The Future of Chastity

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    Perhaps the most striking element -- at least to me -- in the comments on this site is how
    positive they are. In the typical case a male has a pre-existing interest, often exclusively
    fantasy-based. After some hesitation he suggests it to his partner, who (again, usually) has
    never heard of it and thinks it is a bit weird, but is willing to give it a try. They do, but their
    expectations are not high; in the best case (they think and say) it might be fun for a few
    weeks.

    But often both partners find that the returns are remarkable, far exceeding expectations, making
    their relationship deeper, more intimate, and much more satisfying. Often they say explicitly
    that they wish they had tried it earlier, and swear never to go back to the old days. We read
    something like this story again and again.

    It is hard not wonder whether couples in general -- not *all* couples of course, maybe half? one in
    ten? -- might not benefit from chastity. But then you have to wonder, if the benefits are so great,
    why are only a relative handful practicing it today? I mean, if some exercise or drug generated the
    reports we hear from chastity users people would be lining up. Wouldn't they?

    Maybe, maybe not. Chastity has several issues. One is that it is complicated and there just isn't (yet)
    a therapeutic profession (that I know about) targeting these issues, which run from sizing to a huge
    spectrum of relationship affects and changes. (Though there are websites, like this one, that do
    provide real help.) Everybody is on their own and while many do manage, I would understand if the
    landscape seems intimidating. Second, chastity is not cheap, measured by either money or time.
    (People sometimes have to buy several devices to find one that fits.) And perhaps most important,
    chastity relationships are inherently FLRs -- female led relationships -- and this might be a problem for
    most men. Perhaps the very idea of locking up their cock and giving the key to their partner is
    unthinkable. It certainly runs against the presumptions of the culture. If the current rate of usage is
    (I have no good data) one couple in ten thousand, which would suggest a total national usage rate of
    about 100,000 couples, maybe that is just not enough to allow enthusiasts to feel comfortable about
    talking about the practice with their friends and family. I guess the fear is that they will sound or
    seem less masculine. Or, in another word, weird.

    So we have a face-off. On the hand we have what looks a behavior that seems like it might benefit lots
    of people; on the other, a deep cultural prejudice preventing them from realizing that benefit. Are these
    two forces permanently locked? Will the incidence of chastity be the same in a hundred years? Or is it
    possible that the benefits will gradually, subtly, push the prejudice back?

    Who knows. I personally hope that in a few years the incidence of chastity will be several times what it
    is now. If anything like that happens several benefits might follow. One is that therapists, especially sex
    therapists, will make it their business to recognize when patients might profit from chastity and counsel
    them accordingly. There will be services that make it their business to monitor developments in the field
    -- right now, if an interesting new cage appears on the market, I have no confidence I will even hear about
    it. Of course users will feel much freer to talk about their experiences with family and friends. Other
    cultural changes might follow. I could imagine couples making the offer of a key into a ceremony. Who
    knows?
     
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    My Wife/KH says if Wives knew the benefits of chastity for their husbands, they all would engage. Maybe.
     
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    I think that in this case, we have a non-representative sample. On this site, most of the people are those who are strongly turned on by chastity. In general, chastity doesn’t need to be such an unforgettable and new experience to bring pleasure if it’s their kink.

    For example, what social or familial significance does a kink have when a man wears women's underwear? Is it softer and thus makes the man gentler? No, essentially there is no difference between men's and women's underwear. But the very fact that a person obsessed with this kink has finally crossed social norms and started wearing women's panties makes him happier.

    The same goes for chastity. This, I believe, is the reason for so many positive stories. People simply crossed the norm and began to enjoy their kink.

    Then, the number of positive stories is greater because they resonate more. I wrote my story about how difficult chastity was for me - a real experience, a year of my life. And in response, I got half the comments more negative than supportive and positive. I think stories of failure are just doomed to appear less frequently and elicit less reaction, hence they get lost in the stream of messages.

    I don't think we can confidently say that more couples will benefit from chastity than we currently have. I think it's perfectly normal that only a small number of couples need chastity. After all, it is a sexual deviation. Now imagine some fetish that you don't like, that disgusts you. And now imagine that someone with this fetish thinks that more couples would benefit from it. Would you agree with his opinion? Most likely not, you would simply ignore that opinion because it is not close to you.

    So I believe that we cannot draw conclusions based on a non-representative sample. And we are not a representative sample here. What is good for us is good because we need it. Others do not need it. And there aren’t that many of us. How many people from around the world communicate here? Hundreds. And I don't know of any other, more solid platforms on this topic.

    Don’t take this as a sermon, I just wanted to ponder it with you.
     
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    That's it for sure.
     
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    What you are saying here is perfectly possible. But I hope not. All I am saying is that the comments posted here leave me with impression that if chastity was more popular the effect on the society would be positive. Perhaps I am being misled.
     
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    Imagine the entire world fighting about the meaning of the word "permanent".. :)
     
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    Kudos! This is one of the best written and most well thought out responses I've read on this forum in a long time. Thanks!
     
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