Swearing and foul language feedback

To some, swearing is a sign of an inability to adequately communicate ones feelings, and 'a bit common'

To others it is the fecund and ruddy language of our ancestors - those words have historical value significance and power.

Personally I think to remove swearing from society is to rob it of something wonderful, but whether it is something we need to have here is something else.

This is a website whose main function is to discuss chastity devices, essentially, the denial of cocks and pussies
To render those words as penis and vagina I find is just a bit awfully grey and library like. The more fecund words have colour that the technical terms dont have.

Personally, I think that as long as the use of these more colourful terms is saved for when there really is no option but to add colour, then I think we're ok. Where I dont think this place needs to be is to have plain old swearing used without thought just as throw away terms.

If you're throwing these words around freely they lose their meaning and their power. They should be saved for use where nothing else will do.

 

Personally, I think it's distasteful to use just rude language out of context.. Within a fictional story, or within a passionate recollection of a real life tale, very appropriate IMNSFHO. However, I think most of the adults here would rather not have to deal. I mean, if it's your personality and you just can't help it.. whatever. Some consideration for the audience should be in order. I'd never censor anybody, however. Some of us are little Henry Rollins'es hyped up on Sugar Pops.. and goddess bless em.

 

I could not agree more Ms. Amanda, foul or crass language serves no purpose and does not elevate any form of communication. Maybe I am speaking out of line but I feel the majority of women (as well a good number of men) do not appreciate it. So why do it? Especially here at the Mansion, which lets face it is male heavy. Also, whilst we are talking about truths, we males do appreciate the few females who grace us with their presences. The input these wonderful ladies provide us should be natured, and welcomed. We need more women here, fact! And vulgar language will scare them away, so please I implore you be polite and well mannered, at least on the public boards anyway.

 

I have to say I concur with Mascara^Snake in that swearing isn't needed in general. I used to swear quite a lot myself but it is something I try to keep to a minimum as I realised that despite the fact I like it, I'm never offended by people not swearing whereas people who don't like it can definitely be offended by certain words.

 

@PUP ok that's a cute avie,

 

I do have trouble with 'offended'. Nobody has the right not to be offended. If something offends you, it's generally due to your own prejudices and and narrow sense of what should be permissible.

I dont think there are many times when swearing is necessary, but if it should happen.....ignore it if you don't like it. We all develop filters to deal with the things we dont like, just apply your filter and move on without either judging or getting upset.

 

@SubVerity you're not arguing for impoliteness as a virtue so much as a right, yes?

 

Completely disagree.

That argument would suggest that it's okay to just walk up to a black person and start yelling the 'N' word at them, or going up to a homosexual couple and start calling them whatever derogatory term you like in regards to their sexuality.

'Offended' is a loose term and was overused for a few years in terms of political correctness. Now, though, the 'cool' argument seems to be that nobody has the right to not be offended (see Stephen Fry's famous quote), but the fact is there are certain things that really are offensive no matter what scale you want to use and to dismiss that is nonsense. I'm not saying swearing, or all swear words, are necessarily one of them; just that it's not as cut and dry as you're implying.

In my opinion.

 

Swear words are for those with small vocabularies.

 

I believe swearing is harmless to a certain extent. Most of the people on this forum use it here to emphasize or exxagerate certain emotions like frustration etc, which is just harmless. Its very rarely used to swear AT other people. There are just too many sweet and caring people here to do that!

So no, I don't think swearing on threads or posts should be banned. How different are the words "cock" and "pussy" etc Any different then? It would just make this forum a bit bland then. (My personal feelings! )

 

Just for clarification. It was not my keyholder that wouldn't give permission. I got an error message saying I didn;t have permission to open the message.

 

Nothing is cut and dried my friend, and if clarification is required then perhaps I should have been more specific.

For the examples you give I would agree that the action is not acceptable, though not for the reasons you give.

Your examples are essentially about being intolerant of others, and going out of ones way to actively cause upset. An Active mode. Someone is doing something as an act of aggression.
Nowhere am I suggesting that anyone walk up to one of the mods here and start swearing in their face just because you know it will piss them off.

I'm thinking more along the lines of things that already exist in the world, that you come across and get offended about.
An example: I dislike cigarette smoke. I find it offensive that people now congregate outside buildings and smoke by the entrance in packs. I still have to walk through or past a cloud of polluted air just to go on my way. I mean I really dislike it. It's a more passive kind of offence than in your example as these people have not set about to piss me off. They are not aggressively smoking at me.

It's a good discussion.

 

Cant abide it personally.

 

I think to ban swearing is a step too far. I think admin and the Mods can use common sense to decide if it’s gone too far on a post.

I don’t think we need censorship when common sense will do.

This thread worries me Its seems like Ms Amanda is looking to use her Mods powers for her own gratification rather than the good of forum.

To then to tell us that 2 of her fellow Mods have been forbidden by their key holders to comment on the thread in the Mods section.

I cannot believe that is the reason for not posting.

@Ms Amanda did the actually tell you that or are you just second guessing and posting your opinion?

 

You asked for opinions??????

 

Swearing is never necessary, however, it can be a very powerful, evocative form of communication, and I have to say I was surprised that the question was even asked. This forum discusses chastity, sexuality, BDSM, and related topics. Banning vulgar or inappropriate language would lead to some pretty sterile (and painful to read) discussions.

I understand that people have different preferences and tolerances (just like the topics we discuss), but personally, I find the suggestion to censor the use of language more offensive than any of the language I've seen used here.

I know I'm new here, so maybe I don't get it, but if mods start editing my posts for language, I'll quickly find another community.

 

Swearing and vulgar language is never necessary. If someone has the time to write a post or a reply, then they have time to think of more appropriate language with which to write that post. In my opinion (and I'm expecting to be contradicted, but it remains my opinion) bad language is used simply for effect - to shock or annoy - and the most basic conventions of good manners would suggest that is just plain rude! There is nothing that cannot be said without being rude or vulgar.

 

@lockit the title of the post is Language Feedback, if you read the post its very clear that Ms Amanda is just asking for opinions. Which people have been providing and you can give and receive opinions easily without arguing. Pretty self explanatory.

 

This is interesting because while I am not a fan of swearing one thing that does annoy me a little are the
great number of penis pics posted in the gallery.
While I have ben guilty of this myself I am still not a fan of looking at the same thing over and over again.
I do not mind the sissy dressed shots with cages visible etc. it is just the close up shots that seem to be a
bit boring.
Lets face it once you have seen one jailbird you have seen them all.

So my point is that I would rather read the F word in a post than a close up of some guys junk in a CB.

Dianne.

 

Hmm...seems like someone tried to make this very point not too long ago, but for the life of me, I can't remember who it was. Oh yeah.....I remember now.

 

This whole argument is interesting, in that it i a microcosm of a lot of what is going on in the U.S. these days, especially on college campuses. My own vie wias that profanity in a public forum like this is very distasteful, even though I am fairly foul-mouthed among friends. There is a place for profanity, but is isn't on a public bulleting board. HOWEVER, I do not think we shoudl ban it, even on public boards. If someone uses boorish language, whether profane or not, the audience will conclude that he/she is an inarticulate nitwit. That is sanction enough. When we start legislating the right not to be offended, we end up with the progressive oppression that is seen on college campuses, where no controversial non-mainstream view can be expressed.

 

Personally, I believe that swearing on forum like this is not necessary at all and could be even harmful in some ways. We are talking here about widely understood "sexual lifestyle" which is unfortunately connected with vulgar language on porn sites. So if we are talking with manners it will be much better for all of us here. It's not a common porn forum/site, don't you think ?