I vowed to be faithful to my wife when we married. She has been. I never have been. I cheated on her with other women and, worse, with other men. Many, many other men. I sucked their cocks in bathhouses, in theaters, in parks. I put my wife's health at risk. She knows all this and is considering whether she should divorce me and she has every right to. This is my last chance to save my marriage so I am doing what I should -- and must. I am de-maling myself. I will think, feel and behave as a woman does and submit completely to what my wife wants. I am prepared to be put in permanent chastity, forcibly feminized and cuckolded. I deserve all of these things and will accept whatever she desires. I have used my penis (other than for urinating) for the last time. It belongs to her, as it always should have. I no longer masturbate. It is a supremely selfish act. I no longer watch porn. It is extremely disrespectful to all women and especially to my wife. My manhood now belongs to her to do with as she pleases. What is left to me is to become a woman in every possible way.
Do you think... Perhaps... You should look into couples therapy? Did she ask you to do this? Look, I'm not saying what you did isn't wrong, but what you are suggesting doesn't sound like a solution to this problem. Not once did you say, "she wants me to" or "she would like". Instead your solution to your insatiable desire to fornicate is to involve yourself in a different kink. Start by asking her what she wants... most women would just be happy with a man that that can count on.... Good luck.
Get a couples therapist. Chastity will not resolve the bigger issue(s) and will only complicate your relationship dynamic.
Fetishes never solve problems. They make them worse. No man is magically going to be turned into a female, even thinking as one, simply because his penis is locked up. Your post reads like a chastity story version of why a guy is locked into chastity. Most people are aware that being locked up is not going to have the effect you are hoping/fantasizing about.
Thanks for your sound advice. We've tried couples therapy and she found it unsatisfying. But we've scheduled a serious talk for tomorrow and will go from there.
Have you actually asked your wife how to save your marriage? Hint: turning yourself into a women is not likely to be the answer.
We'll be having those talks soon. I've been trying to being out my feminine side (more psychologically and emotionally than physically) to make me a more desirable husband. Because I've betrayed her so often, she has lost all trust in me and no longer will have sex with me. She has suggested a roommate arrangement. I would prefer to be caged in order to re-establish trust. I think a cuckold relationship would be best but she doesn't want to hae sex with anyone she doesn't have feelings for. I have several friends that have wanted to fuck her for years and would jump at my invitation. I may mention that as a solution and hope that she agrees. Thanks for your suggestion.
If anything your attempts to be more feminine will further freak her out. Listen to yourself. I have several friends that have wanted to fuck her for years and would jump at my invitation. Your invitation!?!? And you think you have the right? She doesn't want sex with anyone she doesn't have feelings for, you just said so. Seriously, you need to calm down and approach this by proving that you are trustworthy. Trying to get her to cuck you, lock you up in a chastity device and start calling you Deirdre is just going to further alienate her.
You're absolutely right, Jasmic. The solution should and must come from her. Thanks for your admonishment.
The best thing you can do is really listen to her. Save the fun for when your relationship is secure. Chastity isn't easy, it needs you to be fully committed to her to make it work.
Time to clean up your act and start again. As others have said, chastity is not necessarily the answer unless she introduced the concept given your particular situation. If chastity and FLR are all new concepts to her, this may end up just alienating her further and making your situation worse. If she buys into it as a part of saving your relationship, consider yourself very lucky. It sounds like cuckolding is something you want for her in order to make her or yourself feel better given your infidelity, and that would be the wrong reason to get into cuckolding, I think. Hope things get better for you.
Listen you yourself. Some of these ideas sound like a way to make yourself feel better about past indiscretions. Get to talking, not negotiating. It is completely possible that your relationship will not survive even the suggestion of "de-maling" yourself much less femization. She is asking for some space by suggesting a "roommate arrangement". Give her that space. Trust is hard gained and easily lost. Good luck.
Having talks soon? You should have had talks with your wife by now! Instead you seem to be looking up your fetishes that you (falsely) think will save your marriage. Once again, you need to ask your wife what you need to do to save your marriage, not ask yourself what you think your wife wants you to do to save your marriage. If you don't listen to your wife, then your marriage is well and truly doomed.
Sounds to me you have treated your relationship as a playground and done whatever you want. Now that your play buddy is kicking you out of the sandbox you're just trying to find a different game to play to avoid being kicked out. I don't see much sincerity. Either that or you are clueless in how to treat the person that should be your best friend. Either way, she has asked and deserves space and quite possibly a more permanent distancing.
It also has to be pointed out that just saying you are going to think and act like a woman doesn't mean you are going to be able to do it. Men have been trying to understand women for millennia and haven't quite cracked it yet.
Had Had several long and productive talks with my wife and we have agreed to create a contract for a female-controlled marriage that gives her the final decision on all important issues and each of us the option of taking on a male lover in the future, with her having first choice (it most likely would be one of my friends, since she would not have sex with someone she doesn't know well and like). We're both delighted with our breakthrough. Many thanks for your wise counsel.
I don't believe that acting out your fantasies or contracts or being fem are ever going to solve your issues. You need to be open in your communications with her as you seem to be in an anonymous chat or website post. You should have daily conversations and not "scheduling a talk". It's not about you!
Well done. It took me over a year of discussions with my Wife about what an FLR was, letting her discover what she wanted and we are well into our second year of trying to get it to work. That was after a marriage of over 25 years, so we knew each other pretty well before we even started. To get the same thing done in a matter of days is extraordinary.