The cage and the wand

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    Recently the wife and I have established what she calls " the new normal" in the bedroom.

    The old normal was a week locked in chastity and vitamin V a couple hours before she was ready to unlock me and have her fun. Sadly though, even with the constant arousal of cage wear, and the help of the blue pill, I couldn't always give her the kind of PIV we once enjoyed. Once we both acknowledged that half-hard PIV was not what either of us wanted, we switched to leaving me locked, a wand and dildos for her, and when she has had her fun, she uses the wand on me and I cum in my cage. No more performance anxiety, we both get satisfaction. She seems very happy with the new normal and so am I.

    How many others have gone down this or a similar path?
     
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    I sometimes have trouble, so my wife has trained me to do a routine she likes where I stimulate her using my hands and mouth.

    She doesn't really care much if I get an orgasm but sometimes she will have me masturbate to climax for her. I can usually achieve that without a full erection.

    I think every man can have struggles from time to time. It's just part of being who we are. The great thing about our lifestyle is that our dommes are probably more forgiving and understanding of performance issues than vanilla wives would be.
     
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    I agree. My loving wife seems to be very understanding. In the past she let me out to masturbate my half hard penis after I had serviced her. We both liked that too. The wand on the cage is a more recent development. Right now it's the new normal. I'm sure, in the future, we will come up with even more ways to keep us both satisfied in our old age. I live to keep her happy, but I like my fun too. I've jokingly suggested that as my ED progresses, she could cuckold me. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no. I think I would be OK with being a "watcher" in my old age. But for now, we are finding ways to keep our love life fresh.
     
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    I regularly satisfy my wife with my mouth and her wand. That is probably 99% of her orgasms at this point. I'm rarely allowed and orgasm of any kind. I have experienced a few of the wand induced orgasms, but unlike you I find them unsatisfying and a little disturbing. It's almost procedural and clinical in that an orgasm is induced as opposed to achieved. Still at this point I'll take them where I can get them.
     
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    In my pre-locked life, I would have performance issues due to masturbation. Now, being locked full time, that problem has largely gone away. She has discovered that I can be ready to go at any time - if she doesn’t let me finish.

    Works really well for her. No wand for me.
     
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    Not had to experience that yet, but sounds like it works for you and wife. Really as long as you both enjoy that's all that matters.
     
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    This is the way it is supposed to be. She gets hers, and you don't get relief. Ever.
     
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    My lady"s O is the only one that matters. I have gone to sleep frustrated many times. I have learned to tongue and toy her well.
     
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    I think its nice to be learned how to use a tongue proper.
     
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    I too have been wanded to caged emission by my wife. I find it pleasurable but really humiliating; it enhances my submission so much to have it *extracted* from like that without be permitted to become erect and being told that's my orgasm for the month or Quarter or whatever. I'm really missing any release though.
     
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    My kh also wands me to orgasm without unlocking me. I've been locked for a while now. Now I tend to stay quite flaccid even when I am ultra aroused.
     
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    "I find it pleasurable but really humiliating"

    Funny thing that. I am happy to be rid of PIV performance anxiety, and I'm embracing the humiliation of a caged sex life. She was not into facesitting until I was caged. She didn't often do herself with toys until I was caged (getting her aroused with toys, used to be my job). Now she has become quite the exhibitionist and I am reduced to watching. The humiliation of it is sublime. When she is done, she has been very considerate about giving me a mercy orgasm in my cage. I don't think I am ready for total denial at this point.

    "Here's the wand, do it yourself" may be next though. If it comes to that, I want to be on my knees in front of her as I do it.
     
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    I'm not sure I'm happy to be rid of PIV, either of the performance anxiety or the actual maleness and intimacy of it. But it's becoming more and more rare, and has been non-existent in Locktober and No-vember. I've been pretty focused on fantasies of entering her and how that feels the last several days. Of course, that evokes that old caption that "if you can still remember what it feels like then you haven't been locked long enough."
     
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    I'm sure I will start missing PIV. Pretty sure she will want to try it again too. But for now though, we're OK without it. When she was trying to ride me and my half hard dick wouldn't stay in, her disappointment was pretty obvious. And frankly, she is having more and better orgasms doing it this way.
     
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    It takes a real honest and submissive and loving man to admit it. Congratulations.
     
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    I have no issues with getting and keeping an erection. I am however “quick on the trigger”. It’s because of this that the strap on has become our favorite! I get no sensation other than the enjoying the incredible sounds she makes being fucked by a cock that stays hard, doesn’t cum AND is both longer and girthier than my average size penis. She does use her vibrator on me afterwards, and it doesn’t take long. Both very
     
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    We to have a whole different routine than we started with, I’m not allowed to cum, and madam has her bull to please her.
     
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