I'm not really serious about this, but since people like comparisons, here's a probably overly complicated model for describing your chastity relationship with your Keyholder. Introducing the LTO/o : K : A : T model Locked, Teased, Orgasms - Keyholder Involvement - Activates - Trajectory L - number that indicates what percentage of the year you spend locked: 0 = under 10% 1 - 10 to 20% 2 - 20 to 30% etc. 9 = 90 - 100% N = Nearly always. 98%+, you might be unlocked overnight once a month or so at most. A = Always, with a occasional brief (< 1hr) removals for cleaning, inspection, adjustment, etc. (but never for play) A+ = Always. Literally the device has not been removed all year, not even for cleaning, inspection, adjustment, etc. T - Teasing. On average, how many days per week are you teased without being allowed to orgasm? 0 - 7 = days per week M = multiple times per day usually O - orgasm frequency full/ruined W+ = more than once a week W = once a week on average S = semi-monthly, once every couple of weeks M = monthly, roughly once a month 2 = 2 months between orgasms on average Q = Quarterly, once every three months typically B = bi-annually, twice a year Y = yearly X = never allowed ? = It's been over a year and she hasn't explicitly said never again, but she also hasn't ruled it out, and maybe has hinted at it. before the slash = full orgasms, after the slash = ruined ones. K = keyholder involvement, how active and invested is your keyholder in chastity? 0-10 scale 0 = she wants nothing to do with it. 1 - 4 : she plays along, but it's my kink, not hers and I'm mostly topping from the bottom 5 : she takes the initiative most of the time now and no longer feels guilty about tease and denial. 6 - 8 : She's really into it, enjoys the power, and would be unhappy if we stopped 9 : She insists. She is fully invested in the Keyholder lifestyle. A = Activities allowed by KH P = you penetrate her with your uncaged cock sometimes, but not allowed to orgasm inside her. C = you're allowed to cum inside her vagina at least sometimes H = she gives you uncaged hand-jobs to completion B = she gives you uncaged blow-jobs to completion M = She allows you to masturbate to orgasm sometimes A = Things (dildos, prostate massagers, etc) go in your butt V = You are sometimes allowed to orgasm via vibrator E = you are sometimes allowed to orgasm via electricity T = You are sometimes allowed to orgasm via painful stimulation (e.g. CBT) Trajectory = what direction is your chastity headed? S = stable, it's what it is, and will likely stay this way + = increasing strictness (pct time locked increasing, orgasm frequency decreasing, KH taking more control, etc) ++ = rapidly increasing strictness - = decreasing strictness -- = rapidly declining strictness Examples it's expressed as an alpha-numeric sequence. For example, let's take a hypothetical couple, Carl and Jan. They've been playing around with MC for a couple of years. Jan usually unlocks Carl for sex every couple of weeks, and often forgets to re-lock him for a few days, and sometimes they go a couple of months without using the cage. Overall, Carl is locked up may half the time, and is teased a couple of times a week. They still have "regular sex" but Jan has decided Carl isn't allowed to masturbate any more. She doesn't ever ruin and orgasm, but she seems to be getting more and more into her role as a KH. They would be: 52S/x : 3 : CHB : ++ Then there's Mitch and Laura. Laura fully embraces her role as a KH and takes advantage of it, but also still enjoys sex with Mitch, though no longer gives him blow jobs. She doesn't consider it any sort of FLR, but she enjoys having control of their sex life and likes how romantic Mitch is when she keeps him well-teased and denied. He gets a full orgasm a few times a year, and in-between she uses ruins both for her amusement and to moderate his hormone levels. They're into some kink, for example she pegs him and likes to use some CBT on him. They are: 9MQ/m : 7 : PCHAET : + Then of course there's Pat and Carol. They've been married for decades, and she's decided MC is the way to keep Pat happy now that her own libido is more or less non-existent. She riveted his cage shut five years ago and it hasn't been off since. She thinks he had plenty of real orgasms already and doesn't need any more (she hasn't told him this yet, she wants to keep him guessing), but she will occasionally let him have a ruined O in his cage, usually by her using a vibrator or riding crop on his balls. They are: A+1?/q : 9 : VT : S Oh, and me and my KH? 8S2/m : 6 : CHVET : +
This matrix makes more sense to me that the current "denied" matrix, because it asks how often you actually get to orgasm, rather than how often you are denied.
But the more specific you get, to more likely someone will find something missing, e. g. activities: anal
But I see a point that is made easyly in two dimensions but much more difficult in the new approach. I am talking about clustering, are there groups of people with similiar habits and do they have further common things. I am a math girl. Please go oh with that discussion.
N2W+/X : 9 : CHM : S My wife would point out that this does not account for the substantial bondage that impels my return to chastity, when she’s done with play. Otherwise, pretty cool representation.
I think the clustering would be around particular ratings, then see if there are commonalities. For example, is there a correlation between Keyholder Involvement and orgasm frequency? I suspect there is a correlation between the K and the L ratings (higher involvement => more time locked). In fact, KH involvement is probably the most interesting rating for most of us - how does it impact the other activities as the woman becomes more confident and invested in her authority as the keyholder?
Hmmm, maybe that's a 9+ for the KH involvement rating then. She's highly invested and takes steps to insure her control, like bondage, or in another case maybe ordering her man to get pierced so there can't be any pull-out.
93M/S : 8 : PCHAV : + Most of the Activities my Wife allows for my pleasure have become increasingly rare, except the Handjob and Anal. Piv happens a few times a month, cumming inside her is a very rare treat or an accidental event any more, and using the wand on my cage only happens a couple times a year on a whim. It won’t be long until she hits the 9 level either and the strictness increases even more I’m sure, she definitely loves the benefits of this lifestyle. I do as well honestly
My Wife embraces all parts of femdom and BDSM but core to her system is Matriarchal Leadership and chastity. She is undisputed leader within the household. Our children are brought up in this family style but they were/are told that they are free to handle their own relationships as they see fit as adults. As her husband, I can give advice (which she asks for frequently) and exercise free will with specific tasks when assigned them, however I have no final say on any aspect of our family life. (This was not the case when we started our FLR, but it is now.) I also have no free will when it comes to things outside of my own private free time. If my hobbies require money, I have to ask for it, but I'm rarely told no. When it comes to chastity, I'm expected to be locked at all times except when told by Her to unlock. I am never allowed to masturbate or touch myself. Releases are unscheduled and totally random but near universally ruined or otherwise made less than comfortable. I've had 2 full on cum-as-I-want-enjoy-her-as-I-want PIV sessions this year. I get 1 to 2 releases on average a month. Most of these do not involve PIV but are ruins in some fashion, either by rubbing or by her hand. As the alpha and dominant, she has complete sexual freedom (including others) but I have absolutely none. With some notable exceptions, our family seems pretty normal. The kink is mostly hidden. Other stuff is there but maybe camouflaged? Take for example when we eat. We have a big family and many guests, often. So we have a super long table with many seats in our dining room. At a recent family get together at our home, my Wife sat at the head of the table, me on the side to her right, with her sister at the other end of the table, with all the rest of the family with me in the middle. I would get side eye from my Wife if I ever sat at the head of the table during dinner. It's one way she demonstrates her rule over the family. Even her older sister submits to my Wife's direction, but as a female she takes precedent over me as a submissive male. As I said, I live in a strict matriarchal household.
Yeah that system isn't simple. But N 5 M/M 9 CHAVE (chuckled at B, like no I'll never ever get one of those lmao) S
A+0X/x:9:none:++ Need a N for none on activities. My wife keeps it locked at all times. Its what she wants, and demands. Have been locked 24/7 for a little over 5.5 years now.
Hmmm, I'd assumed just 'blank' for none, but perhaps there does need to be a placeholder. 0 for none? or Z for Zero Activities? or maybe just <null>
For me: Locked, Teased, Orgasms - Keyholder Involvement - Activates - Trajectory L - number that indicates what percentage of the year you spend locked: 0 = under 10% T - Teasing. On average, how many days per week are you teased without being allowed to orgasm? 0 - 7 = 1 M = multiple times per day usually O - orgasm frequency full/ruined B = bi-annually, twice a year/ Q = Quarterly, once every three months typically K = keyholder involvement, how active and invested is your keyholder in chastity? 0-10 scale 2 : she plays along, but it's my kink, not hers and I'm mostly topping from the bottom A = Activities allowed by KH C = you're allowed to cum inside her vagina at least sometimes H = she gives you uncaged hand-jobs to completion M = She allows you to masturbate to orgasm sometimes Trajectory = what direction is your chastity headed? -- = rapidly declining strictness