Still trying!

That can definitely happen I would bet dollars to donuts it is a hyper majority. Communication of needs is key; however, some things are deal breakers for some. At that point, one has to ask what is more important. If one is honest and true, and it is still a no. One can ask why and ask what else can we do to meet my need since a core need of mine isn't being met.

 

It is the same question vanilla women ask when giving sex they don't want.

 

Women in general are with guys because they are strong and decisive in action (without being toxic).

Being timid is a turnoff. As such, if an empasse happens, then an option would be honey is there anything you wanted added to the list I provided because I am adding a self locking option once the list is done.

I would get a timer lock at that point, self lock, put the key in and say ... Done.

Care has to be taken not to be a dick and to not top from the bottom, but if you are locked a fun response would to do tease and denial on her in return. Women like to test and to challenge the relationship, and if you do the tease say within 24 hours of lockup you can then tease and say ... Well it is like when we were dating ... Anticipation of sex is a great thing isnt it.

If she goes toxic, then stop and communicate, but be firm but kind.

 

True or not, I’ve yet to hear that a female enjoyed hearing that in order to behave like a good attentive husband that they needed to be sexually frustrated and horny. It immediately flips the bullshit switch and begs the question...why do you need your dick locked up to act that way? I wouldn’t even mention it, it’s something she will probably figure out on her own whether you like it or not.

I usually advise husbands to use...wait for it.... ask her to help you. You are having a terrible time focusing on what’s important, you can’t help touching yourself every day, and want her to help you with that. You want her to take control of that aspect of your life. Ask her for a trial period of a few months, and at the end of that she can see if it is something she would like to continue. She will get to notice whatever benefits on her own.

If asking a straight out favor is out of her wheelhouse, and it really turns her off, I’m not really sure if her locking your cock up is going to happen.

Best of luck

 

Congratulations, @Bonobo . Hope you'll share how it goes when she gets it.

 

This is basically the approach I’m using and in the middle of. Second try at chastity; first was met with anger and annoyance; this met with somewhat indifference. But it’s an improvement.
We shall see

 

Thanks I will keep everyone updated.

 

Dear Design is me!
I faced a similar situation with my KH/ wife not interested/ willing to participate in me beeing locked.
Altough they percieve you beeing nicer while locked, they see apparently no reason why you can''t perform the same without the device.
I would recommend a some riskier way for achieving your goal.
During your everyday conversations something must surge that would make her very angry and she could tell you:" if that happens, I would leave you one year without sex,.. or something similar...
When that happens, you must introduce the alternative of the chastity device....
and wait for your opportunity and enjoy your sentence....
After beeing pampered for an extended period I can assure you, your device will never come off again...lol
Harvest on what you have shared in the forum ,that your wife considered the chastity device as a punishment.

 

You're just going to have to be strong for her! Have you tried to explain how by locking you, she could help with your masturbation habits?

 

Design on me sounds like she won. She owns you even without being in chastity. You beg, plead, say anything to be caged again she says she'll think about. Then give you orders and task to please her. And you march to please her. No cage needed SHE OWN YOU ! ! Submit . The cage is her secret weapon. She dangles the thought of you being locked up again and never does. She gets all her desires and fantasies fulfilled. And you will never see that cage again. Yep she won

 

No, no, no.
Let's leave the lying and cheating and sneaking to vanilla couples.
Without honesty and frankness, there cannot be any FLR.