Suggestions for Vanilla Domme Clothing

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    I am having great difficulty keeping myself in the dominant role at the moment. I think it’s mostly because I don’t see myself as a Domme on a daily basis any more.

    When I was sessioning in the dungeon on a more regular basis I would feel more Domme and would dress in a more sexy manner, skirts, heels, stockings on a daily basis. Now not so much, now because I am out and about more – this is Scotland remember – there is jeans, jumpers and no slinky sexy hardly at all. Sorry guys – it happens to the best of us lol. Because I am out and about in my local community it needs to be subtle yet effective.

    I really need to find a way to put the Domme back into my daily routine.

    This question is mainly for the ladies of the site but it would be great to hear from the guys as well as to how they feel about what their Mistress wears.

    Suggestions please?

    This post is pretty much stolen from a very old thread
     
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    Can't imagine what that might look like, but I sure would like to hear more about it. Hope you get some good suggestions.
     
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    Boots give off a certain vibe. They don't have to be the thigh high 6 inch heel version, and can be worn with casual clothing such as jeans and leggings.

    Chilly there? Fuzzy sweater, jeans, and nice calf length boots with a slight heel. It's not telling your neighbors anything, but still very in charge looking.
     
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    The old saying " clothes don't make the man" also applies to ladies. My Lady could be wearing a burlap sack .and I would still find her exciting and yield to her whims Sometimes we all need to take a break from what we do and we come back better and stronger.
     
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    To me its the power buisness look. Close fitting business attire. Skirt just above the knee. Darker make-up. Exerts a power and confidence and a person in control vib.
    Black nail polish always make me think dark side!
     
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    I think I will have to go dig out my old business suits and calf length boots, great suggestions, thanks everyone.
     
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    I shared an image with Elle on our private Tumblr, telling her that it turned me on waaaaaay more than the silly outfits you see in most femdom porn. Unfortunately I cannot copy the URL to post it here, but I just re blogged it to my nefariouschastitylife tumblr. It shows a woman in a very elegant and quite masculine business suit. I would certainly do as I was told should Elle ever dress that way! (I would do as I was told anyway, but this is more of a fantasy thing anyway :)
     
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    I agree what you wear doesn't make or not make you a Domme it's what's inside. That said, you're right in that clothes can make you feel confident, less confident, sexy, less sexy.

    What about sexy underwear? No one needs to know you have fishnets and garters, or a thong, or a sexy bra, or whatever.

    If that doesn't work for you, what about some workout wear mixed with your jeans? Find things that feel sexy, and make you feel confident, and you think look good.

    I'm sure if you think for a little bit, you'll find things that aren't leather, PVC or whatever but are still sexy.

    And yes, a nice business outfit can be so sexy. When I was in college I worked with an older lady who looked amazing in a pin striped skirt and jacket.
     
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    I think the fully buttoned and belted Trench coat is a very strong look.
    Or for Scotland, the Barbour jacket with buttoned down flaps, zips and belt.

    Anything that hints of the Edwardian, like a high collar, starched blouse, neck brooch, puffball sleeves, belted skirt.

    Epaulettes on a jacket always hints at military authority, akin to riding jackets with buttoned up fronts.

    Gloves.

    Fabrics that rustle help generate a presence, along with the heavier sensual perfumes.
     
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    I'm a bid supporter of the "comfy domme" movement. I think it's awesome when a woman is dressed totally vanilla but you can just feel the confidence and authority in her presentation of herself.
     
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    "Comfy domme" lacks theatre, not keen on that idea. It's playing a role, actors don't perform drama in jeans and teeshirt.
     
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    What a great variety of thoughts, most of which I have some variation of somewhere in the house.

    I have to say that I agree with comfy Domme and I agree that it lacks theatre. Although I will add that even when doing the full Domme thing in the dungeon, if I was using a bullwhip I would always wear shoes rather than boots so I could take them off when using the whip. Way too dangerous to have the chance of losing your balance when wielding a whip.
     
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    As Imasissytoo said- My Lady could be wearing a burlap sack .and I would still find her exciting and yield to her whims.

    I think I'm in agreement with other submissives, for me, it is more about what I'm not wearing :) and more about Mistress' dominant attitude then what she is wearing. I have to say, when she is dressed in jeans and a summer top or sweater in the cooler weather and I'm naked except for my cage I don't need to see boots or leather to feel owned. The business suit suggestion works quite well too. Maybe it's just me, but it seems odd to me to see the photographs of Mistress' nearly naked with a strap-on penetrating their submissive. I find it a lot sexier and more appropriate for the dominant to have the strap-on on the outside of jeans or pants.

    Mistress doesn't own any special outfits, but if she says strip, I take it all off, no matter what she is wearing.
     
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    One word: "Cleavage". Gets my attention every time. Add an appropriate necklace to draw attention.
     
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    White vintage shapewear does it for me. Panty girdles, longline bra's, open bottom girdles, pointy utilitarian full coverage bra's, industrial garter belts, Cuban heeled lined stockings, satin paneling......high heels.

    Basically, everything from the mad men era.
     
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    Living curious is exactly right.
    I tend to dress on the smart casual side in my everyday life.
    I barely own a stitch of what might be construed as "dommie" clothing.
    It's attitude that is subtle effective.

    If I want to make more of a Dommie splash then I tend to go for a tailored skirt suit and quite stringent footwear.
     
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    What have we learned? Absolutely nothing ! Except there are so many options on how a Mistress should dress while in public or in playroom.
     
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    Shoes are very important I feel.
    Mine leave me standing taller than most men.
     
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    I find it very surprising that You Like Shoes. How many do you have 50, 75
     
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    I believe anything that emphasizes you are a woman and proud of it. Comfy, sexy, business wear all can work. You do not need clothes to be dominant and project dominance - attitude and demeanor are everything.
     
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    You are Right. Power is within you. Not by what you wear.
     
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    Very funny Mash
     
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    Personally my favorite outfit it's Madame's birthday suit ;). But otherwise tight and black.
     
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    https://www.lkbennett.com/

    Jules I shop here quite a lot.
    It works fine for me.
    If you're feeling lazy or in a hurry they even suggest outfits and accessories.

    However, as mentioned above, the perception of Domminess is definitely more attitude related.
     
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