the essential rules of self locking

Nice ideas. I can see how making such a list would help those that self lock. Have it personalized to each individual. Thanks for sharing.

 

very nice post and accurate its more than just a kink .After years of trying different one,s and different time scale,s i can quite comfortably wear one for extended sessions my longest being 89 days .For me it is a affirmation and a way for me to accept my submissive nature .And i agree best thing to do is experiment and dont dive in head first sending your key to some one not known for more than five minutes ..or making the keys entirely impossible to access remember safety first always.

 

I have quite a competitive streak and always aim to improve in whatever I am doing (going to the gym, lift heavier or do more reps, golf - don't repeat dumb mistakes etc), in chastity, I equate that to time between orgasms and that's one of my motivations (who doesn't like breaking a record).

 

Thank you for posting this .
I have a different point of view on a couple of things:
1. I watch porn A LOT!

 

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I watch porn and it helps me with feeling the thrill of orgasm denial. I want to FEEL the desire to orgasm and the FRUSTRATION of not being able to.

2. I also fantasize a lot. While giving up the dick is true, I find the realisation that it's there but beyond reach most helpful with sissification. It reminds me I'm on a journey in which I'm not a man, not a woman, and sexual desire and frustration are energies to be channelled toward self-sissification

 

Don't cheat yourself. Saying you will lock yourself for 48 hours and then unlock at 47 because it is close enough, and you could totally do that hour no problem if you wanted to.

 

Very interesting and helpful especially if your partner/wife is not interested in this type of thing but you feel that you need to continue with this lifestyle alone.

 

I have been into self-locking for about a year now and I usually wear my cage for a fixed period, say one or two weeks.I put the key in a bottle of water in the fridge and I have a tiny device in which I can lock the spare key. These experiences made me conclude that I am ready for a Master Key Holder.
Chastity strongly intensifies my sexual feelings and my nipples have become very sensitive. It makes me feel like the sissy that I want to become and chastity is very helpful in this process. Though my sexual feelings are sometimes overwhelming, I can resist the desire to masturbate and cum. I just want to abstain from the usual orgasm and only want to experience assgasm and nipple-gasm (which is witihin reach).
That is what I need a Master Key Holder for, to be his sissy and to serve him any way he wants.

 

I just ordered my first custom device, expensive. In hopes to be locked for a long time without problems. Im doing it not only out of self-fetish, but personal growth on levels to long to explain. I feel very drawn into chastity, so im excited following my heart. I do fondle myself to much. In time im hoping to find a keyholder of some sort.

 

@Guy7 What cushion have you ordered? Good luck

 

Thanks for the support, i ordered a jailbird, it will take about a month - or longer. Took me a very long time to get to this point.

 

I really enjoyed this, thank you

 

I too am self locked. My life partner Jill and I had an incredible and passionate sex life when we got together. Fast forward a few years and sex comes once a month maybe. She told me the other day the only reason she even has sex with me is I get whiny and that I am pestering her when all I offered to do ever was pleasure her in any way she wanted, but I did not need anything in return. It was a gut punch when she said she doesn't even enjoy sex anymore.

I have been wearing chastity devices off and on for a couple years. This winter I wore one almost full time for 3 months then stopped when I thought it was chastity wearing that may be turning Jill off of sex. Eight weeks ago Jill asked why I had not been wearing the device and when I told her why she said that has nothing to do with her lowered sex drive and she knew how much I like wearing it, she was very surprised when I stopped. She said it was a good idea trying to turn a negative of her dropped libido into a positive thing (orgasm and sex denial I guess is what I could call it). She has no desire to participate so this is my own journey.

For myself chastity is to try and curb my masturbation, especially to porn as she is really hates porn. I fail sometimes and watch it as I still badly desire to feel excited and horny however I am trying to find more cerebral ways to feel good and have been listening to podcasts about sexuality. These are mentally stimulating and sometimes they cause a reaction in my cage but I believe are 100% healthier than porn.

I was in a sexless marriage and that helped to push us apart. Now my current relationship is rapidly becoming sexless too, and if I don't want the resentments to creep in exploring the physical and mental challenges of chastity are about the only possibility I can think of.

So after my life story as to why, here is my how.

1. I wear a Badassworkroom BA-25 comfortably 24/7. I wear leggings everyday even in public and use a bra pad from women's bathing suits to smooth out the area, plus long shirts/jackets of course.

2. My exceptions to number 1 are I take off the device to run as I am training for a half marathon, and also to mountain bike. I have ran and biked wearing the device but the chaffing and risk on the bike is not worth it and it's harder to cover the bulge in spandex when exercising. Also I will take it off for vacations to the beach and family cabins. At the beach I often wear a thong bathing suit and that is a convo I do not want to have with people. For family cabins, it would just be awkward if it was seen.

3. In-between exercise sessions I have the key on a lock timer with a home made key lock that also serves as my emergency key if I should need it. Pliers or a knife would be needed to get the key out but it stops me from weak moments. Ill post a pic below.

4. I will on occasion give myself a ruined o by using a vibrator on the cage. My body still has not fully adjusted to no releases and my prostate gets very sore and has had trouble holding back pee while running. I am trying to extend the time I can go longer without but so far 3 weeks is about the longest. I only vibe while locked and the timer on my key set otherwise the temptation for masturbating is too great.

5. Jill has a key in the night stand locked in a little clear box that she has the combination to. She was willing to do that much for me and this way if she does desire sex she can have it while my key is on the timer.

Since starting chastity I have come to really miss the cage when it is not locked on. I have a desire for someone to be in charge of my sex but this is the compromise I have been able to do. The feeling of being "home" when I am locked is very strange to me but also very real. The cage can be uncomfortable, pinch, pull, cause pain, make sitting to pee an almost always thing, cause weird bulges in my pants and really overall make my life more difficult. Funny thing is I do not know how I lived without it for so long. That ahhh feeling when the cage locks on is a high I love every single time.

Thanks for reading.