I suspect that the idea that people go around projecting attitude is a bit wishful thinking, and a bit more like 'resting bitch face'. Clothes matter, if they didn't then men would have dropped wearing suits long ago - instead they wear them and allow others to make unreliable assumptions about how competent they are. The aim of my post was to point out that certain fashion styles have also been fetishised, yet they remain in the mainstream. Someone scene aware would pick up on those cues and recognise a likely dominant. Heels, pulled back hair and liquid eye-liner are all mainstream, but on one person, maybe a domme. It's no different than when Kristen Stewart was wearing Converse and braces and yet dating Pattinson. To those that knew, she was obviously signalling something different and lesbians worldwide formed an orderly queue. Had she been projecting her inner otherness in jeans and baggy jumpers like the residents of Hebden Bridge, then maybe we'd have to wait for her to say something. A male in chastity is reasonably only going to be thinking about his penis 24/7, and maybe not so much of his Mistresses sartorial choices, so 'comfy domme' is perhaps inevitable, I just don't see doing the opposite is somehow invalid now that everyone can read minds.