The Highs and Lows of Chastity from an Addicts perspective

Today is my birthday, which means it is playday. Not sure if she will want me to cum. Last time, if my recollection is correct was 17 days ago.

My wife was just away on a business trip for a week. In that week I was locked without emergency key.

The new locker 2 is working perfectly, painless nights. 1 entire week without any pleasing, teasing or playing, really looking forward to tonight. Very happy she is back.

 

So how WAS my birthday?

Well first, I was extremely happy to have my wife back. I took the day off to cycle and since the looker2 is shorter than the contender i noticed that it is chuffing more on my bike. so i need to either fix it from time to time or have sore spots. Since I was going 1000 altitute meters and more than 50 km i asked my wife to take it off.

She did and she took the time to edge me a few times. on random places, while she took a dump. In the bedroom standing... Always pretty short but her dick grew fast and I loved the attention.

She slept in the morning, and for lunch I was back, she got the kids and when she slept number 2 I played with number 1. My wife laughed at me when she woke up and said, be prepared I am full of energy and she had a evil smile. I asked if I was in trouble and she said no....

Then came the night, she slept the kids and went to sleep in their bedroom. I was ordered to unlock before she slept the kids so I did that, had a shower and waited. When I realized she is asleep I locked up again and was calm. No anger no being upset at her, nothing.

In the morning she apologized to which I said, don't, you were exhausted from the week long work travel it's fine. So today, if we are both awake we have a big play date coming up. Excited

 

So the big playdate was very nice. It was no the 27th at night. For the first time ever I used some numbing spray which worked exactly as desired. I put it on when she went to sleep the kids.

She teased me a lot, used the wand and wanted me to fuck her. I asked her if I was allowed to cum and she said yes. I loved it as i didn't feel like I had to be careful. In the end I did come but with her or shortly after her. It was amazing. She and me were very happy and went to sleep.

About a week later she let me come again. I came before her even though she used the wand in addition. But i managed to stay semi hard until she came. She loved it for me it felt like mehhh. But was very happy that she loved it and that made me happy.

Yesterday was very interesting. She wanted to do some CBT as part of a slight punishment. But I just didn't feel too submissive. So i protected my balls. She tried a few times and got upset and said no more playing for tonight. I turned around and slept, a little sad. In hindsight she did the right thing and am happy she did.

This morning she asked me to talk and told me. "Look, you always have a safe word, but if you don't use it you should let me do", I fully agree and agreed, never used the safe word, never want to. But what I told her is if she wants it to work better she should tie my hands. Seems she noted that.

Happy with my wife. And in Love.

 

Just a little bit horny! post orgasm blues.

Incredible... so I am going from pleasing myself on average twice a day only 18 months ago to being grumpy because I came twice in 2 weeks.
Isn't it crazy how our bodies adapt?

I chose the title because thankfully after 1 week of hell I am a little bit horny again. When I am a little bit horny it seems my wife and me have less issues and love each other more.

I feel grumpy in the post orgasm phase but I never feel that I am bad with my wife, just feels she is different with me. She thinks differently and probably she is right!
Fact probably is that it is me and my hormones.

There was no love, no touching, almost no cuddling in the past 7 days. However now that I am a tad horny I am looking more for her and it seems she is responding.

On a side note. After my Vasecotmy in November I need to go shoot a load to be analyzed. I don't want to do it as I am only just recovering. But that will probably be my next orgasm. In a Hospital Toilet, how romantic.

 

Hey @PouchPantyLover, glad to read from you. Hard to give advice because they are all so similar yet so different

If you are three months in I think best is to wait a few months and let it settle. It is a lot of new stuff for them to take in at the beginning and sometimes it is better to take things slow.

The way I started back in the day was that I asked her for it. I had prepared her and talked about it and she never really reacted a lot so then one day I told her that I was bad and that I feel really sorry. I asked her if she would please punish me once the kids are asleep. To my surprise she said yes. After that moment we discussed it more. She hasn't done it in a while and I miss it.

 

It has been a long time since I last wrote here. Some things have happened. Mostly positive.
We started Couples Therapy We knew we love each other before and we knew we wanted to get old together but boy is that Therapie helping getting us even closer. No word about Sex in Therapy, or almost non as this area is working extremely well since Chastity.

I bought my wife a Riding Crop and so far she only used it once. The feeling I get when she tells me she is going to punish me is extreme. Then when it is about to happen I would like to chicken out, I would if I had the chance. But there is something about it I enjoy, very hard to describe. And once it is over I really feel conected and thankful and just want to lay my head on her breasts. Then when it is over I start fantasizing about being punished again..

But now the JUUUUGE improvment.
Before knowing my wife I was always proud of my oral skills and it was one of my favourite bed time activities. My previous partners loved it. My wife however never really liked receiving oral. In the past 10 years I have made many compliments about her smell, told her how much I want to be down there and took every opportunity I could to please her orally. It was never her thing. She usually pushed me away BEFORE Orgasm. That has changed It was on holiday when she was extremely horny and wanted me down there and kept me down there until she came. It was amazing for her and she has since demanded me to do it again and again and again. Makes me extremely happy and I am feeling very connected to her.

 

so nice to receive feedback thanks @Chesty LaRue

I learnt a lot from chastityforums when starting and wanted to give back and it is also cool for myself to have a diary... My wife and me have had very different upbringing and very different ideas about how to raise our kids. This caught a lot of fighting between us. After we started the Chastity Journey we seemed to be great as a couple minus the diriction of the kids. However, obviously if there are fights or resentment it affects the entire relationship.

Therapy is helping us a lot. And it was interesting as the Therapist commented on the fact she is happy that we came when we were good and not when we were having some sort of crisis (death, job loss, infidelity) as things are easier to strengthen and fix in good times. I started Chastity in Oktober 2015.

 

Almost forgot your last question @Chesty LaRue my key is in a draw where I have access to. I never unlocked to cheat, but I did in the past masturbate when unlocked or even played with the wand.

When she leaves on business though we lock the key in to this numbered lock box : KIDDE SAFETY 001844 Lock Magnet Key Case https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000BFY6EU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_Li4HzbN4MQJH4

 

it is indeed a weird one

thanks Mate... it was pretty exciting for me to read it again...

 

awesome!!! haha / thanks for letting me know... VERY Exciting... I will read the entry to my Wife...

 

I continued my journey here: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/phase-3-year-3.25938/

moderators, would you mind closing this one? Or would it be better to just merge the 2?
@L-u-c-y @Mistress Jules ? Thanks