The eventual conclusion of a long journey!

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    Hello everyone!

    I'm here because my wife (mistress) and I have been messing around with chastity with increasing frequency for the last several years, since before our marriage. It started as something I saw in porn then became intrigued by and finally told my wife about.

    We ordered a basic metal cage from Amazon (the black one, I'm sure you've seen it,) and started playing around a little as sort of a foreplay device. I'd go down on her with it on and she'd make me bring her to orgasm several times before invariably unlocking me.

    Well, we eventually got into me wearing for longer times, but got a little too invested in the online fantasy bullshit and couldn't quite get the swing of the power exchange. After all, we were newlyweds who wanted to fuck and I had this stupid idea that she would just be a dominatrix and our whole life would change.

    We've always been very open and communicative about our sex lives and admitted that this kink probably wasn't super in our wheelhouse, although it could be occasionally fun.

    I still read about chastity online because the fantasy was insanely hot to me. Finally, I would find sites that don't move to the fantasy of dom/sub or sissification (no hate or offense intended, just not our brand of chastity,) and they'd describe how to use it as a fun tool to keep sexual spice alive.

    Once we moved toward that avenue, I started feeling more comfortable with longer lockups, and enjoyed making my wife the sole pleasure receiver. I even ordered a custom cage from mature metal with a security screw.

    Chastity became so fun and allowed us both to get so much sexually that we've recently made the determination that my last lockup (4 days ago) would be continuous for at least six months. If after that (which is conveniently our anniversary,) if my mistress decides, I'll go into permanent chastity only getting ruined or caged orgasms 4-6 times a year.

    Needless to say, we're both so excited to get here, and hoping to find like minded people!
     
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    Welcome to CM! I am sure you will find what you are looking for community-wise.
     
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    Thank you for being so kind! Looking forward to meeting people!
     
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    Sounds like you guys have found what works/will work for you as a couple. Welcome and best of luck to you guys on your journey
     
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    Thanks so much! I think we've finally struck that balance. For anyone on the verge of giving up, my advice is definitely STICK WITH IT.
     
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    Hello and welcome. Good luck to you both.
     
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    Thank you very much!
     
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    There are a whole bunch of us just like you, not into some of the other stuff that often go with chastity. Good luck with your journey and keep us posted of the developments.
     
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    Thank you very much! It's so nice to see such amazing support so quickly!
     
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    Welcome to the Mansion and enjoy your journey
     
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    Welcome. Hope you enjoy being part of our community.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Hi and welcome!

    I haven’t heard of anyone yet that hasn’t eventually evolved to some other level eventually. People start at point A and rarely is that the exact place they want to be forever.

    When we started she thought I should be unlocked almost every night, teased, given orgasm. I can’t remember exactly when that stopped, but she eventually changed our fun sex kink, into me staying locked until she thought it was time I deserved an orgasm. Which went from around 26 orgasms and nightly unlockings, to about 4 or 5 orgasms and the same amount of times unlocked.

    We (or they more like) tend to move toward what is best and what works, so evolving is natural and expected. Good luck!
     
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    That's a great way to put it! I'm honestly so excited and love the power and pleasure it gives her!
     
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    Welcome!
     
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    Welcome aboard! I believe finding the proper fitting cage is super important for long term lock ups. That's something you'll evove into as well. I've had numerous cages over the years including a couple from MM. I eventually found a slightly modified Amazon plastic knock off was perfect for me. It's been two years and its worked well. Are you participating in Locktober?
     
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    I hope it goes well for You ;) by well i mean that you'll end up locked and orgasm free for good :)
     
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    Sounds like you and my mistress have been talking!
     
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    jemima maid for my Mistress

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    Thanks! I love it so far!
     
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    Or my KH treats me similiar way ;)
     
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    Welcome!

    Be sure to look for the newly added “Chastity without feminization and cross dressing” sub-forum.

    It sounds like you are off to a good start!
     
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