspects. We’ve always been co-captains of our family and while that hasn’t changed, now simple things like laying on the couch together, she holds me, or when she mentions something sounds good from the kitchen or needs something, I jump up to fetch things.
I stay home and take care of the house, laundry, cleaning etc and she still works. This helped our swapping roles as “dominant” as well, made this just a more natural change I guess.

She responded to my text posing this question and responded that she feels more powerful, I’m hoping she’ll have time to expand on that.

I don’t feel any less “manly” in any way, if anything I just feel like an even better man in that everything my Wife & Queen needs or desires, I have an overwhelming desire to satisfy. Feel less selfish as the penis is not my main focus any more, and I know how quickly that changes when I’m allowed too many orgasms.
This role swap, the cage and the key just feels like the right way to live for us now.
It has changed us both, and for the better

 

Been reposted on Tumblr several times. Love it. Couldn't have said it better myself. Except I feel superior to those other guys that aren't chaste, not mild humiliation. They are missing out, and I pity them. Lol

 

Without a doubt it makes me think differently of myself. I'm secured with a PA. It's a 24/7 reminder I'm owned, dominated, and used by another. There is just no getting around it, at all. It's there and my penis stays locked till my Wife takes it off.

I think the flip side of this question is equally interesting. I will ask my Wife but my observation is that the longer she holds that key and sees my submission, the more power she gets. And she absolutely thrives on the control and humiliation angles.

For example, last night she ruined me with PIV. I was forbidden to move or thrust at all. Then she had me masturbate her to orgasm using my fingers in her pussy soaked with my own cum, THEN she had me clean her out orally giving her another orgasm. All the while reminding me that I didn't own her pussy and this Saturday her bull will be tearing it up in front of me. These are things she never did when we got started. But she does them now since she knows her power is complete and I do exactly as I'm told. This is a woman who does things purely on her own terms, for her own enjoyment. It's pretty amazing to behold.

 

Absolutely. The chastity cage and its prevention of erections helps to abate my socialized toxic masculinity and the penile narcissism I have developed as a masturbator, and helps me accept the feminine side of my sexuality and that I am sexually a beta male.

 

Agree! The psychology of chastity, the cage, the key, my being submissive, my being a sissy, etc are powerful forces in my life.

 

Being locked in chastity has eliminated every drop of toxic masculinity I previously had and forced me to respect, admire, and appreciate women in ways I never thought possible.

 

I voted no. My identity doesn't change because there is a piece of plastic around my cock. I was submissive to women before and I still am with or without the cage. To the outside world I am masculine and there is nothing feminine about me, nor will there ever be, certainly not because I am wearing a device.

With that said, when a Woman is around I am obedient, compliant, and ready to serve her every whims.

 

À great post and a very interesting subject.

before I respond to the topic: I am not a big fan of the statement the Lady becomes everything for his slave. I rather believe that a lady wishes a healthy, smart, committed partner who has her as his priority within a balance life. I believe anything else has a very short life expectancy, at least as a couple-relations

Keys and cage reinforce us in our role.
It doesn’t change my identity per se.
I view my love for my lady as part of my identity.
And the reinforcement of our respective roles while each wear her/his respective device (key/cage) deepens our relationship and our feelings.

 

I just enjoy being caged. I do not feel less or emasculated. I just like how it feels

 

I get that butterflies feeling, nervousness, vulnerability and embarrassment. I'm paranoid that it's visible under my clothing and I'll be found out.

I feel less confident, but also more relaxed and less aggressive.

Its constant reminder that I submitted to her, so all day I'm thinking about her as in charge of me.

 

An interesting topic. I don’t know if the permanent 24/7/365 Chastity cage procedure affected my personality, at least I haven’t noticed it - maybe you should ask my owner. What that device did is a deeper attachment to another person. In the past, in my previous marriage, I was unfaithful, shame on me, but I was a disgusting person. With the new relationship, almost everything changed. My wife, KH, knows my history and she locked me in as early as socializing. She has made it clear that She owns me, She owns a penis that I only have permission to carry. We live a very normal relationship, do things together and do everything normal couples do. The only difference is this little twist. In addition, my wife occasionally changes to the role of Mistress and uses me in every way possible - for the sole purpose of her own pleasures. Our everyday life tastes like vanilla, except that I’m locked up. Summa summarum - Cage and Key, changed me so that I'm just her and I focus on making her feel good in everyday life and great pleasures when she wants it - luckily, I'm stuck at the other end of that penis… Maybe after all this deliberation, I must admit that Cage and Key has changed my personality - I became loyal at once.