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The increased respect effect.

Discussion in 'The Pedestal' started by Mascara^Snake, Jan 1, 2016.

  1. My Lady and I were talking about this last night. I told her I thought men were more hormonal than women. The normal vanilla male is going to come every 24-48 hours whether his wife/girlfriend gives it to him or not. So the peaks and valleys of the chemical crashes surrounding orgasms are masked.

    Once a man is effectively chastised, he starts to notice those chemical changes at orgasm, especially post-orgasm. And for most of us, we don't like the result. So we prefer to be in that middle ground, not peaking, and not at that post-orgasm depression. That middle ground, where we kinda-but-don't-wanna climb the peak, is what makes a chastised sub the sweet caring man wives want.
     
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  2. Very Very well spoken. My Hat goes off to you in Respect of your Wisdom
     
  3. SubSnuggler,
    Thank you for the wisdom. Post-orgasm depression, a very interesting insight to the chemical and hormonal changes. It takes a strong mind to look so deeply into the emotional side of things. I have notice that chastised men are higher on the emotional intelligence scales as they are being trained to refocus attentions.
     
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  4. Respect is earned regardless of gender or sex games played.
     
  5. Vinny do you mean to tell me that you would have just as much respect for a slug as you would a tiger?
     
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  6. I have been locked for 2 years and have had PIV sex 2-3 times during that time. I love and respect my wife more now then in the last 20 year of our marriage when we had sex almost every day. I used to be a jerk after I had my orgasm. Now I worship the ground she walks on. I encourage her to masturbate while I am at work so she is fulfilled and happy when I get home. I have bought her several new toys including a sybian. She has told me several times that her sex life is better then it ever has been.
     
  7. such a lovely observation......thank you for contributing to our sight in such a meaningful way.
     
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  8. This thread is hugely insightful for me ... although I'm still a Chastity Trainee I'm kinda leaning towards lockits response.

    However I am going to return to this thread further down the road
     
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  9. I know my Goddess wife notices a change in my behavior when I am locked up a few days after a full orgasm. I don't think its a change in respect though. I think its a change in desire to please. I always respect my wife, I always in love with her and devoted, but I know what she is talking about. After a few days I am wanting to play and start to be more and more affectionate. I think there is a major difference between respect desire to please. Love the idea of the hormonal portion above, thought provoking.
    I can respect someone without wanting to do anything to please that person.
     
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  10. I have to agree. It's only been about 5 weeks for me, but my wife/keyholder has already commented on my improved behavior. It's hard to explain, but I can even tell that I'm more calm, compassionate, and appreciative overall and to her in particular. I catch myself routinely volunteering to take care of household tasks that I would bitch and moan about before. Plus, the minute we get in bed at night I've started asking "May I pleasure you, baby?" and then assume my position. (on my knees on the floor at the foot of the bed, waiting for her to drop her legs over my shoulders)

    I think there must be something hormonal to it. It's more than just being excessively horny. I actually now get pleasure/satisfaction from serving her.