Sub has severe pain while sleeping in cage

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    Hi hi,

    Myself and my very sleep deprived sub would appreciate some sound advice.

    He has been in chastity consistently since New Years. He is let out 4 times a week only to shower, and on some days I will allow him to have supervised cage-free time for an hour or so.

    Otherwise he is LOCKED. And has always slept locked.

    During the day he has no complaints with his cage. It fits comfortably, he is able to go to work and exercise, etc etc. It is only at bedtime the problems occur.

    Every night (or should I say morning) he wakes up between 3am - 4am in very uncomfortable pain. When this happens he has a very pronounced erection that will not go down without a fight!

    I have him face the wall and take some deep breaths to cool down, and then he tries to sleep once more. But lo and behold, 20 minutes later he wakes up again hard as steel. This cycles on and on until sunrise.

    I figured by now, his body would have adjusted to chastity and the night time pains would settle, but in his case it just isn't going away. Perhaps it is because he is young.

    For his health (and my sanity) I need a solution for this.

    I would prefer him to stay in his current cage, so any tips for this would please me. If I must buy my pup a sleepy-time chastity device that allows him to get his 8 hours, I will, but not sure which would be most suitable.

    I'll await your responses.

    xx
     
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    #2 bemfem, May 22, 2022
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    What cage does he have Mistress XX, and how did you size it? I was also in severe pain in off shelf device especially at night. Then I did a lot of research and I invested into a custom made cage. I am using Jail Bird. I am in the cage 24/7, unless my wife wants to play with it. I have now 0 pain. I sleep in it, go to to gym, work, on hikes. I bike in it. I do everything with no issue. Now I almost don’t have to use lotion anymore. I only feel pressure when my penis tries to get erect. It is all about anatomy and how forces from the attempted erection have to be transmitted through the base ring to the body. It is important to mitigate those forces, because the ring can only take so much. I wrote a guide that might help you to size the cage properly
    https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...xpectations-for-24-7-cock-cage-wearing.45079/
    Hopefully this will help.
     
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    Miss, first it might help to know what kind of pain is your sub in? Is he getting a burning sensation under the balls? Is his cage pulling too much on his balls when he gets an erection? Is something else cutting into him?

    One suggestion to help alleviate the 3a-till-morning repeated cycle is if your sub uses the 3am wakeup and go to the bathroom and pee. Usually, a guy's erection like this can be 'solved' with taking a nice pee. He'd still get awoken, but would be able to get back to sleep after.

    (Note peeing while erect can be difficult and may still require the 'cooldown').
     
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    It sounds like the cage is too large. it needs to fit the end of the penis snug to prevent any chance of an erection.
     
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    I had all of that too with my previous cages, but then I got "bird cage" style metal one and nighttime is a breeze now. The main advice you will here is to keep the cage small to stop erections from even starting, and that is good advice, but I've been trying to figure out what's different about my current cage, and I think it's the gap. All of my previous cages had square style base rings but this one has a circular ring. I think the circular ring matches up better with the circular ring of the cage, leaving a smaller gap.
     
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    If nothing else works, buy a cheap full belt on eBay or Amazon. It provides the best pain free night time lockup possible. Or try two cimetidine tablets daily to reduce testosterone a bit. You can buy at Walmart. It’s sold as an stomach acid reducer.
     
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    In my experience it takes some time of continuous wear, no unlocking, before nighttime erections become less of a problem.

    After around 4-6 weeks without an unlock I am able to sleep through the night fully once again.

    However, as others have said, a properly fitted cage is essential. We must have gone through a dozen cheap ones, and wasted a ton of money, before buying a custom steel cage from badassworkroom.
     
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    @mommyishome, to get realy used to wear a cage 24/7, it does require quite some excercise. These nocturnal erections are different from the "normal ones". I found them more fierce and strong and causing indeed significant discomfort. The "pain" is normally caused at the balls, as the sack is pulling forward once the penis erects in the cage.

    I found basically two things to handle them: (1) Good fitting cage. In all aspects the cage should have a real snug fit to limit growth at forehand and (2) once the erections happens, just go out to the toilet, sit down and pee. The erections will go away and you both can sleep again.

    All the best and have a good rest!
     
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    Having a pee will usually deflate the erection.

    Another trick that I use is, if it's a softer erection, I push the cage down and then lie on my front to keep it there, as the downward position also deflates the erection. If it's a really hard erection, you won't be able to get it to completely point down, but getting it at least in that direction and holding it there will also work.

    I find it easier to pee when I'm not rock hard, so I do this before I go pee.
     
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    I also try not to drink anything after 8 or 9 pm
     
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    #11 bemfem, May 22, 2022
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    I am sorry, but this is not what chastity should be about in my opinion! “reduce testosterone”, “try not to drink anything after 8 or 9 pm”. If you want to do those things, that is perfectly fine, but that is not a solution to chastity for a large group of people. Yes, chastity will require some sacrifice. There is a rigid device around your private parts, but with a properly fitted cage it should be just discomfort. There should be no pain. Moreover, there is no need to alter your testosterone level or not to drink. I understand people are trying to be helpful and provide opinions, but the best solution is to enjoy chastity living regular fulfilling healthy life. There is certainly one solution that will work 100%. Remove your testicles and you will have no issues sleeping in chastity.
     
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    Peeing as soon as you wake helps it go down and you can get back to sleep. I found smaller tube and ring combinations helped discourage night time erections, but really for me I think it was just time and practice. After about four or five weeks I found I was waking once in the night or sleeping through. That’s not too bad as sometimes I’ll wake once to pee when not caged.

    However, I never sleep as well when caged, the quality of sleep suffers, I don’t get as much deep sleep. I still sometimes sleep caged, but increasingly sleeping is supervised unlocked time.

    I did find sleeping in a full belt much more comfortable and have ordered a new one.
     
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    In my experience, this usually means I need to pee.

    If it is the same thing I have experienced, then there is a trick for some immediate pain relief,
    Tell your sub to try wrapping his hand around his cage, with his thumb on top.
    Then with one finger, press up on the skin right next to the ring under his scrotum.
    The idea is to break the seal between ring and skin.
    Then hold that for several seconds until the pain goes away.

    I hope that helps
     
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    Agree also with @Alana 's advice as well!
     
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    All good advice. I find that the longer I’m in without release, as in caged, not even a cleaning release, it gets easier.
     
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    The peeing trick works.. me too.. i usually refrain from drinking after 8pm.. its bad for the bladder to hold up urination too much during sleep anyway.. i sleep at 10 while wife is still busy with paperwork…i mostly will auto wake up before 12am for a good release.. Yes, the pain at the bottom of the ring is common.. run a layer of lotion on the scrotum beneath the ring.. Overtime the body treats the device as part of it.. the penis will unerect upon learning of being restricted.. a new neuron pathway is linked up in disabling any unsuccessful erection.. at this moment you may not want to chemically alter your boy…
     
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    It's simple male biology that's evolved in a peculiar way.
    When you're erect, it's nearly impossible to pee.
    When you try to pee, especially with a full bladder, if you have an erection it will rapidly subside.
    When your bladder fills during the night, a nocturnal erection is an additional aid to not peeing in your sleep. Whether you refrain from drinking before going to bed or not, the solution if you get pain from a nocturnal erection is to go and pee.

    After having a pee, you'll no longer be erect and should find it easy to get back to sleep, it won't disturb you again that night.

    Not drinking prior to bedtime works for some. I prefer staying hydrated, I often have to get up to pee whether having an erection or not (the latter case being much more often) so getting up to pee is no big deal for me.
     
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    Good advice from many... I agree smaller generally better to prevent erection starting... Also if he is keeping you from sleeping maybe he needs to sleep elswhere when having issues.
     
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    I also agree that urintating should help, that after all is the reason for nocturnal erections.
     
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