Suggestions for Vanilla Domme Clothing

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    I suspect that the idea that people go around projecting attitude is a bit wishful thinking, and a bit more like 'resting bitch face'.
    Clothes matter, if they didn't then men would have dropped wearing suits long ago - instead they wear them and allow others to make unreliable assumptions about how competent they are.

    The aim of my post was to point out that certain fashion styles have also been fetishised, yet they remain in the mainstream. Someone scene aware would pick up on those cues and recognise a likely dominant.
    Heels, pulled back hair and liquid eye-liner are all mainstream, but on one person, maybe a domme.

    It's no different than when Kristen Stewart was wearing Converse and braces and yet dating Pattinson. To those that knew, she was obviously signalling something different and lesbians worldwide formed an orderly queue.
    Had she been projecting her inner otherness in jeans and baggy jumpers like the residents of Hebden Bridge, then maybe we'd have to wait for her to say something.

    A male in chastity is reasonably only going to be thinking about his penis 24/7, and maybe not so much of his Mistresses sartorial choices, so 'comfy domme' is perhaps inevitable, I just don't see doing the opposite is somehow invalid now that everyone can read minds.
     
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    At present my daily wardrobe consists of jeans, t-shirt and trainers, with a hoodie if it is cold. Dressing up means trousers, t-shirt, very often trainers or ankle boots and a jacket or jumper.

    My shoe collection is sparse - 1 pair of heeled business shoes, 2 pairs of knee length boots one flat and one heeled with multiple trainers. There are an extra couple of pairs of shoes but with 6 inch heels they are for dungeon wear.

    In my defence, there are multiple corsets, stockings and floor length skirts, unfortunately they are not particularly useful for day to day wear lol.
     
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    "Pish" as we say here
     
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    Actually I'll go further and say that I find your attitude offensive.
     
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    I don't think clothing is what makes the woman...........rather the opposite actually - but for those that respond to stereotypes the Lula Forrest cropped leather trousers seem to "have it all going on" as they say.......
     
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    I think it depends on what you’re doing. A trip to the shops is different to visiting friends. On I cold day you need to be kept warm so fashion boots with a small heel and lined leather/faux can give the impression of a strong lady. If you want to project the same meeting with strangers then the fitted business suit works. In the end it’s not necessarily about the clothes it's about the personality and how its projected
     
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    Oh I definitely have the voice, that is seemingly just the way I am. Before I opened my own company, my workmates (2 guys) knew about Jules and they used to joke about my voice changing to Jules in the middle of phone calls.
     
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    IMO the essence of her being Dominant is that she wears whatever she likes! :):):)
     
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    High heel boots are wonderful certainly. If you can't wear them wear riding boots. Is riding pants style ? Leather pants and skirts are fantastic. I suggest wearing leather gloves. For sub treatment and often for daily wear for fall til spring.
     
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    Interesting question. As a male, I’ll obvs. give my own perspective so treat it with that in mind, but for me it’s about the dominant female laying down stipulations that the male has to comply with or he gets low grade attention from you, or none at all. This can be done in everyday life, although a plea-if a male wants to “break the scene”, don’t rule out agreeing to that if he communicates that in the right, respectful way. Otherwise there is no hope at all left for us weak males, except lifelong servitude at your feet....
     
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    Agree--critical.
     
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    We aren’t over concerned with vanilla, but heels, black and white tailored and a hint of cleavage all do the job

    J&J
     
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    you're killing me:);)
     
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    Down boy, know your place;)
     
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    I won't lie, my vanilla persona does contain subtle elements of my Domme persona. My heels and slightly aloof manner are clues. Basically, it's not just the clothes, how one holds oneself has impact. happy hunting
     
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    I agree! When my wife gets her nails done with black polish, I know it's on!!
     
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    shoes are a must
     
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    I like that hint. For us it tends to be less of what Mistress is wearing, but what she decides I'll be wearing. If she puts me in a frilly thong in the morning it can often mean it's on. She knows that I'll be teased all day with the string in my crack, so by night time I'm ready. I'll be stripped to my thong where as she remains fully dressed.
     
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    heels, skirts, choker necklaces, high ponytails,nipples showing through blouse, button up blouses partly unbuttoned, belts, stockings, perfume
     
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    Definitely not an expert here, but what about focusing on the accessories for your outfit? Necklaces, bracelets, rings, watch (or watch face)?
     
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    Funny how subs are telling Dommes what to wear. :)
     
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    Oops!
     
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    My wardrobe is extensive, yes I can and do wear the typical leather/latex clad Domme in corset and thigh boots etc.

    I have a large amount of vanilla dresses I team with heels or knee boots. Have been known to attend bdsm events in a glamorous long gowns and occasion dresses.

    But my favourite vanilla Domme look is flat tan knee boots, tights, above the knee skirts with a blouse/jumpers. Comfy and hints at my confidence. I also in autumn winter Love to wear leather gloves.
     
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    Riding boots jodhpurs and sweatshirt also feature in my comfy Domme wardrobe but all my friends know I own horses.

    Another autumnal winter look is tight wet look leggings,knee boots with longish woollen jumper leather gloves And scarves.
     
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    some dresses I own.

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