the essential rules of self locking

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    First of all I would like to point out that I am not a pro or a doctor or any other kind of specialist. I am just a curios person who is into self locking with a chastity device. When I first started experimenting with chastity I ran into a lot of problems while wearing the device and I am sure that at this moment I am not at the point where I fully understood the whole thing, because therefore it is just to big. In Addition to that I only experienced self chastity, not the real deal like a flr or any other kind of chastity relationship.

    If there are any hints and advice from your side that I have forgotten, please feel free to correct me. I would be glad. Since the goal is to have a small list of different tips and tricks for your own journey.


    Tips and Tricks at the beginning

    Before you start with self locking you should be aware why you are doing it. Is it just a sex game or do you want to achieve other things? Perhaps a more submissive mind level or simply correct your masturbation habits? You will quickly realize that without the proper motivation you will only experience a very small part of the whole chastity thing. Because it is definitely much more than just a kink. I personally think about it as a deep experience of your own borders and feelings. It is always interesting how long I can resist my own desires and what it is like having no chance of release.

    Once you know why you lock yourself in, the journey can begin. To make the journey easier, I'll give a few little pieces of advice first. !Note: I assume that you already own a suitable cage. If you don't have one yet, there are many helpful threads on this wonderful website!

    1. Don't put too much pressure on yourself when you start your journey. There will always be new things that you will experience and they will not always be good. Learn to deal with disappointment and failure. Chastity is not a sprint but a marathon. Enjoy it!

    2. Take care of your health. Health includes hygiene! Do not overburden yourself with wearing the cage. Pay attention to the health of what is inside the cage.

    3. Avoid pornographic material or sexual content. The more I gave in to my desire, the more painful the experience became. Sometimes I had to stop because I just got blue balls. Not a good experience for a beginner!
    Exception: There are chastity captions and art. Sometimes looking at them helps improve one's motivation or even reach a certain state of mind of submissiveness. Don't look at that too much! In a way, this is pornographic material too!

    4. Try Chastity first in a safe environment. Don't expect to be able to wear the cage all day or even while you are at work. Chastity is a fetish and should not cause you to restrict your life.

    5. Once you use/wear your cage you no longer have a penis! Think about it and let it sink in.

    6. Try to enjoy the time in the cage! Think about how good the tight feeling of the cage feels. If it doesn't feel good you are doing something wrong! (Think about the health aspect)

    7. Don't think about the cage too often! If it feels good and you don't actually feel it, you are on the right track.

    8. Buy a device with which you can lock away the keys for fixed times. This is better than freezing or shipping the keys. For support I recommend EmlaLock.com.


    Some Motivation

    Here are a few tips to make the experience complete and enjoyable:

    1. Try to use your time in the cage to do something good. Take care of the household. Set goals that you want to achieve. If you make a good deed out of wearing the cage, you will enjoy your self locking more and more.

    2. Observe how the cage changes your behavior. Remember you no longer think with your dick (maybe that's a goal of your journey?). Try to reflect on your behavior and observe yourself.

    3. Increase your cage time from day to day. In this way you can strengthen your long-term motivation and break your own records.



    If you are aware of what you want and what options you have to try Chastity, the whole process will seem much easier. You may even be able to experience more positivity than you think right now. I hope my advice is helping you enjoying your time in the cage and throughout that improving your own chastity journey.
     
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    Nice ideas. I can see how making such a list would help those that self lock. Have it personalized to each individual. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    Thx for your feedback. Do you have any ideas to add to the list?

    I am curios about the methods of others :)
     
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    very nice post and accurate its more than just a kink .After years of trying different one,s and different time scale,s i can quite comfortably wear one for extended sessions my longest being 89 days .For me it is a affirmation and a way for me to accept my submissive nature .And i agree best thing to do is experiment and dont dive in head first sending your key to some one not known for more than five minutes ..or making the keys entirely impossible to access remember safety first always.
     
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    I have quite a competitive streak and always aim to improve in whatever I am doing (going to the gym, lift heavier or do more reps, golf - don't repeat dumb mistakes etc), in chastity, I equate that to time between orgasms and that's one of my motivations (who doesn't like breaking a record).
     
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    Thank you for posting this .
    I have a different point of view on a couple of things:
    1. I watch porn A LOT!
     
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    Pressed the Post button too early, sorry.
    I watch porn and it helps me with feeling the thrill of orgasm denial. I want to FEEL the desire to orgasm and the FRUSTRATION of not being able to.

    2. I also fantasize a lot. While giving up the dick is true, I find the realisation that it's there but beyond reach most helpful with sissification. It reminds me I'm on a journey in which I'm not a man, not a woman, and sexual desire and frustration are energies to be channelled toward self-sissification
     
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    Don't cheat yourself. Saying you will lock yourself for 48 hours and then unlock at 47 because it is close enough, and you could totally do that hour no problem if you wanted to.
     
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    Very interesting and helpful especially if your partner/wife is not interested in this type of thing but you feel that you need to continue with this lifestyle alone.
     
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    I have been into self-locking for about a year now and I usually wear my cage for a fixed period, say one or two weeks.I put the key in a bottle of water in the fridge and I have a tiny device in which I can lock the spare key. These experiences made me conclude that I am ready for a Master Key Holder.
    Chastity strongly intensifies my sexual feelings and my nipples have become very sensitive. It makes me feel like the sissy that I want to become and chastity is very helpful in this process. Though my sexual feelings are sometimes overwhelming, I can resist the desire to masturbate and cum. I just want to abstain from the usual orgasm and only want to experience assgasm and nipple-gasm (which is witihin reach).
    That is what I need a Master Key Holder for, to be his sissy and to serve him any way he wants.
     
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    I just ordered my first custom device, expensive. In hopes to be locked for a long time without problems. Im doing it not only out of self-fetish, but personal growth on levels to long to explain. I feel very drawn into chastity, so im excited following my heart. I do fondle myself to much. In time im hoping to find a keyholder of some sort.
     
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    @Guy7 What cushion have you ordered? Good luck
     
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    Thanks for the support, i ordered a jailbird, it will take about a month - or longer. Took me a very long time to get to this point.
     
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