I do not wear a chastity device because my wife think they are to strange and she is disgusted at the thought of a male chastity device so I am trying to go down the road with stopping masturbating and this is what I have found so far. The problem with the male masturbating in the marriage is that he never has to learn the art of how to please someone else, why should he when all he need to do when he has a sexual urge is to relive himself. He will never have to work to get sex in the marriage. For I can only speak for myself, I have giving up masturbating and I find that I am after lowering my sex drive, for this was my primary objective and I think on that level I think it have worked, and I do find that I am nicer to my wife. There is another reason why a person who is married not to masturbate and that is since you are not always thinking of you partner could this be viewed as having an affair, even if only in thought and not in actual body. What is written here is not based on fact but on my own personal opinion I would love to read other people opinion.
I was in the same situation as you about a year ago. I was a chronic masturbator and I would self pleasure multiple times a day. It got to the point where even though I love my wife very much and she is my best friend I was feeling very disconnected from her and wasn't paying the kind of attention to her she deserved. The porn I was looking at was getting pretty hardcore in order to even excite me anymore and my self pleasure was to often that it was killing our intimacy because I was not often in the mood to pleasure her. So i asked my mistress to lock me up. It was about two weeks before she finally said yes to locking be up but it was a lot for her to swallow at first with me actually wanting my cocked locked in a little cage. I think what helped me was the fact that I just flat out admitted to her that I didn't want to mastubate anymore or watch porn. She also told me she felt porn and masturbating was a form of cheating and she was very disappointed in me and it needed to stop. Once we agreed that chastity was for me I bought a Holy Trainer device which was a mistake. Not only did I have constant fitting issues with it, my mistress hated the way it looked and found it to be a big turnoff. She didn't like to see it on me because it's such an unattractive device. About four months later I purchased a knockoff of the Steelworxx Looker 02 because I couldn't stand the fit issues with the Holy Trainer. Turns out it was the best thing that could've happened because once my mistress saw my locked cock in a steel device she found it very attractive and likes to see my cock behind its bars. So long story not so short I would recommend a book on Amazon called Male Chastity by Lucy Fairbourn. It's a good read for women who want to possibly embark down the road of MC but it cuts a lot of the fantasy stuff out and it explains pros and cons of MC from a female perspective. If you can convince your wife that a physical chastity device is right for you make sure she picks one out with you and you have her approval. Also don't show her this forum or anything from the Internet regarding male chastity until she's more game for it. There is a lot of BS on here that many new key holders may find a big turnoff and never look back. If you want an easy place to get good info and you don't want her to see all the sissy and crossdresser stuff on this site you should check out www.chastityforums.com. It's pretty down to earth and if your wife so chooses it has a special forum for key holders also. Hope this helps, good luck!
If you want the answer with no BS then just leave your boy bits alone they are not toys . :spank: Debatable if CM or the other site you suggest has more fact than fiction . However I do know for definite a lot more people think CM is the better resource for the lifestyle Xx Wendy
I agree with you that CM is definitely a much better place for the lifestyle. That is why I spend my time on this site, I like the diversity. I think for beginners who are trying to introduce their KH's to chastity might find the more blandness of Chastity Forums a little easier introduction. Especially if the potential KH is of a more conservative nature. Also, and I have yet to know if CM has this but Chastity Forums has a special forum just for KH's where the men can't interfere and they can receive female input only. So by no means am I knocking the mansion. I love this site and i think there are a lot of great people here as well as at chastity mansion. In fact I'm sure a lot of us are members of both.
We did try a "KH only "but very underused . As has been said on another thread I think, the policing that goes with it , is just not worth going back to that one. Way to many who can who can't issues. . Xx Wendy
When i was approached by my deeply beloved gently assertive glorious GODDESS years ago, the very FIRST RULE i was COMMANDED by my GODDESS was the MASTURBATION DENIAL FOREVER ! i am ONLY allowed to PERFORM for my GODDESS and her Audience.