Day 3: Yesterday my wife was very "teasey", making out with me and caressing me a lot. She did complain when she ground against me that she feels the device and it's not "me". I said the whole thing was silly and we could stop, and she said "no, let's keep giving it a try, it "protects me". geez. She came to bed completely naked to watch a movie even though I am caged. She would not let me do much to / for her during the movie (though earlier I gave her a foot rub). We talked about chastity and she said that it was "kind if nice" to have a break during the time of the month where she is not that horny. Ouch. She told me NO and "I said NO" when I tried to make out with her, only to kiss me deeply for several minutes when the movie was over, ask for a back scratching, and then tell me "good boy" prior to going to sleep. I guess that's "vanilla" now for us . This morning I awoke to find that the key to my device is no longer on my wife's nightstand. My device has been feeling uncomfortable and I was considering taking it off, but clearly in her mind game is now ON. I came downstairs and she was on the couch. I sat beside her with my head on her shoulder and hugged her very tight and whispered… Me: "I'm a little nervous" Her: "why?" Me: "the key to this is not on your nightstand" Her: "oh no, do you think the kids took it??" Me: "ha ha, do you know where it is?" Her: "no I am not sure what you are talking about" Me: "I'm getting a little bit scared of you" Her: "you should be" I hugged her veeeerrrry tightly for several minutes on the couch and she loved it. I was worried it was too much and when I tried to move on for the morning she pinned my arms to keep me from getting away. Her…"are you feeling a little bit "trapped" now hun? " Wow… just now I was hugging and kissing her... "you're starting to need it aren't you?" me..."well its been 4 days"...her..."is that the truth or are you trying to trick me again?"...she still denies that she moved the key. geez....
I’ve read many accounts of wives that left the keys on the dresser or in the drawer. Basically self locking with a witness. That has never been the case with my kh. As soon as she had a key she devised a plan for my emergency key that I carried. She printed a note, put the key on it, and laminated it. After a few months she mentioned that it didn’t feel like she had control because I could just use my emergency key anytime I wanted. I told her that she would know if I did, she countered with “but you still could”. I had never used it anyway so when my next device, that used my piercing to attach arrived, I gave her both keys. One I made into a pendant for her necklace, the other I have no clue where she puts it. She is not a super strict about always being locked, but she wants to be the only one unlocking it when I am. It has actually made this a lot easier knowing she is into this, and not just humoring me.
dude thats awesome!!! She is definitely getting into it. I'm so happy for you guys. But yeah still play it cool haha.
I will be honest I think she is acting out what she thinks I want. Which is fine, but to make it to long-term stuff she needs to stop pressuring herself to tease me and learn what she can get out of it. But I'm so happy we are testing the waters. You say "play it cool"...yea I'm fine when we are just going through life's motions but when we sat on the couch beside each other and she's dressed up nice in leggings with a perfect manicure, my balls are tingling and she has the key hidden... I haven't felt like that in 30 years and I could easily blurt out a lot of over the top vows of love and devotion that would scare her. Whew!!!!
For sure, hang in there. Our marriage has taken a lot of work over a long time to get to the point in time like this one. Like most things in life its 95% work and 5% magic.
ha ha yeah I know the feeling. Well make sure you tell her some of those things. I think women love hearing those kinds of things.
I definitely have. There have been some unique moments the last 24 hours. She unlocked me last night and we made love this morning. Oddly I struggled to finish but sometimes that happens in the dark of 5am with a wine hangover. She did make a threat about locking me back up, but I'll bet if that is what I want I will have to initiate it. I'm sure this is all very confusing for her. Its not for me...for 2 1/2 days there was nothing clearer or more natural, I want my wife holding the key. (maybe after I get a better device though)
that is really awesome! I think it will take some time, maybe years before we get to that point. I think my wife will still crave the back and forth of who is "in charge" sexually in our relationship for a while. But I know I want her holding the keys as much as possible!