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I assume male sexuality drives most of their fetishes no? Otherwise why would it be called a fetish? Fetish implies sexual desire.

 

There are 1000s out there, but they don't necessarily proclaim intent. After all, the dynamic between cagee and cager must be right. The sacrifice must be felt and the trustee must understand their role too. To just class it as a turn on, devalues what has been given and taken. Porn of course will just show the superficial. So vanilla wankers can get their fix and females just get the easy single perspective.

 

Well again, an over simplification. This is why a site like this should reject the porn view of this activity. It just prevents people from broadening their understanding.

 

I would never wish to rob someone of the gravitas of their decision, and it doesnt have to be 'completely' sexual. But it strikes me that I simply couldnt see someone doing it without that desire being present there. The desire to be caged, the desire to submit, these are built on foundations of lust no? Otherwise it could be very unhealthy for someone to give something like that up out of some sort of self loathing. Does that make sense?

 

Well again, one needs to broaden one's perspective beyond either the porn representation, or the assumption that such a sacrifice is due to self loathing. One needs to get deep into a genuine dynamic to see the true motivation.

 

Porn is one thing. Home made videos can show a part of the reality of it aswell.

 

or homemade porn as I like to think

 

I have been, believe me. The desire to submit and to give up something so...personal? As sexual freedom is a powerful motivator, but that desire almost assuredly stems from the belief of being lesser and being thrilled by that realization. Its a part of the bedrock, and Im struggling to believe they could be separated. So we have to ask 'why would someone willingly go into chastity and THEN give their keys off to someone whom they consider superior'? I can see being chaste as a personal choice, religious folks do it all the time! But the second decision, to give the keys to not just anyone, but a dominant, is the part that is ineffably sexually charged to me.

 

Your perspective is your reality, that's ok, but it's not reality writ large, just yours.

 

Of course, but I would seek understanding to the contrary then. Do you have any experience to describe in this regard?

 

I suppose I can agree with that, the degrees to which someone might engage can certainly shift between people.

 

To overcome porn adicction like is my case, there could be many reasons, another user tolds us in a thread that chastity was his wife idea and it last resource to prevent their divorce as the man wasnt very loyal and had some extra marital adventures

It dont have to be sexual per se, i am pretty sure that if i finally get a cage that fits me i wont enjoy at all the experience

 

Porn addiction can be very serious, Im sorry to hear you're struggling with it. But to you it wouldnt be the fetish then right? More the 'I need a solution to keep my hands off myself'? It wouldnt involve the power dynamic then right?

 

Well one would need to place oneself outside of the usual porn stereotypical scenario to fully embrace the essence of such a sacrifice. Opening the mind to allow the possibility that this can execute without the sexual elements in play. A real dynamic where sacrifice is an obvious element and it's received with the understanding a knowledge of what that means.

 

Yeah, i cant keep my hands away and it is a real problem. I think chastity could be a solution for my lack of self control

I had read many posts from Lucy and she is a smart girl, if she thinks it is for the best it is because it is, i trust her jugdement

 

This thread has veered wildly off-topic in several directions, including spite between members and questioning a command decision by the person who pays the bills. If you disagree, go set up your own hosting and upload whatever you want. It's reminiscent of the time when dick pic avatars were banned, and the focus on sissification was downplayed. Any decision will offend someone eventually.

I would suggest it's time to lock this thread and be done with it.

 

A couple of truisms:

1. You can't please all the people all the time.
2. When you try to be everything to everyone you end up being nothing to no one.

 

This site only has 22,654 penis and butthole photos.

Sorry I have nothing constructive to add to this topics but That’s priceless!!!

 

I don't have a problem with the little videos or more explicit photos as I support free speech. But this is your site, and you allow us to participate here, so I will gladly submit to your control and obey your decisions.

 

I totally agree and support your decision Mistress Lucy. It's nice to have a distinct and different community, where we can talk the whole side of chastity and FLR, not just the sexual part.

 

Don't know whether I'm amazed or shocked (still can't decide) how a simple announcement created such an amount of "philosophic", "psychologic", "linguistic" and even intolerant amount of replies!

 

I’m not
People would complain if they were given a million dollars.

We don’t have to always agree, but if we want to be participants here we need to respect Ms Lucy and her decisions.

 

Gosh! This is going on a bit isn't it? Lots of people, lots of opinions! In the end though the only one that really matters is that of L-u-c-y!